According to the survey, 70% of the parents of the people they talk about will object, so how to deal with the follow-up results? Do we choose to listen or reject? The answer is not absolute.
But one thing we need to remember is that parents object to thinking about us, thinking about our future, not wanting us to regret it in the future, hoping that we can live a little better.
Therefore, when parents oppose their own objects, we all need to calm down, think carefully, think about each other's relationships, and then make a decision.
After all, our parents have lived more than ten years longer than us, have more experience, and see problems much more thoroughly than we do.
What you have to do is to let your parents see the goodness of your object, not because of the rejection of your parents, arouse the rebellious heart in your heart, and strengthen your desire to be with him, and even agree to break off relations with your parents.
In the end, this is your own life, the opinions of parents can only be referred to, the road of life, can only rely on yourself to go, the result can only be tasted by yourself.
01, do not hesitate to break off relations with parents, but also with the object
On January 11, a wedding held by a farmer in Nanyang, Henan Province, triggered a heated discussion among netizens.
Some netizens uploaded photos of the groom and bride to the Internet, in this picture, we found that the bride was holding up a big belly, wearing a pink down jacket, a pair of gray sweatpants, not even the so-called wedding dress, and the groom wore a suit and a flower on his chest.
According to relevant personnel, the in-laws did not even rent the wedding dress in order to save money, and none of the bride's family members were present.
This is obviously an unblessed bride, an undesirable wedding.
The bride and groom are out of the home to work to meet, the bride's home is also very far away from here, when the bride took the groom back to her home to meet her parents,
Parents don't agree with them together.
The bride thinks she has grown up and has the ability to decide her own business, and the groom is so good to her that she feels she has chosen the right person.
So, despite his parents' objections, the groom's sweet words coaxed him back to his home, and the bride's parents broke off relations with her.
The bride came to the groom's house and stayed, and the groom's parents (that is, her in-laws) were also very kind to her, let her sleep every day until she woke up naturally, and did not have to work, and asked her what she wanted to eat, and everything seemed so ideal, she felt that she had found the right person.
What's wrong with not having money? But he's good to himself!
Women who fall in love are blinded in both eyes. If the groom is really good to her, he will not coax her to come to his home when her parents refuse, but should try to win the consent of the other parent, not let her follow him without honor.
Soon, not long after, the bride became pregnant, and the in-laws were very happy and anxious to let them have a wedding.
And the bride was also very happy to call her parents, but the parents were even more angry, saying that you did what you did, don't regret it, suffer hardships later, don't come to us.
The bride did not care, although she was a little sad, her parents still objected, but she thought that she was married to the right person, there was nothing wrong.
When her parents see her happy in the future, they will definitely accept it.
02, the in-laws' family is ugly for the first time
Because the parents did not agree, there was no bridesmith's family to attend the wedding, and the in-laws told the bride that they didn't care, everything was a formality.
We are all family, we will be good to you, you can marry with confidence!
The saddest thing is that the in-laws' family turned around and said to the neighbors outside, or the girl from the outside is good, don't need anything, just come to my house with my son, save more money.
The in-laws told him in the name of saving money that the wedding dress can only be worn once, and it is too expensive to rent, and it is better to waste money than to save some things for the child, and if you buy a suit, you can wear it after you buy it. So there was the scene of the wedding scene, where the bride was dressed in her usual clothes and the groom was wearing a suit.
In addition, the dowry money was not given because the consent of the mother's family was not obtained. There was no house, no car, no wedding photos, no gold, and finally only a gold ring was bought for the bride.
All of them are under the name of the family and do not have much money, and they will add children in the future, or save a little more in the name of children.
I think that when it comes to the wedding scene, the girl may also regret it, she imagines that all this is different from herself, and she may be suspicious.
And her in-laws' family is not good, coaxing women to come to his house, at first very good to her, in order to let her stay, and when she is pregnant, she feels that the wood has become a boat, it is a bit of a prototype.
How prevaricating and perfunctory this is in the name of saving money.
Although the home conditions of the bride's other half are not very good, and the wedding can save money, I think that there must be a form that must be had, and the etiquette should not be less.
Although the bride was very stupid at this time and did not see the truth of the facts, I think that after a few years, she suffered a lot, and she would definitely wake up and see the true face of her in-laws.
And his so-called groom was very good to her, and it was all drama. If it was really good for her, there would be no such a shabby wedding.
03) What should we do when our parents disagree with our partner?
Parents do not agree, the first is for us to consider, afraid of our hardships, therefore, we must carefully communicate with parents, listen to their parents' ideas.
Second, it may be that the parents do not understand your object, you have to let the parents who help you understand the good of your object, you can list it, you can also use it to calm down, think about what kind of advantages he has, let you decide to be with him at all costs.
For the above due to the poor material conditions of the groom's family, the bride's parents do not agree, and the bride believes that as long as the groom's family is good to herself.
At this point, the bride is very stupid, before marriage, the man must be good to you, after all, he wants to marry a daughter-in-law, do not coax you, how can you be with him, so being good to you is the basic condition.
The bride also needs to think carefully, in the decades since you were born, your parents have given you clothes to cook and give you money to spend, isn't this called good for you? Others can trick you away with just a few words, and you are a little lacking in love!
When the woman's parents object, your object should make an effort to win the consent of your parents, rather than tricking you into going with him, in addition, in the form of the wedding, although the conditions at home are not good, the form must be given to you, so that it can be done.
There is no absolute right or wrong in the choice of life, but I hope that you can be cautious when making every decision.
Encourage you!