Behind the happy family, there is often a "three views positive" mother!

Someone once said, "The hand that pushes the cradle is also the hand that pushes the world." "The three views of a mother are indeed the ones that infect the family and her children.

Meng Mu Sanqian, Tao Mu Retreat Fish, Ou Mu Painting Di, Mother-in-law Embroidery, the story of the four great sages in ancient times is familiar to everyone, and now when you read it, the kind of maternal love that licks the calf with deep affection and righteousness is still touching.

The love of a mother determines the happiness of a child's life; the mother's education determines the achievement of a child's life. As the most important person in a child's life, the mother's three views are the source of the child's three views.

A family, even if the family is surrounded by disciples, as long as there is a mother who is upright, kind, industrious, optimistic, insightful, and has three views, is the greatest blessing for the children and the greatest blessing for the family.

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The mother's three views are positive, and the child is not going astray

There is nothing more terrible than the three views of the uselessness of reading and the respect of money. Under the influence of this belief in material supremacy, some mothers are ruining their children's lives.

Mr. Nan Huaijin once said: "Why should a person study? From the perspective of traditional Chinese culture, this is an important old problem. Why should a person read? The most correct answer in tradition is the four words 'reading and reasoning'. ”

However, the current society is impetuous, materialistic, and the pursuit of fame and profit has become the whole of some people's lives. Why pass on this weary way of life to your children?

Respecting knowledge and attaching importance to reading are the most basic manifestations of whether the mother's three views are correct or not. However, some parents, especially mothers, often shout that "girls are useless in reading, and marrying people well is the real skill" and "boys are construction banks, girls are china merchants bank", what a terrible inheritance of three views.

In ancient times, Mengmu attached great importance to Mencius's reading education, and moved his residence three times in order to create a good atmosphere for him.

In the old days, when Mencius was young, his father died early and his mother observed the festival. Living close to the cemetery, Mencius and his friends learned to kneel and cry as adults and played the game of funerals. Meng Mu said to herself, "I can't let my children live here." ”

Later, he moved to the market, and Mencius learned to do business as a businessman, playing a game of bargaining between chickens and geese. Meng Mu said to herself, "This place is not suitable for my children to live." ”

Eventually moved to the vicinity of the school. Mencius began to become orderly, polite, and a lover of reading. Meng Mu said happily, "This is where my son should live!" ”

What Meng Mu did was to keep Mencius away from those vulgar and vulgar environments, and let him be a person who loved to read. It was MengMu's foresight that made a generation of Great Confucian Mencius.

As a mother, it is our responsibility and obligation to guide our children to embrace truth and choose the right values. The prerequisite is that the mother's three views should be correct.

The mother of Sanguanzheng knows how to develop herself, and the mother herself must become a perfect person, not only to have the ability to cultivate the child, but also to guide the child. People who grew up in a reading environment from childhood to adulthood can't be bad any worse, so reading is very important.

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The mother has three views and the child has good character

As a mother, whether she can treat the elderly well determines whether the child knows to repay the parenting grace of her parents in the future; whether the mother can treat relatives, friends and neighbors with courtesy determines whether the child has love or not.

"The virtuous mother makes the son Xianye." Han Bao said so in "Han Shi Wai Biography".

The kindness and love of the mother is the key to the child's good relationship and career development in the future. The mother's vision and heart determine whether the future of the child is broad and whether the mind is broad.

Many parents have their own moral cultivation to be improved, they have no great ambition to do anything, but they ask their children to have a job; they only care about making money for themselves, they rarely care about their children's education, they do not read books and study, but they ask their children to be among the best; they are addicted to mahjong or staggering chips, but they require their children to concentrate; they do not honor the elderly, but they require their children to obey their words; they open their mouths and shut up dirty words, but they require children to be polite and civilized... How can you ask your children to be virtuous in order to make money?

Tao Mu's retirement tells the story of Tao Kan, a famous general of the Eastern Jin Dynasty, who had a mother who understood great righteousness, who was not privately gifted by her son's official property and taught her son to be honest and serve the public.

