-01-
Marriage can most change a person, especially a woman.
Marry well, be happy, marry badly, and be miserable.
In life, many women will spit on men's two looks before marriage and after marriage, spoil you into a treasure before marriage, and treat you as grass after marriage.
If love is the burning of each other's passion, then marriage is a trivial and complicated ordinary day.
However, the two people from entangled pity, inseparable, to chai rice oil and salt fireworks, all of which come from the joint operation of both sides.
If one party actively strives, while the other party is indifferent, one party only wants to enjoy more happiness, and the other party is tired and tired, then the two people will definitely be like strangers and cannot find the happiness of living together.
However, the life of fireworks needs money to support it, and the days of "sentient drinking water and fullness" are mostly "poor and lowly couples Pepsi lamenting".
All kinds of food, clothing, housing, education of the elderly and children, and so on, if the two people do not reach a consensus on "money", contradictions will continue to occur.
Therefore, those women who can be "looked up to" in marriage will most likely have these two skills:
One is to be able to balance each other's relationship, and the other is to have independent economic ability, such women, they will run the marriage to life, they have the characteristics of making their men addicted.
-02-
I remember someone saying that the most moving moment of love is the moment when the fireworks bloom, even if it is short, it can also taste a lifetime.
And, most of this kind of love will burn vigorously and lose quickly.
True love should be that two people in a lonely world can stay with each other plainly, can not complain to each other, do not cheat, know each other, and have the determination to "not be separated from each other".
Just like the love between Mr. Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Yang Dai.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said: Marriage is like a shoe worn on the foot, and only the toes know whether it is uncomfortable.
Therefore, whether marriage is suitable or not is actually the fit of the souls of two people, and it is each other's recognition of each other.
If the marriage of two people is just a simple control on the basis of combining with each other to "live together", there is less love as a foreshadowing. Then, this love, if in the process of the day after tomorrow's business, less of each other's wind and rain, less of the company of confusion and pain, most of them will only end up in a chicken feather.
The real marriage in the city is not only the burst of love hormones, but also the communication between the hearts of two people, so that they can resist the long years, and can be in the cold and complicated, the sky is long.
-03-
When people are young, they will always indulge in the romance of dog blood love dramas, but they will always be in "after two people have lived a happy life since then", the plot has also come to an abrupt end, and the specific happiness after marriage is unknown.
However, the greater the ups and downs, the more earth-shattering love, the more difficult it is to withstand the test of blandness, because both people are too eager for each other's love.
Therefore, there will always be a desire to get a lot of love from the other party, and this mentality will make both parties fall into a skeptical mentality.
Those women who can manage the marriage well, they will always use their own unfazed attitude, lock each other's love firmly in the "plain life", with a contented and happy mentality, with no envy, no jealousy, cherish the people in front of them.
Their attitude towards emotions is: partly on men, mostly on themselves.
When Mr. Yang Dai and Qian Zhongshu had just entered marriage, they went abroad to study together, because Qian Zhongshu was not accustomed to Western food, so the two of them immediately began to try to buy their own vegetables and cook after they had just had a small kitchen.
They went from being a little white who couldn't cook, to researching together, working together, "inventing new dishes" together... Yang Dai became the chef, Qian Zhongshu became an assistant, and the two of them were partnered together, so unhappy.
Yang Dai is used to going to bed late and getting up late, and Qian Zhongshu is used to going to bed early and getting up early, so every morning Qian Zhongshu is responsible for making breakfast, and Mr. Yang Dai is responsible for praise.
Love, not so complicated.
It is in each other's bland home life, a little sublimation, no need for sea oaths, no need to resist death, only a faint stream of thin water.
-04-
Life in the secular world, there are not so many sweet words, most of them are in the bits and pieces of life, a breakfast, a lover's nagging, a mutual concern, a word of concern... And these are the most beautiful trivialities that warm the heart of the lover.
Youth, will always be fleeting, the woman's face, but also today is older than last night, the years are mottled, in the blink of an eye, the sideburns are old, haggard, but a textured marriage, but can make women young forever.
In the days of studying abroad, Mr. Yang Dai will try his best to make the days more fun;
During the period of Shanghai's lonely island, although the life was poor, the two couples lived like fish.
In the past, Mr. Yang Dai, who was a delicate young lady, although she had a gap after marrying Qian Zhongshu, she did not feel aggrieved in the slightest, just as she herself said: The years when our husband and wife were in the Qian family were bitter and bitter, and the years of common hardships made my "foreign daughter-in-law" win the happiness of my public security and poverty.
Therefore, decades later, Qian Zhongshu said a sentence, which may be the most beautiful evaluation of the lover next to him:
I had never thought of getting married before I met her, I had married her for decades and never regretted marrying her; nor had I ever thought of marrying any other woman.
-05-
It is said that when men look at women, they all look at appearance.
However, outside of time, the appearance of a woman in marriage is not the primary consideration for men looking for a lifelong partner.
Because, a woman who lives with self-esteem and self-love, let men respect;
A woman with independent financial ability, so that men dare not underestimate;
On a plain day, a contented woman makes men feel at ease.
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These qualities of women, no matter who they marry, will be looked up to, they are emotionally stable, soft and strong inside, responsible, and have fun, they are confident and optimistic, and they are full of enthusiasm and passion for life.
A good marriage is the mutual achievement of life, and a bad marriage is a mutual failure of life.
The relationship between people is established bit by bit in life, every word and deed, and so are feelings, which need to be slowly accumulated and slowly precipitated.
Look closely at the women around you who are immersed in happiness, not only because she has a pampered husband, but also because she herself has the temperament to attract lovers and infatuate her.
The rest of her life is a long road, may every woman be able to live her own life, can live as much as possible, can hold the "right person", the left hand is gentle, the right hand is romantic, and walks through the years together.
Author, Frank Fox
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May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!