Love is a matter of two people, marriage is a matter of two families, couples two people into the palace of marriage, must first pass the parents of this pass, if the parents do not agree, the marriage of two people is difficult to complete, the last days can not go together.
There is a problem of the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law in the man's family, so before marriage, the man thinks most about the temperament of the daughter-in-law, and whether the daughter-in-law is a satisfactory candidate in the mother-in-law's heart, but the woman's family and the man's family consider completely differently? The woman's family is married to the daughter, naturally it is necessary to consider the economic conditions of the man's family, some parents are serious about righteousness, distressed daughter, so they have to test the man's economic strength, which is completely afraid of the daughter after marrying the past, will suffer. However, there are also some parents who pay attention to the economic conditions of the man before marriage because they prefer sons to daughters and want to make a profit on their daughters when they finally marry them.
If one party insists on going their own way for some reason and only wants the other party to listen to themselves, then in the end, the marriage cannot be done, and it is not good for anyone to mess with the marriage of two people.
Liu Yun and Jiang Rui's three-year relationship was almost disturbed by their parents, they met during an outing, Liu Yun went to the mountains with his girlfriend to take pictures, and Jiang Rui went out to collect style at work. Before, Liu Yun and girlfriends booked a good apartment on the Internet, the apartment comes with a tavern, the evening is particularly lively, Liu Yun and the girlfriends went down to play together, there were many young people at that time, everyone should know a friend, play together, Liu Yun and Jiang Rui are in the game of playing acquaintances.
That night, they drank a lot of wine and had a lot of fun, and then the next day, Liu Yun was still a little dizzy, and when he was eating breakfast outside, I found that my mobile phone and wallet were lost, and I was panicking and didn't know what to do, or Jiang Rui gave it to her. Last night, Liu Yun drank a lot, left things at the front desk, was picked up by a guest, Jiang Rui saw that the eyes were familiar, let the other party leave contact information, learned that it was really Liu Yun', Jiang Rui helped her find back,
Afterwards, in order to thank Jiang Rui, Liu Yun wanted to invite him to dinner, so he asked Jiang Rui for contact information, and the two people learned after chatting that they were not far from each other, and they were not in a district in a city.
Jiang Rui is a very active boy, once he came to Liu Yun to do business near here, just made an appointment with Liu Yun, the two of them had a meal together, the distance was suddenly closer, and later, slowly, they were together. Liu Yun feels that the two people from meeting each other and falling in love is completely fate, but Liu Yun's parents do not think so, first of all, Liu Yun's parents are particularly patriarchal, they naturally do not care about the character of Liu Yun's boyfriend, they are concerned about the family economic situation of the future son-in-law.
After being with Jiang Rui, Liu Yun learned that Jiang Rui's family situation is not good, although he graduated from a prestigious university, he now has a stable job, but his parents are authentic farmers, plus he also has a somewhat disabled brother, his life in the city is not good, most of his salary is subsidized to the family, if the two people really want to get married in the future, I am afraid that they will have to save money to buy a house together.
Liu Yun and Jiang Rui have been together for a long time, she is definitely willing to fight with Jiang Rui, but Liu Yun's parents do not approve, since hearing about Jiang Rui's family, Liu Yun's parents have held opposing opinions, and have been clamoring for the two people to break up, Liu Yun has been unwilling. Jiang Rui knows the situation in Liu Yun's family, and also knows that Liu Yun's parents look down on him, so he really tries to get the approval of Liu Yun's parents and wants to prove that Liu Yun's parents see him as a potential stock.
Although her parents were unwilling, But Liu Yun has always insisted, her parents also have no way to take her, and later under their observation, they feel that Jiang Rui's current salary is also good, plus, Jiang Rui is very polite to them, and said that he will definitely be able to meet the conditions of Liu Yun's family, so they put their hearts on this honest man.
When it was said that the marriage of the two people was settled, Liu Yun's parents opened their mouths to ask for a dowry of 100,000 yuan, fortunately, Jiang Rui's performance was good, there were some dividends at the end of the year, 100,000 yuan was no problem, he directly agreed to Liu Yun's parents. Liu Yun's parents are calculating, this hundred thousand yuan is to be left to Liu Yun's brother, and now that Liu Yun's brother has graduated from college, he will definitely buy a house and a car in the future.
Seeing that Jiang Rui was happy, Liu Yun's parents put forward another condition, that is, they wanted Jiang Rui to buy a car for their family, because Liu Yun's brother graduated, and after the driver's license was completed, his brother always wanted a car, plus they were far away from where they worked. Therefore, Liu Yun's parents said to Jiang Rui: "We didn't look up to you at first, but seeing that you are sincere to my daughter, we are not good at stopping, in addition to this dowry of 100,000 yuan, buy another car of 100,000 yuan!" Let's look at your financial strength, and let you also prove to us that you can give my daughter happiness. ”
Fortunately, Liu Yun told Jiang Rui about the situation in their home before, and Jiang Rui also replied crisply: "If the car is bought for Liu Yun, 200,000 yuan I will also buy, even if the loan I have to buy, but if the car is for the brother-in-law, I refuse, I will not buy this car, even if you do not promise us, I will not." ”
Jiang Rui directly blocked back what Liu Yun's parents wanted to say, and Jiang Rui also reminded Liu Yun's parents: "I know, this dowry of 100,000 yuan has been given, and you will not give Liu Yun a dowry, which is equivalent to me directly giving you 100,000, but not all people want to be the head of this wrong." You don't want Liu Yun to marry, then find another one to try and see if there is anyone as stupid as me. ”
In this sentence, Liu Yun's parents did not say a word, if they continued to stalemate, I was afraid that they would not even have 100,000 yuan, so they had to agree to the marriage of the two people.
Uncle Moe said, "Some mothers must receive dowry money before they get married." Not because of greed for money and stubbornness, but because she wants her in-laws to value your arrival. Most people will cherish what they have given, and they will squander what they have gained empty-handed. It's not a routine, it's human nature. ”
Whether it is before marriage, the woman wants to receive a bride price or the woman has to find an excuse to improve the economic conditions to test the South, most of them want the in-laws to value the woman, and want the man to realize that his daughter is very valuable and important. Only a small number of patriarchal parents will want to use their daughters as bait, improve their financial conditions only for the sake of their sons at home, but have parents ever thought about the consequences of your doing so?
In the end, the bamboo basket is empty, ruining the happiness of the daughter is the big, what you ruin is not only the daughter's moment, you ruin the daughter's life, since the first time you will mention such conditions, the second time you will still make the same mistake, if the daughter really can't marry, who will bear the consequences?
Have you ever wondered what your long-term preference for sons has done to your son? If one day, the parents are gone, only the two children left to rely on each other, if they have a good relationship, they can help each other in the future and prosper together, after all, they are the only people in the world who are related by blood.
But on the contrary, if you chill your daughter's heart, there is a gap between the two brothers and sisters, and in the end, who is really unlucky?
Even if you remember your son, you have always been like this, how can your daughter help when her son suffers a loss, if you really feel sorry for your son and want to find a helper for your son, then you must treat everyone equally, whether it is for your son or daughter, you must do the same, so that the relationship between two people can maintain a balance.
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