Parents play a very important role in the education of children, and mothers and fathers, play a more important role in children's education, children when they are young like to stick to their mothers, fathers are often busy with work, and they may care less about their children.
The child's education is more about the mother, not necessarily all mothers can teach the child well, the mother's behavior will affect the child's future, the mother who loves to do these two things, it is easy to develop filial piety.
What are these two things?
First, spoil the child and do not let the child do housework
Really a full-time mother, after giving birth to a child, she quit her job to take care of the child at home, her in-laws care about this big grandson very much, holding it in her hand for fear of falling, holding it in her mouth for fear of melting, really under the influence of her in-laws, she is also spoiled for her son, when she was a child, the child wanted to watch TV, really accompanied the child to watch, the child beat the grandparents, she also laughed and praised her son is awesome.
The child grows up slowly, really do not let the child do any housework, every time the child wants to learn to do, the real will say: Baby, the housework is not what you do, you go to watch TV, the child went to high school, far from home, really rent a house for the son to accompany the study, until the child graduates from college, the real focus of life has always been the son.
True son will not do any housework, for the mother to take care of him, he also feels that it is a matter of course, not at all grateful to the mother, after work, he talked about a girlfriend, the two entered the palace of marriage, after marriage the two lived together, the woman hated him can not cook, will not do housework, do anything to be served, a long time, the woman can not stand it, proposed a divorce.
After the divorce, the son put all the responsibility on the mother, he felt that the mother ruined him, because the mother did not let him do housework caused him to do nothing, led to his divorce, he scolded his mother at home all day, really there are words of suffering, wash his face with tears all day, a good child, just ruined.
Parental doting will only make children become unable to take care of themselves, become selfish and do not take care of the feelings of others, without their parents, they will not do anything, even their own family he can not support, drag the family with their mouths to let their parents raise, they will not be grateful to their parents, feel that everything their parents do is taken for granted, and will not be filial to their parents, and even blame their parents if something goes wrong.
Second, the mother is strong and domineering
Xiaohui's mother is a strong woman, Xiaohui's father is a famous wife strict, his mother is very strict with Xiaohui, and has high requirements for his grades, every time Xiaohui's grades regress, his mother will give him a make-up class and let him do his homework.
Sometimes on Saturdays Xiaohui wants to go out with his friends, his mother will refuse his request and let him write his homework at home, Xiaohui because his mother has released his friends several times, many children are reluctant to play with him.
His mother's strict pressure made him breathless, he began to become rebellious, deliberately working against his mother, what his mother asked him to do, he did not do it, and his mother was very angry.
We can understand the psychology of mothers loving children, but strong domineering will arouse the child's rebellious psychology, and the mother should use gentleness to influence the child, rather than the strong hegemony to make the child become rebellious, and sometimes the mother's strong domineering will also lead to the child's psychological problems.
How should mothers raise filial children?
First, let the child do housework
The UK has surveyed 4,000 housewives and the results show that they can earn nearly £30,000 a year for their household chores, which is much higher than the per capita income in the UK.
Mothers have a lot of housework to do every year, and this amount is worthy of every child's gratitude, mothers should let children do more housework, understand the mother's not easy, tell children, no one has the obligation to serve you, the starting point of everything is because of love, let children learn to appreciate their parents, so that children will be filial piety in the future.
Second, mothers should lead by example
Parents' example is a good way to cultivate children's filial piety, if parents are not filial to the elderly, children may also learn from their parents' practices, there was a story: parents put their elderly grandmothers in bamboo baskets ready to throw up the mountain, children tell parents, wait until you are old, I also treat you like this, parents' behavior will affect children, parents must lead by example, filial piety to elders on weekdays, to make a good example for children.
Third, become friends with your children
Mothers should not always treat their children with a preachy attitude, communicate with their children as friends, understand the children's inner thoughts, what the child wants, respect the child's inner thoughts, do not bind the child with their own ideas, and let the child feel the love and warmth from the mother.
Mothers use their own ideas to bind their children, strongly discipline children, spoil children may cause defects in children's personality, children are not filial to their parents, or children have inferiority and so on.
The child's good character can promote the development of children, whether in work or study, parents must pay attention to cultivate the child's character, promote the future development of the child, and use their love to truly achieve the child.