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Most people will choose love first in love and bread, everyone feels young, why not choose a person they like? What if the person you like just happens to be the right person to go away for a lifetime?
So what is the most basic thing in the relationship? Must be mutual respect, the quality of a relationship is to see how much the two sides care about each other, if you feel that the other party is your life, indispensable, then you will find ways to make each other satisfied, even if you encounter problems between you, you will be the first time to let the other party forgive you.
So we can see that whatever you do is based on respect, so what if you don't? Dowry money and dowry are fundamental to whether a marriage can continue, and if all this can be discussed well, then there should be no problem on the wedding day.
However, there are now serious marriage disturbances in society, excessive grooms are tied to trees, and even many brides have to do things they are unwilling to do.
Today's story is shared by Li Li.
Love is always contradictory because of respect issues
Li Li's thinking is different from other girls, and some people may think that since they are in love with boys, if the other party needs help, they must help at the first time, but they must also be divided into situations. Li Li is different, in her eyes, the boyfriend should put himself first no matter what it is.
But machismo is also important compared to boys' machismo, so the two of them often have conflicts over this matter. On this day, the boy had a birthday, and Li Li thought that this kind of festival must be a sweet spot for two people together, but who knew that the other party had called a large group of people and broke everything that Li Li had carefully prepared. Li Li's face was suddenly unhappy.
The people around them were also very interesting, and immediately said: "Oh hey, you look at our light bulbs, the dating between couples is not good." If I had to say, let's go. Everyone was about to get up, and suddenly a boy said, "I didn't expect that such a face-saving person in the dormitory, how can it be like this all of a sudden?" A simple love affair, on the wife's strict control, what can you do if you get married? ”
The boy suddenly felt that Li Li was excessive, and he said, "As for you?" Isn't it that everyone is coming, when the two of us stay, it will be long, it is not easy for my friend to come to my birthday, what face do you throw? How could Li Li bear the boyfriend like this, Li Li said: "You mean to say?" In previous years, you were single and you loved to drip as much as you wanted, and now that we are together, I want to give you a birthday alone? ”
People around them looked at the couple and were about to quarrel immediately, and everyone wanted to leave quickly. At this time, the boy's face came, and the boy said: "I will tell you today, I like my friend with me, if you don't want you to leave, what does it have to do with me?" Isn't it just a love affair? How to make it impossible to even have friends. ”
Yes, in the end, the two people quarreled and even said the words of breaking up. In the end, the boy still begged for forgiveness, and Li Li told the other party: "If machismo is so important to you, then we will definitely not be able to go later." Besides, falling in love is inherently respectful of each other, and you can't just think about yourself. "After saying that, the two people reconciled.
Parents of both sides met
Later, the boy improved a lot, although the two people still had conflicts because of this, but they did not trust each other as much as they did at the beginning, as long as they felt that two people were going to have a conflict, they immediately solved the problem, rather than letting the problem spread to the point where it was unstoppable.
Fortunately, everything was well controlled, but when the two people talked about marriage, they all changed. Because they lived together after graduation, the boy's parents always felt that the girl was too cheap, and the two of them didn't have anything, so they took the initiative to live together. So they want to use this matter to talk about things when the two sides talk about the bride price.
As soon as the parents of the two sides met, the boy's mother put on an impatient look, Li Li was not a good person, Li Li said: "What do you mean by this?" The two of us shouldn't be together. The boy's mother immediately said, "Oh my mother, the family has done nothing, you have all begun to talk, meaning that you are the master in your family." ”
Li Li was just about to speak, and the other party continued: "Besides, do you mean to take the initiative to live with my son?" Are you afraid that you won't be able to marry? Rushing to our house to find my son? Whose girls would do this? Except for you, I know that I have seduced my son with all my heart, and this time you are in such a hurry to get married, I am afraid that I am not pregnant. ”
Li Li didn't know what to say at once, because she did say that she was pregnant, but she just agreed with her boyfriend not to tell both parents, but she didn't expect people to know so quickly. Li Li said, "What's wrong with us getting pregnant?" Don't you marry me when I'm pregnant? The other party said: "I will not go, it is this dowry money, halved." ”
After saying that, she did not give Li Li's family a chance to buffer and left, this time Li Li felt that she was not respected by the other party at all, but there was no way, the days passed day by day, the stomach was getting bigger and bigger, if dragged, maybe everyone would know when. In this way, Li Li can only be wronged and marry the other party.
Give up on marriage on the wedding day
In this way, the parents of both sides simply prepared for the wedding, Li Li also felt that since it was already like this, it was better to marry, and the boy had been in contact for so many years, not to mention that at least the boy was good, even if it was the other party's parents, the boy and himself were good.
But what she never expected was that on the wedding day she saw the scene she least wanted to see, when she got married, the boy was picked up after the difficulties arranged by the bridesmaids, on this day she felt that she was the happiest person in the world, and when Li Li arrived at the man's house, the boy also tried his best to maintain Li Li, afraid that what was not done well enough.
Just as the two men were about to enter the door, suddenly someone said, "This marriage is to kneel to the elders, although it is said that the elders of both of you are there, then you should also kneel." Li Li remembered that the day the parents met the other party was so reluctant, originally thought that her husband could protect herself, but when she saw that she was forced to kneel, people actually smiled.
This time the girl couldn't stand it, she pulled off the hijab, took off the wedding ring that could not be seen at all, and said: "You mean to laugh?" I'm not married. Everyone saw this and rushed to chase after it, and the boy immediately said: "On such a festive day, I must be laughing, you are not sick, what are you doing here?" After saying that, the boy continued to laugh, and Li Li said: "If your laughter is hilarious, I think you can be forgiven, but you are laughing at me, laughing at me for being pregnant and being pinched by your family, laughing at me being pressed to the ground and kneeling, this is not respectful, you know?" After saying that, Li Li left, never giving the other party a chance again, even if the other party regretted it. Later, the boy went to the house to find Li Li, and Li Li beat the child and did not forgive the other party.
The most lacking thing between people is mutual respect, I can inadvertently see each other's attitude towards themselves, at that time we feel that people do not value themselves, so it is uncomfortable. If this is the case, then you can theorize with the other party.
But respect still comes in familiar relationships, where strangers come forward to let each other say hello to each other.
Everyone likes to use the three views to say things, for example, whether these two people have the possibility of development, then look at the three views between the two sides? If it is suitable, it may develop for a long time, and if it is not suitable, it is estimated that it is the immediate relationship. But not all relationships are like this, if you are right in terms of point of view, but not necessarily in other ways.
So it's important to find the other half, don't always think that it's okay to find someone. Love is as important as bread, and after careful consideration, we make a choice, be responsible for ourselves, and be responsible for others.
Including in the interaction with friends, don't think it's nothing to joke about, the other party doesn't say that you are a friend, if people really think about your harm to others, you may not be able to make up.
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