What kind of disgusting mother-in-law have you ever met?

I was a doctor in the obstetrics and gynecology department, and I had seen too many disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and I was already rock-solid, but Aijiajia's mother-in-law was still disgusting to me.

Ai Jiajia gave birth to two children in five years, both of whom are daughters. The third pregnancy, the mother-in-law directly let the words, let Ai Jiajia go to check the gender, is the daughter to beat off, so as not to waste time. He also said that if he could not regenerate his son, he would give up the position of "main room".

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"Dr. Huang, this time I bought it online, the evaluation is not good (high praise rate), you can show me again?" 」 I was looking down to sort out the case, and as soon as I heard the voice, I knew that it was Ai Jiajia who entered the clinic.

I sighed silently in my heart.

We have known each other for four or five years, before I delivered her second child, she has been running the hospital for several years, and she has hung up my number.

Ai Jiajia is 28 years old this year, but she looks at least 35 years old. It was just the beginning of November, it was the late autumn of Jiangsu, Zhejiang and Shanghai, and the average person had at most a thick coat or coat, and she had already put on a thick cotton jacket and wrapped in a cashmere scarf.

Seeing my surprised expression, she hurriedly said, just keep warm, women can't get cold the most. When she finished, she pulled out a transparent jar from her bag, which contained individual vacuum-packed pills, each the size of a hawthorn.

I knew that nine times out of ten it was another pill that she didn't know where she got it.

This isn't the first time she's come to me with something like this.

She has two daughters, still bent on a son, and was pregnant before, checked the sex of the fetus, and had two consecutive abortions.

After the last pregnancy and fetal cessation, every time she came to me, she carried various colors and inexplicable pills or powders, and asked me to check her off to see if she could eat them.

She had brought colorful plastic vials with words such as "fresh breath" and "fruit candy" printed on the bottle, as well as different flavors. The bottle opened, and inside was a pile of white pills that looked extremely rough. The instructions for sanwu read: Transfusion pills, a bottle of a total of 60 capsules, starting from the second month of pregnancy, eat 2 tablets a day, you can convert the female fetus into a male fetus.

Ai Jiajia is a college graduate, understand these things, I bitterly persuaded, she threw away the medicines.

Didn't think about it, she didn't have a dead heart, she felt that she just didn't find the right store, three days and two ends with the newly bought transcarnatal pills to show me, I expected me to tell her that a certain family is a qualified miracle drug, eat it can give birth to a boy.

She took out a pamphlet with a little joy, saying that this is recommended by the online focus map, which is the unique secret recipe of the Chinese medicine family, which can adjust the PH value of the female body and help pregnant women adjust their alkaline constitution.

Subsequently, he took out his mobile phone in a serious manner and opened the screenshot: "There is a foreign book "Baby Sex Selection" that says that sperm containing Y chromosomes in an alkaline environment are more active, it is easier to give priority to fertilization, and it is more likely to conceive boys."

"Dr. Huang, can I get pregnant with a boy after eating it?!" AiJiajia grabbed my cuff and asked.

Her hollow eyes stared straight at me—desperate and fanatical, like a red-eyed gambler.

She wanted to give birth to a boy and wanted to go crazy.

The reason why Ai Jiajia is so obsessed with studying the reincarnation pill has to start from her in-laws.

She and her husband are both natives of Zhejiang, and her husband's family is relatively well-off, and he is the only son in the family. Ai Jiajia had just graduated from college at that time, looked small and exquisite, had a good face, and worked locally, and was introduced to her son by others, and she was introduced to her son by the old lady.

However, she did not know at the time that her husband talked about a foreign girlfriend when he was in college in Hangzhou, and he let the old lady stir up the yellow.

Locals do not like to find foreigners to marry, especially the man, looking for a daughter-in-law from abroad will be considered by relatives and friends as not out of the ordinary. And the local marrying daughter is also very expensive, the man takes 500,000 dowry, the woman has to return 1 million, but also to buy an additional car or something, pay attention to the dowry to suppress the in-laws, and will not be looked down upon by the in-laws in the future.

Ai Jiajia's family conditions are average, the first two sisters, and the bottom is an unmarried brother. In order to quickly get her son married, the old lady told Tang Yueyue's parents that the dowry didn't matter, but she wanted to give birth to a boy for our family. For the Aijia family, it was simply a pie that fell from the sky, and they immediately agreed.

Ai Jiajia always said that when she got married, her in-laws were very tolerant and did not give up so much dowry, "I still have a younger brother, I have to consider him." When I give birth to a son, my position in the in-laws' family will be stable, and when my brother gets married, I will pay for it if I can, and I will pay for it if I can."

In this way, Ai Jiajia gave birth to two children in five years, both of which are daughters. The third pregnancy, the mother-in-law directly let the words, let Ai Jiajia go to check the gender, is the daughter to beat off, so as not to waste time.

