Psychologist Brian Nofeo said: "Parental love is the best gift to a child." "The secret of family happiness is to put the relationship between husband and wife first.
Mom and dad love each other deeply, the whole family is filled with the breath of happiness and happiness, it will infect the child, the happiness and happiness that the child feels all day, naturally there will be no psychological problems.
A mother once came to me for help: "Should adults show affection in front of their children?" I replied, "Absolutely." "The message that parents show love in front of their children is that parents love each other deeply, and family relationships are stable and harmonious, which will make children feel safe and secure."
In an issue of "Teenagers Say", a boy stood on the stage and openly complained about his parents, "disgusted" parents always showed love in front of him, taking advantage of his schooling, parents went to the movies, climbed mountains, traveled together... "Parents are true love, and I am just an accident", the boy's mouth said "dissatisfied", but his face was full of happy smiles.
Then the conversation turned sharply: "However, I am actually very happy to see that you are so loving and the relationship between husband and wife is so good." Mom and Dad also looked at him with a smile under the stage and said, "You will always be Mom and Dad's baby, and Mom and Dad will always love you." ”
In her essay "Family Questions", the writer Bi Shumin once compared home to a pupae wrapped around a baby. If the home is filled with healthy love pollen, the child can break through the cocoon and become a butterfly, spread its wings and fly. Therefore, parents love, children can grow up healthily.
If you want to create a happy family environment, you must put the relationship between husband and wife in the first place in the family relationship.
Many families are because of the dislocation of the relationship order, resulting in discord between husband and wife, and the integrity of the family depends on the parent-child relationship in maintenance, which will cause so many tragedies.
Parents think that they are giving their children a complete home, but they do not know that this kind of seemingly complete but in fact a broken home will cause more harm to their children.
Divorce does not necessarily cause psychological shadows to the child, but the cold war often quarrels between the husband and wife at home will definitely cause damage to the child's heart. In fact, only when you are happy yourself, you have the ability to bring more happiness to your children.
Once parents have the idea of "children are more important than everything", they will become full of control, involuntarily want to control their children's lives and thoughts, and eventually cause tension between parents and children, resulting in a series of family conflicts.
Data show that the root cause of many children's psychological problems is in the parents, the original family is not harmonious, and the relationship between husband and wife is tense.
The harmonious relationship between husband and wife is the foundation of a family's maintenance, and it is also the basis for the healthy growth of children, please take good care of your partner if you love your children.