The mother-in-law pays attention to the inheritance of family incense, and the daughter-in-law is the tool to give birth to the child in the eyes of the mother-in-law. You love your son because you are the mother of your son, and you naturally treat your child like a baby. And your daughter-in-law, although not your child, but she is also someone else's precious daughter, you treat her so badly, how sad should other people's mothers be.
Your daughter-in-law will also be your grandson's mother, and you will be good to your daughter-in-law and to your grandson. Don't always treat your daughter-in-law as an outsider, it will only bring pain to yourself, you love your son, your son loves your daughter-in-law, then you should be more good to your daughter-in-law!
1. Confinement mother-in-law does not take care of me
Zeng Jing and Ye Ze were married for two years before having children, and Zeng Jing originally wanted to have a child a little later, but her mother-in-law was chanting in her ear every day, "When can I hold my grandson, those old aunts next door are holding a second child." ”
Ye Ze sometimes persuaded Zeng Jing that they should also have a child, and while the mother-in-law was still young and had the energy to have one, the mother-in-law could also help them with the child. For this, Zeng Jing felt that it was okay, there was indeed someone to help with the child, and it would be a little easier, so she had a child in that year.
When she was confined, her mother-in-law did not take much care of her at all, even if she gave birth to a son in the first child, her mother-in-law's attitude towards herself did not change much, and she only took care of the child. When the mother-in-law took the child out for a walk, Zeng Jing was at home alone, because it was a caesarean section, the wound recovery was not so fast, and no one agreed when she called the mother-in-law in the room. I didn't expect that the original saying that someone with a child was really just taking the child, leaving the mother alone in the room, and no one took care of it.
Ye Ze is at work again, and can only come back every day after work to take care of Zeng Jing, but the good thing is that Ye Ze will bring some fruits and cakes to Zeng Jing, all of which Zeng Jing likes to eat.
"Mom, can you pour me a cup of hot water for me to drink?"
"You come out and pour water to drink, it is not convenient for me to take the child, and I have no time to pour water for you."
"My wound hurts, I can't get out of bed, Mom, you just pour me a little bit and put the baby in the crib."
"Does it hurt so much, I didn't have as much trouble as you when I had a baby, and when I was out of confinement, I would go to work in the field and pour a glass of water myself."
Zeng Jing knew that it was useless to talk more, this mother-in-law was really selfish, wanted to hold her grandson, used her daughter-in-law as a fertility tool, the child was born to her, people did not take care of her, if it were not for Ye Ze in front of Zeng Jing, she would have gotten into trouble with her mother-in-law long ago, and would she still need to be so humble. Anyway, if Zeng Jing had a second child after that, it was absolutely impossible, and the mother-in-law did not treat herself as a family member at all, but only as a tool to give birth to a grandchild.
2. The sister-in-law has given birth to a second child
Zeng Jing went back to work after the confinement, anyway, since the mother-in-law is willing to take the child, then let him take it, every day at home to see the mother-in-law is upset. Zeng Jing said that she was going to work in the company, and her mother-in-law still strongly opposed it.
"I disagree, this child is only a full moon, you have to go to work, what to do if the child is hungry, now eating breast milk is the best, so small it is impossible to eat milk powder,"
"I'll suck my breast milk out and stay at home, I won't starve your grandchildren."
"That's not okay, that's not fresh, it's not good to eat."
"What's not new, it's all squeezed out of my body."
"Why don't you wait for your child to be one year old before you can go out to work?"
"That's not okay, Mom, you don't have to say it again, I've already decided, you take care of the child yourself!"
The mother-in-law said that Zeng Jing did not say anything more, but would blow the wind in Ye Ze's ear: "Your daughter-in-law wants to go crazy if she wants money, and the children go to work without taking care of them." ”
"Mom, don't you say that, what she wants to do is her freedom, you just have to take the child with you."
"Just protect her, I see that you have been poured with ecstasy soup by her."
"Mom, that's my daughter-in-law, can I not protect her, she married into our family, only me, her parents are not around, you don't have to be so angry with her in the future, people are not wrong." 」
"You mean it's all my fault, I'm your mother, you don't turn to me, net help outsiders."
"Mom, I'm going to talk about you, what is an outsider, she's my daughter-in-law, she's my person, if you treat her as an outsider, that's your son as an outsider."
"All right, I can't talk to you. One thing I want to tell you, your sister is pregnant, next year your sister is going to have a second child, and when the time comes, you will have time to go with me to see your sister. ”
"It's not too early, you can tell me when the time comes."
Time passed unconsciously, and soon it was the birth day of Ye Ze's sister. On the day of childbirth, He dragged Zeng Jing, Ye Ze and the child together to guard the door of the delivery room. When Zeng Jing gave birth to a child, he did not see his mother-in-law so actively taking his sister-in-law to see himself, and even when he gave birth to a child, his sister-in-law did not say to take a look, and the mother-in-law did not say anything. Today, just to have a child, I pulled a large family to guard, it seems that the daughter-in-law has no daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law has not really treated the daughter-in-law as a family.
3. When will you have a second child?
The sister-in-law's mother-in-law treats the sister-in-law like a mother-in-law, during the confinement period, busy and busy, will take the initiative to ask the sister-in-law what she wants to eat, as long as it is during the confinement period, it will be prepared for the sister-in-law. Zeng Jing went to the sister-in-law's in-law's house as a guest, and also saw with her own eyes how the sister-in-law's mother-in-law treated the sister-in-law. Anyway, the sister-in-law's mother-in-law and her own mother-in-law camera are simply two opposites.
The sister-in-law's mother-in-law is very enthusiastic, and she is also very enthusiastic about Zeng Jing, and will also greet Zeng Jing whether there is any discomfort after giving birth to a child, if it is her own mother-in-law, she will not ask these questions at all, and will only care about whether her grandson has enough to eat.
"Auntie, I'm in good health, self-reliant, well fed and well-fed."
"It's good not to fall ill, otherwise it's not good to be old, this woman, confinement is very important."
"What's wrong with that, she ate well during confinement and didn't let her do anything." The mother-in-law rushed over to say that she did not expose her lies.
Later, after leaving the sister-in-law's in-law's house and returning to her own home, the mother-in-law began to speak in a yin and yang strange way: "What did you mean by those words just said in front of my own mother, did I not give you good food?" ”
"Mom, I don't mean that, and you really don't take much care of me, you know."
"You... Forget it, I won't tell you about it. ”
"Daughter-in-law, my daughter has given birth to a second child, what about you?"
"People have mothers-in-law, but what about me?" Zeng Jing paused for a moment and then said: "I don't want to suffer any more sins, when I give birth, I have to cook for myself, pour water and drink, no one cares, Mom, you should know how I am a confinement, and your daughter is how to make a confinement." "The mother-in-law shut up, and she was a little weak-hearted, and didn't say anything." Zeng Jing sneered, not expecting that her mother-in-law also knew that she was wrong, and knew that she did not take good care of her daughter-in-law's confinement.
"Mom, forget about the second child, your grandson is still young, or take your grandson well."
4. I didn't give, I wanted to take it
As we all know, there is no pay, where the return comes. Instead of experiencing pain yourself, let others experience it without restriction. The mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to have a second child, but she does not take care of her daughter-in-law's confinement, so since she does not get any care, why do she still cause trouble for herself.
If you want others to do things for you willingly, the premise is that you want to show the other party the benefits of doing this. If you can't commit, don't force others to do things you don't want to do.
As a family, we should live in harmony. You love your grandson, then your grandson's mother should also love her, love Ya and Wu. To pay for the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law will be willing to pay for you, and the family can coexist peacefully.