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A truly mature love will not only talk about love, but also consider whether two people are suitable, such as whether the three views are compatible, whether the personality is in tune, whether the ideas are similar, and whether there is a common language and common goals, which is the key to whether the two people can go on for a long time.
In addition, it is also necessary to look at the character and moral sense of the other party, which is also the key to the happiness index.
Some people, although they are very good-looking and have a very rich family, have a very low bottom line and are extremely irresponsible for their feelings. Then such a person, even if you love, may not be your good person.
Because he may not be sincere with you, even if he does a lot of things for you to achieve his own goals, he will not cherish it again.
In life, if you find that after someone is with you, the following two characteristics appear, then it means that his attitude towards feelings is not loyal, and it may only be a matter of time before he betrays you.
One: Unscrupulously chat with other members of the opposite sex about their feelings
Xu Jiao's boyfriend has a confidant of the opposite sex, and once any problem occurs in the relationship between the two, the boyfriend is always the first to contact this friend of the opposite sex.
Over time, when Xu Jiao once again had an argument with her boyfriend, she saw that her boyfriend was silent about herself, but actively called and complained to her friends of the opposite sex, and she finally couldn't help but erupt.
In love, women mind that men and other members of the opposite sex are too intimate, and men instead excuse themselves with the excuse that "women know women better", on the one hand, they show that they are actively looking for solutions, on the other hand, they have to silently accuse women of being too careful.
It is true that when a person is upset in the center of his feelings, he will indeed have the idea of venting his emotions, but too much talking to friends of the opposite sex about personal feelings will not only solve his own emotional problems, but will be counterproductive.
You know, love is a private thing for two people, a person does not mind sharing his private life with the opposite sex, no matter how perfect his excuse sounds, it is difficult to hide the fact that he is ambiguous with others.
In the world of feelings, we must not ignore a person's behavior because of his words, if the other party really wants to solve the emotional problems of two people, is there no other way but to seek help from friends of the opposite sex?
In today's era of rapid development of science and technology, a person can find knowledge about love through mobile phones, can also solve problems by reading relevant books, and can also find same-sex friends with emotional experience to seek the scriptures.
Love is indispensable to two people mutual understanding and tolerance, a person who truly loves you, even if there is a crisis in each other's feelings, will actively seek the right way to solve it, rather than making a helpless appearance and seeking comfort in front of other members of the opposite sex.
Two: The sense of boundaries between each other is blurred, and you habitually ignore your feelings
In the process of being ambiguous with the opposite sex, a person not only enjoys the stimulation brought by intimate actions, but does not need to bear any responsibility for it, and can be further upgraded to love, step back and use friendship to pick themselves clean.
In the process of interpersonal communication, some people are not unaware of the ambiguous actions of other opposite sexes, but the other party's behavior not only satisfies his vanity, but also does not harm his interests, so he just enjoys it.
A person who crosses the line in love will never look for a reason in himself, because it is always someone else who hurts.
Just like Xu Huanshan in the TV series "Thirty Only", he blamed his wife for being too strong after betraying his marriage. Some people even blame the third party for deliberately seducing themselves, while deliberately ignoring the fact that they have satisfied their desires and are not firm in their hearts.
But true love has always been exclusive, as Schiller once said:
"True love is single-minded, the field of love is very narrow, it is so narrow that it can only accommodate two people to survive; if you fall in love with several people at the same time, it cannot be called love, it is just an emotional game." 」
Two people who truly love each other know how to make adjustments for their partners and make each other's life rhythm the same frequency; they can also put an end to ambiguity with other opposite sexes and maintain their feelings for a long time; and they will strive to improve themselves and give each other a better partner.
A person who loves you deeply will hurt you to the heart without preconditions, rather than blackmailing you emotionally in the name of love.
Those who are ambiguous with other people of the opposite sex do not really love you, even if you pay more, it can not change the fact that he does not love you so much, or try to recognize the truth.
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