Wen | Cheats Jun
There is a saying that "husband and wife are originally birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when the great trouble comes", which I don't believe much.
After all, although we are pursuing a Chinese wedding, we also nod our heads at each other in the celebrant "Whether poor or rich, sick or healthy, good times or adversity, you are willing to love her, comfort her, respect her, protect her", and made a solemn promise to the other party, why do you have to "fly separately"?
But a moment ago I saw something that refreshed my cognition. I also have a lot of feelings because of this.
◆ 38-year-old female doctor suffered from cancer, slowly, the husband began to ignore not to ask, and even "please let go"
Li Li (pseudonym) came from a poor family, but fortunately she was angry and was admitted to Shanghai Jiaotong University for a doctorate. At school, she met Wang Dong (pseudonym), a fellow and senior, and the two married after graduation.
It is reasonable to say that the couple is highly educated, one is a doctorate and the other is an associate professor in the university, and the days will get better and better.
But things suddenly had a turning point.
A few years ago, Li Li was diagnosed with advanced liver cancer due to physical weakness. In order to treat her, her parents took out all their savings to treat her, but their savings were limited, and the money was quickly spent. In this way, Li Li can only rely on her husband Wang Dong.
Because Wang Dong has a good job and a good income, he was kind to Li Li at the beginning. But after Li Li's condition deteriorated, Wang Dong's attitude changed dramatically, and he began to often not go home. Even if he occasionally went home, he ignored Li Li until finally he filed for divorce.
Li Li, who is in a difficult situation and is counting on her husband's assistance, how can she agree to divorce? So the two kept on spending time. Seeing Li Li dragging away, Wang Dong was annoyed, sent a message to her sneeringly, and then simply disappeared.
Li Li was helpless and found a reporter to tell her dilemma. Wang Dong also complained, saying that he was 40 years old, not even a child, and he also had to think about his future life.
◆ In the face of disease, human nature is the most test
Judging from this incident, Wang Dong was indeed too selfish. He told reporters that he had spent 200,000 yuan for his wife, but the actual bank flow came out, only more than 40,000, and the rest were living expenses, which belonged to two people.
When the wife falls ill, the husband not only does not help with the treatment, but urges the wife to agree to the divorce, because he also has to marry another bride and have children. The wife understands that her husband is her last straw, and even if the husband is ruthless and unjust, he will not leave, which is really regrettable.
In the face of disease, human nature can be tested the most. It's not just husband and wife who are susceptible to testing, but also between parents and children, and between siblings.
In today's high divorce rate, many people have no hope for the love between husband and wife, if there is less of a child between the two, then who dares to expect that the other party will do their best to help when they have difficulties?
Some people say that advanced lung cancer is difficult to treat, and the bankruptcy of the family is only barely extending the life expectancy of a few years. This wife might as well accept it calmly.
Many people mention the pension in their old age, and they will always say that they really wait until the day of suffering from a serious illness, or the day when they are too old to get out of bed, they will find a way to end themselves. But you can never predict a person's desire to survive.
If you know that life is only a few years or even a few months left, who does not fear death, who does not want to live in this world? This wife, out of her survival instinct, wants her husband to fulfill the obligations of the spouse within the scope of marriage.
[The husband feels that the wife is dragging down, and the wife feels that the husband is desperate, what do you think about this matter? 】
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