Ai Jiajia did not dare to rebel, obediently obeyed, and beat up two children in a row.

And her husband, who has a very low sense of existence, works in Hangzhou and only comes back once a week. When I come back, I grab a mobile phone, stare at the screen, don't say a word, and look like I am out of the matter.

Ai Jiajia said that she had a child and shed tears, and her husband coldly replied: "It was not your family that promised it in the first place, you just listened to your mother."

Ai Jiajia had to swallow all the bitter water into her stomach.

Once, when the eldest daughter came back from kindergarten and said that she was hungry, the mother-in-law asked the aunt of the family to cook the leftovers from the previous night back to the pot for the children to eat. The aunt couldn't bear it and said, "No, the child will eat a bad stomach..."

"What if you can't eat well?" Is a girl so expensive?" The mother-in-law's tone was arrogant.

Ai Jiajia came back from outside and heard these words, and her heart was cold.

She vaguely felt that there was something in her mother-in-law's words, coupled with the reduction in the number of times her husband returned home, she never worried about family affairs, and never talked to her, and the same room was like doing a task, Ai Jiajia couldn't help but guess: Will there be someone outside her husband? But she had no evidence, nor did she dare to make trouble, and could only desperately suppress herself.

At the beginning of this year, Ai Jiajia became pregnant again, but by 11 weeks, she began to have vaginal bleeding. She rushed to the hospital to find me, and the results of the examination showed that the embryos stopped developing at 8 weeks of pregnancy.

After knowing the results, Ai Jiajia cried very sadly: "I pay attention to the body, my husband is in good health, there is no genetic history at home, how can the child stop developing?" 」

I explained that there are many influencing factors, such as environment, food, sperm quality, maternal factors, and so on, and the specific reasons are difficult to find.

But I knew in my heart that Ai Jiajia's body continued to toss like this, whether she could get pregnant or not, whether she could keep her pregnancy was a question. But seeing her crying so sadly, I comforted her that she might be eliminated by nature because of the poor quality of the embryos, and there was still a chance after raising her body.

Because she did not give birth to a son, Ai Jiajia sat like a needle in her in-laws' house and was worried all the time.

Someone gave her an idea: "There are eggs sold on the Internet, you can transfer the sex of the fetus, it is said that it is very smart, invalid refund, you can try." 」

She was moved, idle and chatted with her college roommate Li Min about this matter, it happened that Li Min was secretly selling this kind of reincarnation pill for her son, and the business was doing well.

"Tell you this, before 8 women came to me to buy, the 7 who bought them all gave birth to sons, but the one who did not buy them gave birth to a daughter, and now they are chasing me every day." 」 Li Min had a proud tone.

"Will it really be useful?" Ai Jiajia was eager to try and asked carefully.

"We've lived together for four years, who can lie to you?" Rest assured, it is not the son who refunds the full amount. If you have a son, you will also promote it for me, and you all like boys there." Li Min returned to her.

Although there were doubts, but thinking of her mother-in-law's words and her husband's attitude, Ai Jiajia decided to take the risk, and her heart was crossed, looking for Li Min to place an order, and plunged into the dead end of the study of transcarniation pills.

As an obstetrician-gynecologist, I've heard rumors of the secret recipe for giving birth to a man and the like, but it's also the first time I've seen it in reality.

I can't find this thing in the medical literature at all, and there is no drug production batch number, I only found some relevant news reports and anti-counterfeiting videos on the Internet, summarizing two main types:

The first category, making money is not harmful, in fact, it is vitamin tablets or glutinous rice flour pills, declaring invalid refunds, although the refund rate is as high as 50%, but it cannot stop the base number, and 50% can be earned.

The second category is a large dose of androgen - methyltestosterone. That's what really hurts people.

If you are pregnant with a female fetus, you will make the external genitalia masculine, such as a thick clitoris. Especially in the first trimester, the genitourinary system of the fetus is not yet fully developed, there may be penile formation, labia hypertrophy, like the scrotum without testicles, covering the urethra and vaginal opening, and may also be accompanied by urinary malformations. And if you happen to be pregnant with a male fetus, taking a large number of such drugs will also have a high probability of disabling, teratogenic and even miscarriage of the fetus.

It turns out that it is impossible for a transmoter to change the sex of the fetus, but the tragedy always cannot stop.

For example, the YY people who have been reported in the news are medically called female pseudo-gender deformities. This deformity is due to excessive exposure to androgens during embryonic development, resulting in abnormal development of the female fetal reproductive organs. Those folk-passed birth pills have been exposed to androgens containing a lot of methyltestosterone.

When I was a physician assistant in a provincial hospital, I encountered such examples.

