A couple in Huainan, Anhui Province, quarreled on the highway, the wife jumped from the highway bridge in a hurry, and then the husband jumped down with it! Even the happiest couple will quarrel, and there will be no quarrels in marriage, but there will be no quarrels. The more quarrelsome the feelings of husband and wife, the better, and the more they will not quarrel, the more hurtful they are!
First, why do even loving couples quarrel between themselves?
Because there are differences between men and women themselves. Women are more concerned with feelings, and for many things she judges through feelings. Men are more rational and better at analyzing and solving problems. This is equivalent to the "feeling person" meeting the "mind person".
The woman said, "Husband, I'm so tired today!" The owner was annoyed and kept asking me to do things that were a waste of time, and I was about to be driven crazy! ”
The man said, "If you're not happy, then leave your job!" ”
The woman was angry: "How can I tell you that I don't understand, I don't want to tell you!"
The man's face is blindfolded! What the hell am I saying wrong!
In fact, in this dialogue, the girl just wants to get the care and attention of her husband! I've had a busy day and need your comfort!
And what my husband thinks is, how can I help you solve this problem? Thinking about it, resignation is the best solution!
As a result, the two were not on the same channel, and naturally the conversation collapsed. It's the equivalent of me talking to you about feelings and you're being reasonable with me. This is a plot that many couples are playing out. And such quarrels have nothing to do with love!
Second, couples who do not quarrel hurt others and hurt themselves!
In marriage, I am not afraid of quarrels, but I am afraid that I will not quarrel
As soon as many couples quarrel, they have no mouth to cover and speak harshly to each other. It was as if the original lover had instantly become an enemy.
Xiao Min and Xiao Ping were originally a very loving couple. Married for 2 years, the relationship has been very good. One day, her husband Xiaoping bought a bag for his wife and returned home in a beautiful mood, hoping to surprise his wife! Unexpectedly, when I showed my bag to my wife, my wife was furious! The reason is that the color of the bag is not what the wife likes.
The wife scolded: "We have been married for 2 years, and you don't know the color I like!" ”
Xiaoping felt innocent and retorted: Why are you so unreasonable!
The wife was even more angry and punched Xiaoping and scolded: "Are you unreasonable? You roll me, you go and die! I'll never see you again, you're going to die..."
I didn't expect the tragedy to really happen! The husband went out and was hit by a car and died on the spot!
Know that every unintentional evil word you utter will be like a sword, deeply inserted into the other person's heart, causing wounds that cannot be healed. Even an unintentional remark has become a lifetime regret! So, when emotions take over your senses, swallow hurtful words back into your stomach!
Third, the more quarrelsome the feelings of husband and wife, the better
In fact, quarrels are not necessarily all bad! Quarrels are sometimes also the spice of love! The right argument is to express one's demands directly. We can express anger, but don't express anger!
Cai Shaofen has been married for more than ten years and is still as sweet as her first love. Once Cai Shaofen asked Zhang Jin for a kiss. Zhang Jin kissed him for a moment and said: "All the old husbands and wives." Then I was busy with my own business.
Cai Shaofen was very unhappy to hear it. But she didn't say anything like you didn't love me anymore!
Instead, he said to his husband head-on: Why do you want to say that the old husband and wife are old? You say that, and it gives me the feeling that love is dead and all that's left is the feeling of family. Ten years have not arrived between us, we still have twenty Chinese New Year's Eve years and forty years, how will we live in the days to come?
Zhang Jin listened to his wife's words and knew that his words made his wife sad, and he could not say such words in the future!
More than ten years of love and love is not without reason, women are very clear to express their feelings, men are very considerate to understand the wife, and respect the wife's feelings. Let's not feel good about the way they get along!
Fourth, husband and wife quarrel, the more quarrelsome feelings, the sweeter the little trick
Daily trivial marriages cannot always be calm, and quarrels are inevitable! Next, I will share with you the little tricks of the husband and wife quarrel, the more quarrelsome the sweeter the feelings
1. When arguing, express your feelings directly instead of venting your emotions!
Only when you tell the other party the true thoughts of the mind will they be understanding your appeal. Blindly venting emotions will only push each other farther and farther away, and it will not help in the slightest to solve the problem!
2. Lin Wencai said: There are conflicts in marriage, and mutual concerns are taken care of to resolve them.
What is mutual concern?
One thing, something, or something else, is not what I want, but I know you want it a lot, and if it's not too difficult for me, I'm willing to do what you want without asking too many reasons. That's what we think of each other.
In the end, I hope that all quarrels will turn into opening the door to each other's hearts. Face every quarrel in the trivialities of marriage in the right way. May every couple quarrel with each other and get sweeter!
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