Why can't the mother-in-law learn to shut up?

Because of the quarrel with her mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law committed suicide by throwing her son for more than two months into the river.

When I saw this news, I burst into tears.

Because my baby was also the age of breastfeeding in her arms, it hurt to think of the lady listening to her mother-in-law's gossip, the idea of taking a life, and the struggle to walk to the river.

Regardless of what complicated factors are behind this news, just to say that after a woman gives birth, due to the rapid decline in hormones in the body and the fatigue of the baby, it is easy to cause depression, which should be known to everyone, not to mention the mother-in-law who came from that stage.

However, the mother-in-law is very forgetful.

No, no, no, it's not that they're forgetful, it's that they're self-righteous.

"In our time..." "You eat more to get milk!" "Don't you have enough milk?" "You eat this baby prone to rashes"...

I can't say absolutely that mothers-in-law are like this, but I believe that most mothers-in-law have said such things.

Personal feelings: Hearing these words, my heart is super annoyed.

Tell me about myself.

During pregnancy, the physiological reactions of nausea and fatigue needless to say, the most terrible thing is that the mood is depressed and depressed, and the idea of "life is not interesting" will flood from the bottom of your heart.

The pain of the birth process can only be truly experienced by those who have experienced it. I went from labor pain to delivery, which took me 40 hours. From one finger to ten fingers, that process is really a hundred calculations, and the long labor process leads to heart collapse and despair.

After childbirth, it is by no means what people say "unloading is easy", first of all, the pain of the wound, the pain of the wound is not so prominent, the back pain becomes obvious, and then the breastfeeding pain. Until now, there was not a single part of my hand joints, wrist joints, popliteal sockets, and on both sides of my thighs that was not painful.

And the baby's crying, night milk did not sleep, postpartum body delay in recovery, no time to take care of themselves and other situations intertwined, the whole person's spirit is on the verge of collapse.

Can you imagine how harsh the mother-in-law's unfriendly voices would be when confronted with all kinds of pain and tightened to prevent psychological breakdowns?

Mother-in-law, you are not a mother, you can't be as distressed as your mother," everyone can understand, you can't do it and don't force it, and your daughter-in-law doesn't have expectations for this, but at least you can do one thing: just shut your mouth!

Now is the present, not your time; spend your nagging time on scientific parenting, to understand whether the mother's food will affect breast milk; to understand one thing, the child is born by the daughter-in-law herself, more worried about his safety and health than anyone else, and only when the mother is in a good mood, the baby has a more comfortable living environment.

After I gave birth, I talked to my own mother about the role of "mother-in-law", because my mother will also be a mother-in-law in the future, and I reminded her that in the future, when my daughter-in-law gives birth to a baby, you must be a smart mother-in-law. On how to feed them when they ask for help from you, you can tell them, when they don't need it, to respect them in their own way.