A pregnant woman in Jiangxi really gave birth to a boy after taking a birth pill, although the child's reproductive organs were not obviously developed, and the family insisted on raising the child as a boy. In junior high school, the child went to the pediatric department because of the unbearable pain in the lower abdomen, and it was found that there was still a mutilated uterus, a fallopian tube and a normally developed ovaries. Abdominal pain is because the endometrium is basically normal, after menstruation, there is no vagina, blood accumulates in the uterus, and even flows backwards to the fallopian tubes.

At that time, this case was quite special, and the obstetrics and gynecology department of the whole hospital met together to discuss, and finally the chief doctor suggested that they do vaginal plastic surgery to restore the child's daughter.

Because the ovaries are normal, the endometrium is also normal, and there is a possibility of pregnancy, it is still possible to marry and have children normally in the future. Unexpectedly, the child's parents strongly opposed it, saying that they would return to their hometown when they were incurable, preferring a disabled son rather than a normal daughter.

A few months later, it was the child again, taken by ambulance to the emergency department, due to uterine rupture and heavy bleeding.

A question, it turned out that in these months, parents did not know where to get the formula, to the child to eat a variety of hormone-containing Chinese medicine and health care products, resulting in amenorrhea for several months, suddenly menstruation directly broke the mutilated uterus.

The outcome is very sad: the child needs to remove the uterus immediately, otherwise no amount of blood will help. Children do not have testicles, they could not have been fathers, and now that the womb is gone, they cannot be mothers.

When Ai Jiajia came to me with the transsexual pill again, I did not angrily rebuke her for her superstition, but patiently explained to her that there is no such concept as alkaline constitution and acidic constitution in medicine.

Normally, any food containing acid (such as carbonic acid in Cola) or alkali (such as edible alkali), after digestion and metabolism of the human body, will not affect the body's PH value, at most it is to change the pH of urine. If it is really going to be alkaline, people will have problems. And that won't do anything to give birth to a boy.

Ai Jiajia didn't say a word, and her face became more and more ugly.

Looking at her like this, I suddenly felt unusually tired. I have a medical skill, but I can't help this woman who is not sick.

After a few more months, spring began, and Ai Jiajia came to me. She was wearing a chiffon slim dress, her limbs were still slender, only her lower abdomen was obviously bulging, and she looked like she should be about three or four months pregnant.

"Dr. Huang, I'm here to file for a maternity check-up." She said with a grin.

"Huh?" Congratulations. Come, sit down." I opened a checklist for Ai Jiajia, and while I was happy for this mother-to-be, I was beating drums in my heart, afraid that she would find some evil formula again.

There was nothing unusual about the test results, and my hanging heart was put down.

But my heart was released too early, Ai Jiajia was pregnant with this fetus after eating the transcarriage pill!

Within two months, Ai Jiajia suddenly called me, crying bitterly and saying, "Dr. Huang, I'm almost six months now, what to do, if I want to be a girl again, I'm really desperate!" 」

It turned out that she was always unwilling, and then asked Li Min to buy a transsexual pill, ate it on time and in quantity, and then became pregnant.

She was full of joy, sure that she could have a boy this time!

Unexpectedly, Li Min later took the initiative to tell her that the medicine was fake, that is, ordinary vitamin tablets mixed with some glutinous rice flour and saccharin. Li Min herself was pregnant, and she didn't know what the pills given by those "masters" were, afraid that the lack of morality would be repaid to her children, so she changed all the medicines and did not do business.

At this point, Ai Jiajia completely broke down, and she didn't know whether she was pregnant with a boy or a girl.

I was a little relieved, fortunately she did not take the medicine indiscriminately, otherwise the child would suffer.

Ai Jiajia cried and hung up the phone, not saying what to do. She did not come back to the hospital for the next few days.

I messaged her to come to the maternity check-up regularly, and she replied to me with three words – I was scared.

It was as if the child in the belly held some kind of power of life and death.

I felt her helplessness and fear.

Ai Jiajia's second child was delivered by me. It took a full 29 hours from regular contraction to production.

According to the midwifery nurse, she weighed the child and wrapped it up and held it to Aijiajia's mother at the door of the delivery room: "The child is very good, it is a daughter."

Ai Jiajia's mother glanced at her mother, saw that her mother's face was ugly, and said with a strong smile: "Oh, um (girl) is also good, intimate little cotton jacket."

The mother didn't say a word, and the child didn't hold it, so she turned around and left.

That night, AiJiajia's husband did not even appear.

I saw Ai Jiajia again, and she was about to give up.

"The mother has begun to contract!" The nurse will pick it up here!" Lying on a flat cart with an infusion rack, Ai Jiajia was pushed to the entrance of the obstetrics department, her stomach was huge, her lower limbs were puffy, her face was miserable, and her cheeks were sunken.

