Last Tuesday, I went to Guomao with my husband to talk about things. We chose the nearest route and took the bus to our destination. Unexpectedly, riding this bus gave me creative inspiration.
That day, my husband and I had just sat in the seat of the bus when I heard my mother next to me loudly reprimand her daughter: "Sit well, don't move." ”
I followed the prestige, a middle-aged woman slightly angry, sitting across from her girl five or six years old, next to the girl put a lot of luggage, luggage, there are also marijuana bags, obviously, this is a mother and son from their hometown to Beijing for summer vacation.
"Why?" The girl who was jumping up and down on the seat asked with a puzzled face.
"Tell you not to move, you don't move, where is so much nonsense!" Move that uncle again and he'll take you away. Mom scolded loudly.
"Ahem! You're just bullshit! The little girl muttered, a look of disbelief.
"It's a small man, and his mouth is quite strong!"
Listening to this mother and daughter love and kill each other, I couldn't help but say: "Mom let you sit well, because I am afraid that you will fall!" ”
"How could I possibly fall?" The little girl retorted.
I smiled and said, "If you don't believe me, you can stand up and try!" Look at that uncle, he's so tall, so strong, why does he have to hold on to the hook on it! ”
The little girl looked in the direction I said, did she understand, and began to sit down obediently. Seeing that the little girl was like this, I said to the mother next to me: "She can refute you, indicating that she is very responsive, and she has a lot of ideas and strong thinking ability." ”
When the mother saw that the child was obediently sitting in her seat, she complied with me and said, "Hmm! She had so many ideas. Auntie said you, I heard you! ”
She had just uttered these words, and what I didn't expect was that the little girl who was less than six years old suddenly said, "Mom, you're not right, she's right." ”
"She's right, you go with her, don't follow your mother." Mom said slightly vinegary.
When I heard my mother's words, my psychology suddenly surged with a sense of guilt, if I hadn't spoken too much, my mother wouldn't have said such hurtful words. I glanced at the girl quietly, and she still looked dismissive, as if to say, "You will only threaten me like this, are you a little accustomed to it?" ”
In order to make up for my mistakes, I immediately hit the round field and said: "Only mothers are good in the world, and every child should be with their mothers." Then he whispered to the mother: "You can't talk to the child like this, the child comes to this big city, he is afraid of losing himself, and if the mother says this again, she will be more afraid." And you should tell her not to go with strangers, not to tell her to go with strangers. She has a strong view of right and wrong, which is a good thing, and you shouldn't say that about her. ”
Hearing me say this, she had to close her mouth. After a while, we arrived at Guomao, ready to get off, the little girl took the bus card to swipe the card, this time experienced a feeling of no seat, people shaking, after swiping the card, they obediently sat on the seat.
I said, "Let the child experience it, and she will know if you are right." "After saying that, I got out of the car. I just got out of the car, and the little girl got out of the car, and her mother couldn't get out of the car for a long time. Watching the little girl walk forward, I exclaimed, "Wait for your mother! The little girl stopped and stood there stunned.
Looking at the little girl's small face, the psychological feeling was blocked, and a breath was stuffy in the chest. A little girl comes to a big city without the slightest sense of safety, and if she is targeted by bad people, the consequences will be unimaginable.
I looked back at the mother, who was struggling to carry heavy boxes and sacks, and looked at her, did I see countless chinese low-level mothers, who ran all day for their lives, paying attention to their children's eating and drinking, but without the slightest sense of education. When raising children, it is just a method of scaring children, not giving reasons to persuade children, and not giving children the opportunity to refute.
However, the child's heart is like a mirror, who makes sense, who says it is unreasonable, her psychology is clear. However, when she expressed her view of right and wrong without any worries, she was relentlessly threatened by her mother. In the long run, to put it mildly, when the child faces right and wrong, he must not dare to uphold justice, for the sake of so-called love, or forced by power or status, to say something that reverses black and white, and to do something muddy. Because she was afraid that her mother would leave her behind.
To put it more seriously, children do not know right and wrong, do not know good and evil, there is no shame, honor, no sense of gratitude, it is very easy to go astray.
Therefore, children know good and evil, and the debate of right and wrong should be protected, supported and strengthened by parents, which will make children a foundation full of justice, shame and honor, so that children can have a good future and achieve a brilliant life.
As parents, we should also cultivate the ability of children to know good and evil, argue right and wrong, and let children become a truly useful person to society.
The story of "Tao Mu Refuses Fish" gives us a good inspiration for parenthood: when Tao Kan was young, he worked as a petty official who managed the fish beam. Once, Tao Kan sent someone to send a pickled fish home to honor his mother. Unexpectedly, Tao Bao not only returned it to him unchanged, but also wrote a letter reprimanding his son: "You became an official, and you sent me the things of the official family to eat." Not only is this not good for me, but on the contrary it increases my sorrow a lot. ”
It is precisely because of such a sensible mother that there was Tao Kan, who was upright and honest and honest. It can be seen that the influence of parents on children is far-reaching. When the child is clear, you must support him and strengthen his behavior; when the child does not know what is wrong, you must also use your own behavior to influence him, help him know the good and the bad, understand the reason, and be a grateful person.