Author | Chrysanthemum
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As the saying goes: "Gold has no feet, and no one is perfect." ”
We are all our lives correcting shortcomings and pursuing perfection, but in this world, there will be no perfect people.
Only by accepting ourselves can we wake ourselves up and change ourselves.
I often think of a sentence:
"I'm only afraid to stand, I'm not afraid to be slow."
Yes, life, as long as you allow it, everything is the beginning.
During the Three Kingdoms period, when Liu Bei was the supreme governor in Xuzhou, because Xuzhou was a piece of fat meat, Yuan Shu, Cao Cao, and Lü Bu had been coveting Xuzhou for a long time, and always wanted to occupy Xuzhou and then win the world.
However, Liu Bei's strategic awareness was not strong, and he was in such a complex environment, facing Yuan Shu in the south, Cao Cao in the west, and Lü Bu in the north.
Liu Bei was defeated in a big battle, a small battle, a broken head, a blue nose and swollen face, and finally, Liu Bei lost Xuzhou, fled to Xinye Liu Biao, and from then on away from the Central Plains.
This year Liu Bei was 42 years old, in the process of drinking with Liu Biao, Liu Bei sighed that he was more than 40 years old, a middle-aged greasy uncle, still living in this small place, achieving nothing, sad.
After accepting all this, Liu Bei did not "lie flat", but re-analyzed, cheered up, and went to Sangu Maolu, east to Eastern Wu, and west to Bashu.
Finally, at the age of 60, he called the emperor king.
Montaigne once said:
"The greatest thing in the world is that a man knows how to be his master."
Whether it is facing the high self or the helpless, fragile self, you can only control everything if you dare to accept yourself.
And we are always accepting others, it is very easy, but it is difficult to accept yourself, you can only face your own mistakes and shortcomings, in order to find your own way to success.
The greatest practice in life is to accept oneself, right and wrong, all must accept, love and hate, must be put down, good things and bad things, eventually become the past, learn to accept, in order to be liberated.
There is a saying that goes like this:
"The meaning of growth is to increase life experience and enrich life experience."
Come to think of it, it really is!
In the past, we have come a lot, and in the future, we want to go further.
Tao Kan, a general of the Eastern Jin Dynasty, was a disciple of a cold disciple, and when he entered the official field, the clan ignored him and high-ranking officials despised him.
At the age of 42, Tao Kan still achieved nothing, and unwillingly, he changed directions, put on his battle robes, and made military achievements.
But as soon as he got some results, he was kicked back to his hometown by some villains.
After returning home, Tao Kan did not idle, he worked hard to exercise his body, every morning, he moved a hundred bricks from the back of the house to the front of the house, and at night, he moved the hundred bricks from the front of the house to the back of the house.
His family comforted him about what was wrong, and Tao Kan said:
"I can't slacken off, I have to keep myself awake and start over!"
This move is ten years. Tao Kan moved from 57 to 67.
Seventy years of life are rare, and at this age, Tao Kan should prepare a coffin for himself.
However, when the imperial court encountered a rebellion, Emperor Ming of Jin remembered that this Tao Kan, who could fight a good war, once again led the army to fight.
In the end, Tao Kan won the victory and was also made a great general, who could carry a sword to the temple.
There's a saying that goes something like this:
"People who achieve their ideals can wake themselves up. Don't indulge in decadence. ”
We always thought that learning was a matter of student life, and later we realized that keeping learning is a compulsory course for everyone.
In this era of fast-paced development, we always focus on the promotion of others quickly and the opportunities are good, but we never pay attention to whether we know where the goal of moving forward is and whether we live clearly.
Many times, knowing where the way forward is, you can start better, and you will not do useless work.
Particularly appreciated one sentence:
"There are only two kinds of people in the world: one is a spectator and the other is an actor.
Most people want to change the world, but no one wants to change themselves. ”
Yes, we always want to change others, but in the end, it is not that others have changed, but the more we look at it, the more unpleasant it is, the more uncomfortable it is, only by changing ourselves, life will become more and more smooth.
In the New Book of Tang and the Biography of Lou Shide, such a story is recorded:
It is said that Di Renjie, after becoming the prime minister, was so proud that he even excluded his benefactor Lou Shide, so that Lou Shide was released.
Wu Zetian couldn't look at it anymore, so he asked Di Renjie, "How is Lou Shide?" Di Renjie said: "During his tenure, he was cautious and dutiful, and I don't know anything else." ”
Wu Zetian asked again, "Does Lou Shide see people?" Di Renjie said, "I am an official in the same dynasty as him, and I have never heard that he can see people." ”
Therefore, Wu Zetian showed Lou Shide and Di Renjie's recital, and after Di Renjie read it, he was ashamed and bluntly said that he was inferior to Lou Renjie.
Since then, Di Renjie has also learned from Lou Shide, recommended sages, and was diligent in the rule of officials, and eventually, became a generation of famous people.
Confucius:
"A gentleman asks for himself, and a villain asks for others."
In this world, we always stand in our own perspective and ask others, but we don't know that the real master is to change ourselves.
Yes, changing yourself is difficult, but it will only be difficult for a while, not for a lifetime!
When you are not satisfied with others, it is to change yourself, you must know that the highest ability of a person is not wisdom, nor is it strong, but adaptable, an ability to adapt to any conditions.
From now on, according to your own goals, change yourself step by step, and improve yourself little by little! It will change the outcome.
In the book "Silent Confessions", it is written like this:
"We spend our whole lives trying to get rid of the expectations of others and find our true selves."
No matter how complicated the world is and how impetuous people's hearts are, loving yourself is the highest level of self-discipline for adults.
Only by accepting yourself can you improve yourself, wake yourself up, break through yourself, change yourself, and achieve yourself, so as to move towards happiness.
Click "Watching", may you let go of the past, live in the present, and live your life in peace.
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