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Talk show actor Si Wen commented on women's "single anxiety" in a show:
Girls have been haunted since childhood by words such as "be careful not to marry after you" and "who dares to marry you";
Single women, even if their careers are successful, must be lamented "what is the use, not no object";
If you want to prove your happiness, you must live a more beautiful life than a married woman...
However, this anxiety is not only present in the female population.
If boys are single for a long time, they may also be labeled as "GAY" and "afraid of responsibility".
Today's young people are single not because they don't want sweet love.
It's just that the busy pace of life makes love a luxury.
In order to get rid of singleness, many people even began to accept the "blind date bureau" that they once looked down on.
Because love is a treasure, I don't want to choose a random person and start falling in love.
As a result, they went back and forth in one blind date after another, losing many battles.
Obviously, I didn't meet the right object, but it seemed that no one had anything to choose from.
Sometimes even being ridiculed as "demanding" and "difficult to do"...
In the process of pulling with frustration, some people begin to doubt themselves gradually.
Even rushing to choose someone you don't like and don't understand.
Sloppy love is because I began to worry about the identity of being single.
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People who want to get rid of the single will be anxious because they can't meet good people.
People who actively choose to be single may not be truly free.
There are also celibats who dare not even reveal their anxieties.
Fear that because they can't fight, acquiescing to the process of love and marriage is a betrayal of themselves, and they will feel more or less arrogant in the eyes of others.
According to the data, the proportion of single young men and women in Shanghai who are currently married has exceeded 30%, and 80% of them feel that they are not happy or even anxious; but at the same time, there is a fear of marriage.
Obviously eager to fall in love, but afraid of marriage, this has become the core contradiction of contemporary young people.
The "single anxiety" thing seems to be a thought that every single young person has had.
Sometimes, this thought is just a flash, because of the envy of other people's state of love.
But sometimes, this kind of thought is like a fire in the wilderness, which will devour the person who was not in a hurry to fall in love little by little.
After all, in reality, the pressure of peers, the confusion of relatives, and the speculation of others are objectively existent.
Being single, or being single, requires explaining your choice or reason to others over and over again.
Even celibacy, even if they have firmly declared singleness, can be anxious because they are single.
As Professor Chu Yin said, choosing to be single is to accept the possibility of being marginalized by society.
When friends are all stepping into marriage, how to deal with the differences with them, how to deal with doubts...
These irrelevant ideas and slogans are issues that we need to actually envision and deal with.
We seem to have the right to choose, but we also have to face the problems that come with being single.
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Single anxiety is essentially because of the fear that one's behavior will detach from the group, resulting in uneasiness, anxiety, and panic.
Studies have shown that anxiety about marriage and love has become younger, and even recent college graduates are already facing this pressure.
When I was a teenager, I buried my head in books, got to college, fell in love, and may break up when I graduated.
Because of family, because of the economy, because of work, because of the distance...
A few years later, I began to regret how I didn't insist on love because of that year.
It's like the life script that most young people will choose, but unlike the game, it can't be restarted.
Especially when I see my friends around me in and out, I am even more anxious.
But being single, falling in love, and getting married is just a choice.
Life is like a cake, cut off one piece, and it will not affect the taste of other parts.
Work, study, socialize, travel... Life is full of excitement.
When we have the ability to deal with risks, we grasp the steering wheel of life.
During the journey, which direction will be chosen at the end is up to us.
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