Loving yourself and loving your children is actually not in conflict.
We who live in modern society have to play a different role every day. We are daughters, mothers, employees, leaders, service providers and those who are served.
People who are not energetic will really be overwhelmed. Very few people can do it, and the transition is easy.
Every day I do something I don't want to do but I have to do.
Don't want to get up early, don't want to make breakfast, don't want to send children to school, don't want to go to work, go to work during the day and be intimidated by the boss, be intimidated by the boss, be intimidated by party A, it's easy to survive the day, after going home, you have to tutor your child's homework, and you have to cultivate a parent-child relationship with your child...
These things husband is in, but it is okay, the pressure will be much less.
In some divorced families, if the child talks to the mother, the pressure on the mother will be much greater.
Some people say that women should accompany their children at home, and if the mother goes out to work, the child will lack companionship in the growth, which is not conducive to the cultivation of a good parent-child relationship.
This is typical: standing and talking does not hurt.
There are some divorced mothers who raise their children alone, and it is difficult to be able to grow up with their children at home wholeheartedly.
After all, life needs chai rice oil and salt!
In another good relationship, you must first love yourself and then love others. This other person, of course, includes one's own children.
Going around the child all day doesn't necessarily get the child's understanding.
Children see that their classmates' parents have their own careers, and when their parents stay at home every day, they will not understand the parents' hardships. What's more, the "good for you" in the mouth of many parents is more for the sake of their parents' own interests.
There has even been a discussion of "how much harm to the child is to the sacrificial parent"
Sacrificial parents are actually complaining to their children all day, "If it weren't for you, I would have been xxxxx"
There is no more expression of love for the child, more complaining about the child, and regretting the time you have lost for the child.
Excessive child-centeredness may also become such "sacrificial parents" in the future. The occurrence of this situation will not be conducive to the development of a good parent-child relationship, and even affect the relationship between each other.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Secretary Zhang of Orangutan Village
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