What if I have been in love with my girlfriend for many years and can't forget it after breaking up?

What if I have been in love with my girlfriend for five years and can't forget it after breaking up?

The questioner's description of the question is: I was in a relationship with my ex-girlfriend for five years, and now we have been separated for more than half a year, but I still often dream about her and think of her. Sometimes when I see my friend and his girlfriend in love for a few years without breaking up, I am very envious, and I wonder why I can't be with my ex-girlfriend.

Many people may have faced or are facing this problem, so let me make my point.

First of all, don't compare yourself to others, especially feelings.

Since it has fallen to the step of breaking up, it is definitely not suitable to continue to move forward. Whether it's you or her proposing a breakup, it's because something went wrong.

In fact, I think that although the timely stop loss is painful, it is not a good thing, you will eventually come out, but your current priority is to live in the moment, every day in the chewing pain at the same time, do not think too much about your unwillingness.

Keep a normal heart, think hard when you miss her, think hard, think about what to do after you pass, you can't just eat and sleep and work is to think of her, right? Find a hobby, for example, if you like K songs, then within three hours of going to KTV to sing, you put yourself in and you will find, hey, I haven't thought about her for three hours. Find more things to do, you will find that you think less and less about her, and slowly you can find that forgetting a person is not so difficult, it may be that the obsession in your heart makes you refuse to let go.

By the way, my experience, once, I was dumped, and then the first three days were almost to die, crying badly, the heart was like being pricked by ten thousand needles, and it hurt and sour, remembering that he was once so beautiful, I really couldn't believe that I was dumped, where did the former Sea Oath Mountain Alliance go.

Then I cried with his friends over and over again like Xianglin sister-in-law... Later, I found that it was really useless, except for his own heartache, he did not pay attention to me at all, and his friend only perfunctorily comforted me and said that this and that were over. Later, I felt that I should not be annoyed, and I would digest it myself if I felt pain in my heart.

As a result, after many days, I found that it did not hurt as much at the beginning, although I would cry. Then, three months, it was much better.

Of course, it will take longer to actually come out. It's just not like I didn't think about tea and dinner at the beginning, and I can't sleep at night.

Everyone heals at different times, but what I want to say is that after so many years, when I see his name again, I am even a little vague, who is this person, oh, I almost cried to death for him, but he said that the earth has not been turned.

If you don't love, you really don't love, and breaking up has become a foregone conclusion. You can only step on the pain and slowly walk out, even if your feet are stained with thorns, but when you endure the pain and walk out, you will find that everything is light and breezy.

After all, who hasn't lost love yet? And in this world, no one can live.