I believe that many parents have such a sigh: it is too difficult to raise a boy! Either rebellious or weak, why can't you be as carefree as a little girl?
Because the mother herself is a woman, it is actually difficult to understand the thinking and feelings of the boy, which causes confusion and incomprehension between mother and child.
Every boy has a man in his heart! And what we parents have to do is how to help the child, tap the potential, and really grow into the manhood in his mind. Parents must not do these 5 things wrong, otherwise the child will either have violent tendencies, or be timid and cowardly and unable to bear things.
First, it is too late
Don't be reluctant to take care of your children. When they are 3-6 years old, they must show the power of authority, and the rules are unbreakable, which can set them a bottom line. Once this time is missed, the child's sense of autonomy is gradually strengthened, and it is difficult to restrain.
Second, children are not allowed to cry
Many parents like to use the standard of "manhood" to ask boys not to cry, not to shout bitterly tired. In fact, boys have normal emotional changes is a normal physiological phenomenon, emotions should be expressed, too much suppression will not be conducive to the growth of children. For example, those steel straight men, who speak smelly and hard, obviously because they have no cognition of emotions.
A man with a heart must have experienced crying and making a lot of noise, and finally bravely spoke out his feelings.
Third, counter violence with violence
When it comes to being beaten, boys definitely have more say than girls, because parents subconsciously resist beating boys. In fact, raising boys is the most taboo to fight violence with violence, which will convey to children the idea that violence is the most effective means to solve problems. One day, the boy will grow up, as tall as his parents, and then who will be waving his fist?
Fourth, only learning is lifting
All kinds of news in society that do not look for jobs and eat the old at home, why are these children "raised"? In order for their children to have a good future, parents often pay more attention to their children's studies, but ignore their children's labor. The child does not know how to work hard for the family from an early age, which makes it difficult to establish his sense of responsibility, whether it is a boy or a man, the sense of responsibility is the foundation of life. Be sure to let them learn to do their own things from an early age, to participate in housework, and if necessary, to help their parents work.
V. Critical education
Critical education is often implemented on boys, which directly leads to children's sense of self-worth is particularly low, do not believe in themselves, it is easy to lose motivation to learn, broken jars, or nothing, do not want to make progress. So when parents see their children done, even if it is a small thing, they must give them affirmation or gratitude, so that they know that they have "become", so that they have the motivation to start the next thing. Boys who are full of a sense of accomplishment from an early age have a very high sense of self-worth, and when they encounter difficulties and challenges, they are more inclined to accept the selection and find ways to complete the task, so as to get more sense of accomplishment.
Every boy will carry a family in the future, and this man is now the little baby in your hand, love him well, guide him, he will give you unlimited surprises!