There are adolescent children at home, parents always have headaches, and their rebellion sometimes exceeds their parents' imagination, but at this time, no matter what their parents say, the children can no longer listen. Only then will parents reflect on our past education of our children, and if we can give the right education to our children in childhood, maybe everything will be different.
Psychology believes that the impact of a child's early experience on the future accounts for up to 80%.
But many parents often ignore this, thinking that their children are so young, what can they understand? So they just threw some toys and a few paintings at them, but rarely really bothered to accompany them.
In the first few years of the child's growth, it is difficult for parents to find some defects in the child's personality, and they will not pay too much attention to the child's inner bad emotions. But I don't find that not paying attention does not mean that it does not exist, these will take root in the child's heart, until one day suddenly erupts.
Parents must grasp the golden years of a child's life, because once missed, it will affect the child's life.
One year old cultivates a sense of security in children
Security is something everyone needs, whether it's a child or an adult, especially for children, security is especially important. Most of their sense of security comes from the outside world, and the most important of them is naturally their parents.
If parents always ignore their children and shift the responsibility of caring for them to others, then even if children can grow up healthily, their inner world is incomplete. No matter how good the person being cared for is to them, it can't make up for the impact of the lack of parents in their hearts.
If the child cannot gain a sense of security at this time, then the child will suffer from gains and losses in the process of growing up. This feeling may even continue into their adult life, because the shadow of childhood is the most indelible.
Two-year-olds cultivate a sense of trust in children
From the age of two or so, children will have their own consciousness, which is mostly unconscious, and they may not understand what their actions mean, sometimes purely for fun, sometimes just to control their bodies.
At this time, parents should learn to let go appropriately, and never stop their children from doing this and that. Perhaps from the perspective of parents, it is for the safety of their children, but it invisibly obliterates their enthusiasm, leading to the child to have an illusion that parents do not believe in themselves.
When a child's sense of trust cannot be established, they become inferior. Because their closest parents are suspicious of them, who else would trust them? When a child labels himself negatively, everything becomes difficult to change.
Three-year-olds develop children's independence
For a long time after birth, children need careful care from parents and family members, because young people do not have enough hands-on ability and lack of judgment about danger, so parental care is particularly important.
But after the child is three years old, parents can learn to let go appropriately, under the premise of ensuring the safety of the child, let the child do something by himself, let them understand the world through personal experience, which will bring children different senses.
Never trap your child in a cage, as the child will become timid and unconscioned. When children become accustomed to relying on their parents everywhere, their personalities will become selfish, and it will be difficult to integrate into society when they grow up.
Four-year-olds cultivate a child's view of right and wrong
Parents should teach their children to distinguish between right and wrong, tell their children what is right and what is wrong, and let their children know that some things need to rely on their own judgment. Of course, not everything can be directly distinguished from right and wrong, so the child's concept of right and wrong is very important.
As far as possible, take your children to see more of the world, the so-called more knowledgeable. They may not be able to grasp much for their children, but what they see, hear, and experience will become a valuable asset.
Regarding the first 4 years of your child's life, we will share it here today, I hope it will help you. If you still want to see more parenting knowledge and management, welcome to like and pay attention, I will continue to update.