Tao's mother has been strict with Tao Kan since childhood, and has firmly supported her son's career in the textile industry. Tao Kan, who was once a fisherman's official, when eating the pickled fish of the official government, remembered his poor mother at home, so he used clay pots to fill some people and send them to his mother. Unexpectedly, the mother returned the favor in full, and the letter rebuked: "Ru is an official, leaving me with official property, not only can not benefit me, but to increase my worries!" ”

Because of Tao Mu's words and deeds, although Tao Kan's family was poor, he served as an official for a long time, serving as the governor of eight prefectures, the general of the Western Expedition, and later the duke of Changsha County.

Our moral flaws and misdeeds of words and deeds do not, on the surface, hinder family life; but children are often the shadow of adults.

If the mother is kind and gentle, knows how to manage the family financial management, is helpful, optimistic and cheerful, can eat small losses, and has the courage to take responsibility, then her way of thinking and good habits will be imperceptibly passed on to her children.

I remember that CCTV had a public service advertisement about a young mother telling her son the story of the duckling, after telling it, the mother went to wash the feet of the child's grandmother, and the young child saw it and ran to the bathroom...

When the mother washed the child's grandmother's feet and returned to her room, she found that her son was gone, and when she looked back, she saw that her son was trembling and holding a basin full of water, and he staggered over and said in a childlike voice: "Mother washes her feet." Mom smiled in relief.

Then a line popped up on the TV screen: "Actually, parents are the best teachers for children." Whenever I see this advertisement, I am very touched.

Only in the interaction of two generations can we transmit culture, can we gradually guide children to understand the whole world, and let good words and deeds become the capital that children will use for a lifetime.

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The mother has three views and the child's emotional intelligence is high

The fate of each person is made up of multiple factors, especially sons and daughters. A mother's emotional intelligence can also affect a child's life.

Many children lack the ability to overcome difficulties, cannot withstand blows, suffer setbacks for a long time after malaise, cannot maintain enthusiasm for life, do not deal smoothly with people, and cannot win the trust of people around them. Therefore, the cultivation of inverse quotient is particularly important.

Ouyang Xiu, an outstanding writer and historian of the Northern Song Dynasty, was very poor in his young family and had no money for him to study. But his mother was not afraid of hardships and made great efforts to educate and cultivate her son. Unable to afford to buy paper and pencil, his mother used reed stalks to write and draw on the sand and teach him to read and write; there were no books to read at home, so Ou Mu went to the reader's house to borrow books to learn from Ouyang Xiu...

Through her courage and responsibility in facing difficulties, Ouyang Xiu's mother subtly infects her growing son. Ouyang Xiu also inherited this precious emotional intelligence wealth of his mother, working day and night, sleeping and forgetting food, devoting himself to reading, and eventually becoming a generation of literary heroes.

Good moms will cultivate their children's contrarian quotient and make them know how to deal with difficulties and setbacks correctly. On the contrary, I don't care too much about whether my child's grades are first or second, and whether the university he attends is Peking University or Tsinghua University.

The mother of the three views is highly emotionally intelligent, and the children must inherit the noble character of the mother.

Growing up in the countryside, Yu Minhong once told a story about his mother. In his heart Mother was particularly kind. One day when I was a child, suddenly the sky was stormy and rainy, and his family and the next door neighbor's family were basking in rice, but there was no one in the neighbor's house. His mother took him to collect the grain from the neighbor's house before taking it from her own house.

Yu Minhong asked her mother why she did not take her own family first, and her mother said that distant relatives were not as good as close neighbors. It was because of his mother's high emotional intelligence that Yu Minhong's home became a meeting place for the whole village. It was also under the influence of his mother that he began to like and enjoy happiness from an early age, knew how to help and share, and eventually achieved Yu Minhong's success.

The three views are upright, which is the most exuberant attitude of a person walking in the world.

A woman's good conduct is a treasure in the family, and it is more fascinating than her beautiful appearance and overflowing intelligence. Beside her, men do not do reckless things, and children will have a bright future.

And a happy family does not need fresh clothes and food, nor does it need to be full of gold and jade, if you can have a mother with the right three views, it is the greatest blessing.