My friend Little Z, she is a premature child, her family is patriarchal, she is the second oldest in the family, the eldest is a sister, born if it is a white and fat, but also pleasing, but often backfire, born black and ugly, at that time her mother alone at home, the father went out to play, because people are relatively small, even the hospital did not go, directly born at home, but it is okay, no obstacles, very healthy, and then because of the parents' preference for sons and daughters, and added three children, more children, how to take care of the parents, When I was a child, no matter what problems I encountered, directly expressed that no one listened, directly ignored, crying words made people more angry, the final result, light scolding, heavy to hit you to stop the current behavior is not OK, there have been many times this experience, the next time you meet the same thing, how can you use the same way to solve, there is no other choice, do not say not cry or make trouble, since then she has never said to her parents about various problems in life, nor dare to say, with the image of a well-behaved woman at home, I don't know if there is a sense of existence, Yes, only when working, other children do not go, how much she went will have some sense of existence, in order to have a sense of belonging in this family, she will take all the work, so that parents will look at it twice, when going to school, work hard every day, just to get a good score, so that the father has a light on his face, so that when the father goes out, he has more or less a show off capital, how much can he look at her twice. With this awareness, she will study hard, she knows that schools are graded, good schools are never lacking, you are the first in this school, you will be assigned to a good school, there are many good students in a good school, in such an environment, she will be the first, it will definitely be a lot more difficult. Step by step up, so the cycle, but the objective fact is that there are people outside the people, there is a sky outside the sky, always first, impossible, but her subjective consciousness can not tolerate her to get the second, after many blows, the spirit was finally defeated, a stumbling, dropped out of high school, since then began a working career, because only know stupid learning, do not know how to deal with interpersonal relations, coupled with everywhere want to take the first subconscious attack, in the work everywhere hit the wall, each work can not be done for long can not continue, When you grow up, you can't earn money to support yourself, what to do, the family doesn't collect, just find someone to marry, maybe there will be food to eat, and now live like a walking dead.
Here we appeal to everyone, or eugenics and good parenting, parents do not sacrifice their children's happy life for their own incompetence and face.
