Every couple hopes that the marriage can have a good development, and is not willing to go to the end of divorce, but the development of things is often not satisfactory, and some couples have to separate in marriage because of various problems.
For this part of the couple, they are particularly affectionate when they first get married, and they all want to be able to grow old in vain, but after entering the marriage, they encounter various obstacles, and at the same time, they also have various contradictions, so they cannot finally go to the end.
In fact, for this part of the divorced couple, the reason is not because they have no feelings for each other, but because the two parties have encountered some problems in life and emotions, and have not changed in time, so they eventually have to go to the end of divorce.
Just like some couples do not achieve mutual consideration in terms of emotion, so the relationship between two people can not be kept intimate, and some couples cannot tolerate each other in life, so the contradiction between the two people is particularly serious, which may cause the breakdown of the marriage.
Therefore, for married couples, if two people want to avoid the end of divorce, they must make changes from the emotional and life aspects, so that the two people can maintain a state of harmony and love, so that the marriage can achieve a good result.
For example, married couples need to change these three problems in life, change these problems, in order to reduce the probability of divorce, but also to make two people more happy in life, and finally can make the marriage have a complete ending.
1, couples to change the emotional neglect
In real life, some couples will go to the end of divorce because two people have no feelings and are too strange to each other, so both parties are unwilling to continue, such examples are many in real life.
Some couples have not spoken for a long time in life, and when they are at home, they do their own things, not only do they not have any state of love, but even in many cases they are like strangers, and in this situation, the husband and wife will definitely lose confidence in the marriage.
To know that one of the purposes of marriage is to obtain emotional satisfaction, and once two people ignore each other emotionally, it means that each other's purpose cannot be achieved.
Therefore, to some extent, the reason why many couples divorce is because they ignore each other emotionally, so that two people can't feel warmth at all, so they lay the groundwork for divorce later, which is a problem that married couples need to think about.
Therefore, couples need to be aware of this problem in marriage, know how to change each other's emotional neglect, and then let two people become intimate again, so that they can re-establish confidence in marriage and be able to go on.
For example, married couples can't ignore each other too much no matter how long they have been married, they must treat each other as their closest people, and they must give each other sufficient care in ordinary times, and after achieving this goal, they can get the married life they want.
In addition, if the couple has become strange now, at this time they should take the initiative to give each other a hug, can take the initiative to chat with each other, and through this action, let each other's feelings slowly warm up, so that they can continue.
In short, married couples must not let each other become strange in life, they must know how to let each other experience each other again from the emotional aspect, and after achieving this goal, they can make the marriage have good results, and they can also embrace themselves in the back to be happy.
2, husband and wife to change the weight of life
For married couples, two people will certainly not be smooth sailing in life, there will inevitably be some differences and contradictions, which are very normal things, but also a problem that married couples cannot avoid, which will not have a particularly serious impact on marriage.
What will really have a big impact on marriage is that the husband and wife are calculating in life, and when two people are angry for a small matter, and do not let go for a long time, then it means that each other's marriage cannot be happy.
In real life, some couples quarrel endlessly for a little conflict, and even sometimes fight, in such a situation, the relationship between two people is difficult to achieve a good result, and eventually it will lead to the end of divorce.
Therefore, to some extent, couples who are easy to divorce often have the problem of being preoccupied, and it is precisely because the two people's preoccupations lead to inability to harmonize with each other, and eventually make the two people lose confidence in the marriage, which is a problem that married couples need to pay attention to.
Therefore, for married couples, if two people want to have a happy ending in life, they must change this mentality of calculation, absolutely cannot continue, must have enough tolerance, and then be able to embrace happiness.
For example, husband and wife in life must not quarrel for a little thing, many times to have an inclusive mentality, so that we can make each other's lives harmonious, but also to make the marriage have a good outcome.
In addition, couples should not lose their temper immediately after the contradiction, but should calm down and think about it, think about whether they have problems in this matter, and then make certain improvements, so that they can also make good results in marriage.
In short, married couples should have a certain tolerance, usually turn a blind eye, for some very small problems should be let go, maintain such a mentality, in order to make two people have confidence in marriage, but also not to divorce for this kind of problem.
3, couples want to change their desires beyond themselves
In order for a marriage to have a good development, in addition to the need for husband and wife to manage feelings and life with their hearts, they also need to control each other's desires, and absolutely cannot appear unrealistic ideas, otherwise it will have an adverse impact on the marriage.
Because marriage emphasizes a safe and stable life, if the husband and wife have ideas beyond themselves, at this time they will not be satisfied with the current marriage, and then there will be some wrong thoughts, and eventually it will be particularly unfavorable to marriage.
In real life, some couples will divorce because they have ideas beyond themselves, so they are not satisfied with their marriage, so they will be disappointed in the marriage again and again in the later life, and eventually divorce.
Just like some people want to live a prosperous and rich life, so they are particularly dissatisfied with their current partner, so they complain about their current life all the time, and then there will be the idea of divorce, such examples are not uncommon in real life.
Therefore, married couples must be aware of this aspect of the problem in life, must change unrealistic desires and thoughts, and then live down-to-earth, after doing this, they can make each other happy, and at the same time, they can make the marriage have good results.
For example, if the husband and wife are not satisfied with the current life, then each other can work hard to create a better life, and after achieving this goal, they can also make the marriage achieve a happy ending, which is a point that needs to be done.
In addition, if married couples have unrealistic thoughts in their lives, they must immediately calm down at this time, and then carefully consider their own abilities and the actual conditions of the family, so that they will not cause divorce because of their mentality.
In short, married couples must be aware of their own abilities and the actual conditions of the family in life, and must not have some unrealistic fantasies, otherwise what awaits them will not be a good result, and it will also cause the marriage to usher in tragedy.
Emotional advice for The South Bridge:
Every couple does not want to go to the step of divorce, but if there is no intention to manage feelings and life in life, and at the same time do not change some of their own problems, then what awaits this couple will not be a good outcome.
In real life, many divorced couples are actually unwilling to go to this step, but because of the long-term accumulation of contradictions, two people can not continue with each other, and finally have to go to the end of divorce, which can be said to be a very regrettable thing.
Therefore, the author suggests that married couples must change the above three problems in their lives, change these problems, in order to reduce the experience of divorce, but also to make each other happy, which is a key to the happiness of couples.