In the Eastern Jin Dynasty, where the door valve system was very serious, the children of the Wang, Xie and other scholars, after adulthood, no matter how wise or foolish, could be idle and powerful officials, while the ordinary Shu hanshi not only could not intermarry with the scholars, but even if they had talent, they could only serve as low-level officials at the lower level.
There is such a cold warrior, not willing to be at the mercy of fate, through personal struggle to achieve the power of the great Sima and the opposition, ranked first among the three dukes, he is the famous reclusive poet Tao Yuanming's great-grandfather Tao Kan, his success depends on him having a great mother.
Tao Kan's mother, Zhan, was originally the younger wife of her father Tao Dan. The Tao family is poor, and the Cham family is diligent and thrifty, respectful and courteous to people, and has a lot of wisdom and cunning. She earns money by spinning and weaving fabrics to help her family, and in very difficult circumstances, she does not forget to support her son who has few ambitions to study, plan for his future, and support Tao Kan to make friends with people who are better than him. Although the poor family is poor and poor, whenever a noble guest with a son comes, he never slacks off.
The examination system of selecting talents through examinations began in the Sui Dynasty, and talented people in the Wei and Jin dynasties had to be recommended if they wanted to be promoted and reused. In this way, it is particularly important to make friends with officials and eunuchs in order to seek glory and advancement.
In the "World Speaking New Language Xianyuan", it is said that Xiaolian Fan Kui of Tao Kan Tong County was a noble man with fame and status, and one day he came to Tao Kan's house as a guest. At that time, the snow lasted for several days, and the Tao Kan family had four walls, and Fan Kui's carriages and horses had many servants. Tao Kan's mother, Zhan Shi, was not in a hurry and said to Tao Kan, You go out to meet the guests, and let me arrange a plan for you.
Tao Mu had a dark and dense hair, which spread out and was recognizable, and the cloak flowed down to the ground. She immediately decided, quietly cut it, made two wigs and sold them, which she used to buy rice, meat, vegetables and fruits. He cut each pillar in half to burn it as firewood, and chopped the new grass mat he slept on to make hay to feed Fan Kui's horses. At dinner, he was able to set up a table of exquisite wine to entertain Fan Kui and his party, so that the people who came to the table were well taken care of.
At this time, we want to ask, where is the father? In the old days, the success of a son was mostly due to having a wise and righteous mother, and the role of the father was often absent for various reasons, which was only ignored here.
Fan Kui not only appreciated Tao Kan's intelligence and eloquence, but also expressed his deep touch and gratitude for his hospitality, and after knowing that Tao Mu sold her hair, she had another layer of guilt. Tao Kan left Fan Kui behind and talked all night. The next morning, Fan Kui resigned, and Tao Kan sent one ride after another, almost a hundred miles. Fan Kui said, send too far, you go back. Tao Kan still refused to stop. Fan Kui said, "Qing Can go." To Luoyang, it should be a beautiful talk. Tao Kan went back. When Fan Kui arrived in Luoyang, he praised Tao Kan's talent and ability in front of Yang Zhao, Gu Rong, and others, so that his good reputation spread. At that time, Tao Kan was only a small official looking for Yang, and soon he was summoned to the capital, first as a filial piety, and then to Langzhong, thus opening his way to approach and become a bureaucrat at the top.
This virtuous act of the Cham clan made her and Meng Mu stand side by side among the famous chinese mothers, and she was immortal. She did not look like an ordinary low-class civilian woman, but rather like a wise man who was far-sighted and dared to act boldly. Wei Jin had many famous people who sold their fame and reputation, and although Tao Mu was "not in the male ranks", she was like a tall person who hid in the city.
She had the vision to know that her son was an extraordinary talent, and although he was in the class of the Shu people with a vague future and an extremely poor family, she refused to cut off her son's wings and let the eagle settle down at a low altitude.
She has wisdom, can judge the time, weigh the gains and losses, support her son to socialize beneficially, dare to enter the excellent circle, continue to make progress, and pursue careers that others cannot imagine.
She was brave again, and when the opportunity came, she would not let it go no matter what. The ancients paid attention to "the skin of the body, the parents, do not dare to destroy, the beginning of filial piety." "She was able to make sacrifices for entertaining distinguished guests, without hesitation, cutting her hair and cutting pillars. This move, for a woman of low social status and the virtue of submissiveness, is undoubtedly deviant and requires a great deal of courage and courage. As far as a weak woman is concerned, it is great. She is doing her last bit of strength to pave a path for her son to enter the world. Fan Kui received such a courtesy, in addition to being moved, how can he get the Ensi report, which is also the common sentiment of people.
Wise mothers often have sons of wisdom. At the time of Fan Kui's resignation, Tao Kan's persistence in sending hundreds of miles was actually another kind of silent pressure on Fan Kui. At this point, Fan Kui went back and didn't say good things for him, and he wouldn't even agree to it.
Wang Yin's Book of Jin says: "Since Kan's mother intercepted her hair and offered to the guest, the hearer sighed: 'Unless this mother does not give birth to this son.' 'It is in Zhang Kui.' The sheep is also simple. Hou Zhao was the Ten Counties Zhongzheng, and the Jukan was Poyang Xiaozhongzheng, and the first was the best product. ”
Mother Tao became famous for this incident, not only making her son a Beijing official, but also because of her good reputation, Tao Kan was valued by those in power, and was respected and appointed.
In the Wei and Jin dynasties, people often embarked on a career path because a certain action was known to the world. Tao's mother was successful, and her jiaxing Yide enabled her son not only to benefit from his career, but also to cultivate his personality. In the first half of his life, Tao Kan was not satisfied, relying on his own resourcefulness and good judgment, he had outstanding martial arts, and later his power fell to the opposition, which was loved by the people of the time. He has the shadow of this virtuous mother's teachings.
There is another thing that has been passed down through the ages, which is commendable enough. The Cham clan loves to eat fish, and when Tao Kan was working as a fish liang official in Xunyang County, he sent someone to give a jar of pickled fish to his mother, but the Cham clan returned it unchanged. He also wrote a letter to rebuke his son, saying, As an official, you honored me with public goods, which not only did not satisfy me, but also increased my worries.
If she is an ordinary mother, she will not care about this little matter, and she is happy to enjoy the gift of her son, but the Cham family has always been wise and wise, strict in teaching, principled in doing things, and has a position. She did not allow her selfish desires to damage the great righteousness, on the contrary, from the small things, she did not forget to educate her son on risks, and this attitude of life that was not arrogant and impatient achieved Tao Kan, who was a diligent official in her later life.
In his later years, Tao Kan was in a position of great power, "more than a thousand servants in the family, and treasures and treasures were rich in tianfu", and in the precarious Wei and Jin Dynasties, she was able to become an official safely until she was old, and was praised and respected by the officials and the people, which could not but be related to her mother's successful education.
Such a mother can be called strong. It is precisely because of wisdom that a strong person can become strong, and a strong person can achieve great things. The great mother has achieved the son of a great talent, and has been admired for thousands of generations.
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