There is only one basic principle of education, that is, to let the child develop himself and use his self as a driving force for his learning and life.
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Anchor | Yangcheng Evening News all-media reporter Zheng Ziwei
As an old man with grandchildren, I have something to say about "chicken babies".
With WeChat, many parents have joined a variety of WeChat groups, I feel that now parents usually know from the circle of friends how good other people's children are, how many other people's children have attended cram schools, and the anxiety generated in this exchange has become the "standard" for parents. Training institutions always sell anxiety like this: "You come, I train your children; you don't come, I train his competitors." "They can always grab the hearts of parents at once and fuel their anxiety."
Stetson said in "Me and the Temple of Earth" that the pain of the child will be doubled on the mother. However, now that we retiree people who bring grandchildren and granddaughters to communicate together every day, the biggest realization is that if parents can't handle their anxieties, they will become the heaviest burden on their children's hearts. Many parents will use "no way, too many Chinese, too fierce competition" to explain the "last resort" to their children. Indeed, just as the so-called "people in the rivers and lakes, involuntarily", in the face of the "reality" of mutual comparison and pressure, it is difficult for parents not to "fight for a baby". But at all costs to enroll in classes, to fill the child's schedule, busy parents often have no time to take care of the mental and emotional needs faced by their children in the process of growing up, and even whether the child is overdrawing health. I often see tired children rushing to eat a little fast food at night and go to another class. In the rush of day after day, sometimes children simply do not have the time and more energy to seriously digest what they have learned, piano, chess, calligraphy, painting, music and dance, is the same as learning to lose.
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I am not against appropriate "early education", but "early education" is not necessary. Surveys have shown that receiving knowledge education too early, children are more likely to be bored with school, they are not satisfied when they play, they are exhausted at the beginning, they will lose their vision of learning and life, and they may double down when they should not play in the future. Knowledge such as English, literacy and addition and subtraction operations will be systematically learned at the primary school stage, and if the content of the primary school is learned in advance, the child may be absent-minded during class, and it is easy to cause the child's lack of stamina.
Only see the "scramble" in front of you, in anticipation of a place on a certain track, can not see the child's distance, can not see the child's agility, but also will inevitably lead to parent-child conflict. The "chicken baby" competition is greatly affecting the happiness of Chinese families, especially children know that they are the cause of their parents' anxiety, often the reason for their parents' quarrels, they may also feel guilty, and sometimes even give up on themselves, resulting in rebellious psychology. Therefore, I always believe that there is only one basic principle of education, that is, to let the child develop himself and use his self as a driving force for his learning and life.
Chen Gao, who has emerged in the international academic circle since his early twenties, is a 26-year-old distinguished professor at the Center for Geometry and Physics of the University of Science and Technology of China. His father, Chen Qianlin, has a famous saying in education: "Education, let the child dream, help the child to chase the dream, and do not care too much about whether the dream is fulfilled." "I agree.
Digital technology is disrupting many traditional job markets, and it's almost impossible to predict what kids will do in the next 5, 10 or 15 years. In the face of an unknowable future and more and more diverse social value evaluations, IMHO, every child has its own growth trajectory and preferences, do not force children to like what adults think they should like. Only what children like, they can really fully invest in their enthusiasm, and the motivation from the heart is the real motivation. Most of the children who grew up in the "chicken baby" atmosphere just passively accepted the "cramming" indoctrination. From the perspective of improving children's internal drive, the enlightenment and cultivation of interests and the formation of good habits are the best teachers. (Yangcheng Evening News, January 9, 2022 A7 edition Responsible Editor: Wu Xiaopan)
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