In the past, there were many words for "three noes" boys, which mostly referred to boys who had no cars, no houses, and no savings. At that time, such boys always had no market when they went on blind dates, but now, due to the greater change in the thinking of the younger generation, the importance of these hard material conditions is not as deep as in the past, but they have begun to pay attention to some intrinsic qualities.
01 The new "three noes" boys, even if they have a car and a house, are also disliked, and the parents' punches come a little too quickly
Aunt Wang and her husband gave birth to a son at the age of 40, or through test tube, because of Aunt Wang's physical condition, so it is more difficult to conceive, and she also gave birth to such a son, which is also extremely precious to this son. So from an early age, if her son likes anything, she and her husband will satisfy their son. Over time, the child's personality becomes very selfish and domineering.
When my son reached the age of 26, it was almost time to find a partner to marry, and my son had talked about many girlfriends before, but it didn't take long to break up. Now that she was old, Aunt Wang decided to give him a blind date. After all, the conditions in her family are still good, so the conditions offered by Aunt Wang to the matchmaker are also very high.
But after dating a few girls, Aunt Wang's sons were rejected one by one, which made the aunt really angry, and said that these girls really have no vision, how can her family say that they have a car and a house and a deposit, how can the son not find a partner. Coupled with the fact that I heard that the poor boys of the neighbor's family were all betrothed, it made Aunt Wang even more anxious.
Immediately after that, Aunt Wang asked the matchmaker to give her son a few blind dates, but none of them succeeded. Later, the matchmaker was really reluctant to help, and euphemistically told Aunt Wang that her son's personality was not compatible with other girls. It turned out that the personality that her son had cultivated since childhood had led him to pose a dangling and arrogant appearance in front of the girls, and always wanted the girls to be controlled by him, and no girl could bear this.
In fact, there are still many such men in the current blind date market, and such men are the most unpopular, similar to the recently popular "new three no boys".
02 Don't raise your son into a new "three noes" boy
What is the new "three noes" boy? It mainly refers to men who are incompetent, introverted, and unmotivated, and such men are much more terrible than the men who have no cars, no houses, and no savings mentioned before.
If a man is incompetent, then survival in society in the future has become a major problem. Now many parents do not pay attention to the cultivation of children's abilities when raising boys, but when the children grow up and look for jobs, they find that children seem to know nothing, even supporting themselves has become a problem, and finally they have to eat old.
Capable men, even though they may not have money, a car, or a savings at the moment, they have the ability to liquidate, which is more meaningful than existing property. Usually girls with a long-term vision will choose this type of man.
Secondly, if a man does not have a rich inner, then they will be relatively poor in terms of character, responsibility, morality, etc., how important this aspect is for men, presumably needless to say that parents also know. If the child is raised to look like this, let alone the child himself will suffer in the future, perhaps the parents will also be affected in their old age.
Just like a younger brother of my friend before, because he is the only boy in the family, he is very pampered, and as a result, he spoils the child into a lawless character, even if he is almost thirty years old, he will bump into his parents, nibble at home, and sometimes use things to throw his parents, not to mention scolding his parents casually. Moreover, his personality is extremely immature, and he is almost thirty years old and often clashes with other people, and every time the mess is cleaned up for him by his elderly parents.
Therefore, parents must establish a sense of rules for their children, and they must be both strict and pampered to their children, rather than blindly doting on their children. At the same time, it is also necessary to establish a correct three views for children, otherwise it will be difficult for children to form a relatively perfect three views system in the future, and they may also go astray because of the wrong three views.
Finally, self-motivation is the foundation of a man's roots. If men lack self-motivation, they are likely to eat old at home, or choose to live and live a life. In the absence of self-motivation, even if you have the ability, you will not be willing to show it. They will choose to back down when they encounter a little difficulty, and such a man will have a hard time succeeding.
Therefore, in the education of their children, parents should let their children learn to persist from an early age, and at the same time, they must let their children know how to strive for and let themselves develop in a better direction, rather than taking a backward road or stagnating.
The "three noes" boys of the past may have been just a lack of hardware, but these can be changed. But if the boy is really cultivated into a "new three no boys", this kind of decay has rotted to the root, and it is difficult to make a big change after the child grows up, so it is necessary to pay attention to the cultivation of these aspects from an early age.