After a series of examinations, the fetal monitoring suggests the presence of fetal distress, the child's double top diameter is 97, and overall, the fetal weight is at least 3.6 kg or more, while Aijiajia is only 154 cm tall.

In this case, we recommended a caesarean section, but her mother-in-law insisted on a smooth birth.

I finally saw her mother-in-law. The old lady was in her early 50s, dark-skinned and stout, stepping on a pair of fish-billed muffin sandals, revealing black socks, and her hair dyed dark black and combed into a bun. Speaking loudly, he was dressed in a floral dress, and at first glance he looked like a noisy parrot.

Seeing me come in, the old lady turned into a smile, grabbed my arm and almost put on my sleeve: "Doctor, is a normal birth better than a caesarean section?" How can this cut child compare with the melon ripe and fall, and cut it?"

To be honest, in the current medical community, each family has its own opinion on vaginal births and caesarean sections.

Under normal circumstances, doctors will promote natural delivery, reduce the risk of neonatal asphyxia, and the mother will recover relatively quickly.

But there are also times when things don't go well. Before a maternal pain lasted more than 40 hours, the child just could not be born, the doctor suggested switching to a caesarean section, but the maternal family did not agree. Eventually the woman gave birth to the baby, but the birth canal was severely torn, sutures were particularly difficult, and subsequent recovery was slow.

I said to the old lady, "The child is too big, and the maternal condition may still be better than a cesarean section."

Before the old lady could speak, a young man with glasses behind her spoke, "The newborn's head will be smarter after the birth canal." The children of several colleagues in Hangzhou are dissected, and now they are all in kindergarten, and the pinyin b and p are still indistinguishable, and I suspect that there is a problem with brain function..." The man who spoke was Tang Yueyue's husband.

The old lady's tone hardened after listening: "Not really." We're all for the good of our children, and you don't want to have a bad brain, do you?"

Next to them stood a pair of silent old couples, and at first glance they were gentle and good talkers. I guess it should be Ai Jiajia's parents, did not interject again, after the examination, they were ready to change into surgical gowns and enter the delivery room.

Ai Jiajia also knew that this fetus was expected to be difficult to give birth to, and discussed with her in-laws that she wanted to give birth painlessly. The old lady exploded again: "What do you say?" Still need to take anesthesia? This is not the first time you have had a child, just bear with it."

The nurse on the side couldn't bear to look at it and replied, "This is not something you can endure if you just say you can bear it, it depends on the condition of the mother."

The old lady gave the nurse a blank look and didn't squeak.

The operation was carried out for several hours, the child was too big, only a small half of the head came out, and Ai Jiajia's energy was gradually exhausted. There are two options at the moment, either to perform manual hand vaginal extension or to push the child back for a cesarean section. In either case, Ai Jiajia had to bear great pain in her body.

The midwifery nurse took out the surgical consent form and signed it for them, and the mother-in-law was not happy. The nurse couldn't bear it and told them that every second you are delaying now increases the risk of your child suffocation. In the end, AiJiajia's husband reluctantly signed.

More than two hours later, Tang Yueyue gave birth to a healthy boy of seven and a half pounds by caesarean section. The nurse wrapped up the child and carried it out to show the family, and we were in the delivery room, hearing the loud laughter of Aijiajia's mother-in-law. Ai Jiajia was extremely weak and repeated, "Boys are good, boys are good..."

At that moment, I couldn't say a word.

I thought ai jiajia could live a peaceful life, but I didn't expect her to be divorced.

The son is not yet one year old, and the mother-in-law wants to chase the boy again. But because it was a caesarean section, she had to wait at least two years before she could consider having a baby.

The old lady choked her with words all day long, and the meaning of the words was: "If you can't be born, you can give up the position of the main room."

She hadn't yet understood what a "main room" was. Later, I learned that her husband had already cheated on her girlfriend in college.

The husband settled another home in Hangzhou, and the girlfriend gave birth to twin girls not long after she gave birth to her son.

AiJiajia was completely dead hearted, and she decided to divorce.

The son who is waiting to be fed is the only boy in the family and the biggest weakness of the in-laws. The best revenge is to take away the son.

Because during breastfeeding, the custody of her son must be her. As for the other two daughters, Ai Jiajia considered that she did not have a job, and the court may not award her, but her husband certainly did not want to raise her daughter, and without her grandson, her mother-in-law was even more unlikely to be good to her daughter.

Thinking about it, she took all three of her children with her.

The mistreatment of the in-laws, the meaning of the marriage, the intransigence between the husband and the woman, Ai Jiajia did not want to ask any more questions.

What's more, looking at the mother-in-law's posture of chasing her son, the woman who gave birth to twin daughters may not be lucky enough to go anywhere, but it is just the next walking womb.

The first half of her mournful life was over, and the woman's sorrow had only just begun.