The netizen letter said:
I am a particularly unconstrained person, easily influenced by those around me. Including my breakup with my ex-boyfriend, it was also persuaded by my girlfriend to finally take shape. In fact, after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend, I regretted it, because of the face problem, I did not get my ex back in time.
Later, when I learned that my girlfriend was frantically pursuing my ex-boyfriend, I realized that I was very wrong. Because of this incident, I completely turned my face with my girlfriend, and I didn't want my girlfriend to succeed, I used to like my ex-boyfriend very much and began to stir up their feelings, but I didn't succeed. The ex-boyfriend said so, I also know that your girlfriend is deliberately destroying our feelings, but you still credulously believe your girlfriend's incitement. The reason why she is pursuing me likes me likes me so much now. Faced with my ex-boyfriend's rejection of my compound request, I really couldn't find a place to cry.
More than a year after I broke up with my ex-boyfriend, my ex-boyfriend and my girlfriend got married. On the day of their wedding, I wanted to go to the wedding scene to make a big fuss, but I felt that I was not qualified, and I could only drink and get drunk alone. That day, I cried and told my parents about it, and my parents did not pity me, but gave me harsh criticism.
Although I can't go back to the past with my ex-boyfriend, I don't have the mood to fall in love anymore, and I will have such self-denial: I don't want to fall in love anymore, because I am a worse person, and I am worried that falling in love with anyone will not last long. Because as soon as someone talks about my feelings, I will pessimistically consider our feelings.
In fact, I also know that I have a lot of shortcomings, and I tried to change myself during the process, but found it really difficult. In the current situation, in addition to making myself work harder, I have implemented self-isolation at the level of dating, and I only want to circle myself at home after work, and the key is that I am not willing to communicate with my parents, but I hide in the bedroom alone, or brush my mobile phone, or lie in bed and ignore my thoughts. I hate myself in this state, but I don't want to break the current state.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
In life, the reasons why we are unhappy mainly include the following situations: 1) work is not smooth; 2) dissatisfied with our earning power; 3) our existence has not been recognized by many people around us; 4) driven by the comparison mentality to feel bad; 5) face the criticism of the people around us too seriously; 6) the emotional life is not smooth.
In fact, people who are too good or too pessimistic around you are not good for themselves. Because people who are too good will invisibly form a critical attack on us; people who are too pessimistic will make us infected with the other party's depression. Perhaps you also have pessimistic factors in your bones, so that you will invisibly convey negative energy to the people around you, so that many people in life will quietly alienate themselves from you after they have a certain understanding of you.
The reasons for people's unhappiness mainly come from four aspects: the influence of parents on themselves; the influence of the living environment on their cognition of things; the long-established personality that causes them to have their own troubles when looking at things; and reading too little to make themselves easy to be stubborn on some issues.
Many times, when we find ourselves very bad, we want to change ourselves, but we find that there is no way to start, or the process of self-change is difficult, in fact, many people will encounter similar troubles. What I can tell you is that since there is no way to change yourself, you must try to reconcile with your current self. However, there are two things we can do: 1) don't let yourself easily hurt the people around you, and 2) do more good things and be a person with few words in life. At this time, you will find that: do not owe others, the heart will be frank; help the people around you more, you will also be in a good mood; less talk and more work, will make yourself reduce some unnecessary trouble. In this state, you will make the people around you feel good about you, and you will also make them full of mystery about you because you communicate with them less, so as to enhance your personality charm and quietly get more people's good feelings for you. At this time, you yourself will be involuntarily happy. When the mood is happy, then your perception of the people around you will also change, and you will feel that the people around you are not so bad, so that you will yearn for a better life again, and it is not excluded that you will have the idea of falling in love again.
If you re-contact love, do not start to do all kinds of things because you are familiar with your lover, at this time, no matter how the outside world evaluates your feelings, you should not be gullible, but hint to yourself, some people's suggestions about your emotions only hope that you can live well, but some kind suggestions may not be correct. At this time, you have to believe in your own perception: in your own perception, holding feelings is reliable, that is reliable; in your own perception, holding feelings does not make you happy, then decisively say break up. Here, another sentence to you: Don't probe a person from other people, because everyone has a different attitude towards the people around them. Therefore, a person's good and bad may be only relative concepts. Then, if a person is attentive and kind enough to you, then this person should be a good person in your eyes.
The thing you also need to understand is that you are not perfect alone, and everyone around you is actually not so perfect. Therefore, try to accept the shortcomings of others, as long as the other party does not have a bad eye in you, then this person is worth associating.
About love, sometimes also need some elements of luck, most of the time, when people meet the marriage partner, they will meet a person who is kind in the case of identifying themselves, if they meet a person with a heart, or a selfish and double-standard person, stay away; do not regard the other party as the whole of the field of love, after all, he represents only himself. So, there's no need to negate a large number of people with some people hurting you.
Editor's Note:
In life, happier people will have such a trait: either they are stupid, or they can let themselves pretend to be confused. However, many times people exist shrewdly, resulting in results, the more they know, the less happy they are. Some people who like to have negative thoughts when things happen are not very happy. Therefore, being a person and doing things, a little firm in their own ideas, and more thoughts about each other's good, maybe they will be much easier.
Those who are pessimistic about things will not only feel that their lives are a mess, but also affect the people around them. Many times, the spread of our emotions is basically conveyed by words and facial expressions. If you perceive your own pessimism, then the restraint you need to be made in life includes: talk less; don't sigh; do more; be kind. With this kind of self-fine-tuning, I believe that many times it will go in a good direction.
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