Perhaps because of the experience of thousands of people crowded into the exam of the single wooden bridge, now many parents after the 80s and 90s pay special attention to their children's education problems, and even from the time the children enter the kindergarten, they have begun to implement the education plan for their children, reported a variety of interest classes, and arranged the children's time to be extra full, for fear that a little carelessness will lead to their children lagging behind others in learning.
Before seeing a message, about the education of a "tiger father" for his children, it simply made the majority of netizens stunned, and even some netizens doubted whether the child was his own child.
In the report, the father because the child failed to score a full score in a certain exam, only 99.5 points, he made a very severe criticism of the child, resulting in the child has a very serious psychological problem, fear to hear the words "reading" and "learning", will be convulsive.
After this situation, the tiger father quickly sent the child to the hospital for treatment, but during the child's treatment, the father did not stop educating the child.
Instead, textbooks and workbooks are taken to the hospital to continue learning for children who are being treated, and sometimes the children's memorization is spot checked, and even the medical staff next to them feel a lot of pressure when they see it, let alone a child who is receiving treatment.
The child's parents use this persecutory education method to raise the child into a "child of other people's families" that everyone envies, but ignores whether the child can withstand such an oppressive education from the parents.
So, is such an education really conducive to the personal growth of children? In fact, the answer is already obvious.
Raising a "perfect" child is actually quietly destroying a child
I believe that everyone has seen the news about the killing of his mother by Peking University graduates, and this incident has also caused a heated discussion among many netizens.
Before the incident, this Peking University graduate has always been a perfect image in the eyes of everyone, not only in learning is very outstanding, but also loves sports, can play musical instruments, and is a proper child of others.
However, it is such a child of another family that finally chooses to kill his mother and embarks on a road of no return.
Every parent wants to have a perfect child, and wants their children to be the best in life and learning.
In order to achieve such a goal, they not only have to meddle in the child's learning life, but also try to control the child's spirit and let the child grow up exactly according to their ideas, which seems to be cultivating a perfect child, but in fact, it is quietly destroying a child.
Use stick education to make children excellent, and one day it will make children's emotions explode
My neighbor's child was the same age as me, he had been studying in the same school since he was a child, and his grades were much better than mine, but in the second year of junior high school, he suddenly chose not to study, and he secretly ran outside to work alone, and did not come home for several years.
The reason why this result is largely related to the education of his parents, who are very strict with him, usually as long as he fails to pass the top 5 in the class, it is a punch and kick at home, and even sometimes let him kneel outside and reflect on his mistakes.
It was also under such an education that he felt that reading was a very painful thing, so, one night, he chose to steal the family's money, gave up continuing to study, and quietly ran to the field to work alone.
Now many parents are still pursuing the educational concept of "no fight, no talent", as everyone knows, today's children are actually very precocious, they have strong self-esteem, but also have their own ideas, if parents want to force them to obey through stick education, one day will make them suppress their emotions erupt.
Parents should understand that every child's talent is different, and it is more important to find that the child's shining point is more important than anything else
A netizen posted on the Internet to share his process of getting along with Peking University students, in which he described in detail the gap between himself and Peking University students, whether it is from the efficiency of learning a new thing, or from the efficiency of doing things, he is much worse than Peking University students.
He deeply analyzed the reasons for this, and the final result made him feel sad, which was not the reason for the effort or not, but the gap in talent.
In fact, there are not so many geniuses in this world, most of them are ordinary people with average qualifications.
Parents need to understand this, do not have too high requirements for children, just like the news of the 9-year-old "prodigy" who has caused heated discussion on the Internet before going to college, the father of this "prodigy" believes that his child is a genius, does not let his child receive school education, but carries out "seedling-fueled" education by himself, and finally lets the nine-year-old child go to the college entrance examination, only close to 300 points, only a college.
If you want to cultivate excellent children, you must be inseparable from the education and guidance of your parents
Parents lead by example to guide their children's interest in learning
In fact, whether the child's grades are excellent or not depends largely on the learning atmosphere at home, if the parents return home all day to watch TV and play games, then the child will naturally have a kind of learning, develop the habit of not loving learning and playing, and at this time, parents want to educate their children to learn well, which is also unconvincing for children.
Therefore, what parents should do is to be a good example for their children, read more books when they are fine at home, do more activities with their children that help cultivate interest in learning, create a good learning atmosphere at home, and make children more and more studious in this atmosphere.
Children's academic performance is not good, don't patronize the harsh, find out the reason is the key
Some parents not only do not comfort and encourage their children after their children's poor grades, but blindly criticize and discourage their children, which not only cannot achieve the purpose of educating children, but also make children lose confidence in learning.
After the child's grade declines, what parents should do is to analyze the specific reasons for the decline in grades with the child, and then improve according to the reasons, so as not to make the same mistake next time, so that the child can make progress.
epilogue
Just as the so-called "gold has no feet, no one is perfect", parents should not give their children too much pressure, which will not only not allow children to progress, but also affect their children's physical and mental health.
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