Parents raise their children in the wrong way, bringing not love but hurt to their children, and children regard their parents as enemies and desperately want to resist and flee. These four kinds of parents are the easiest to raise an enemy.
Controlling parents, let the child just want to escape. Xiaoyu is a child of a single-parent family, her father cheated on her, and her mother raised her alone, pinning all her hopes on Xiaoyu's body.
She controls Xiaoyu's life, peeks into Xiaoyu's diary, does not allow Xiaoyu to close the door, and bribes Xiaoyu's classmates to help monitor Xiaoyu at school.
She asked Xiaoyu's mobile phone to keep on at any time, call to answer immediately, no matter what Xiaoyu is doing, as long as the mother calls Xiaoyu, Xiaoyu does not receive or answer late, the mother will keep calling bombardment, calling Xiaoyu's friends and classmates, until Xiaoyu is found.
The mother monitors Xiaoyu's words and deeds, kidnapping Xiaoyu with love, Xiaoyu carries all the hopes of the mother, does not dare to resist, nor can she bear to resist, can only continue to tear and hurt her soul, parents control the child in the name of love, in fact, it kills the child's true self, turning the child into a marionette.
Absent parents are the root of their children's rebellion. The things that the parents promised but did not do, the child asked for a reason, and the parents instead scolded the child and asked the child, "Why is it so ignorant?" ”
Grievances and disappointments accumulate in the child's heart, so that the child is reluctant to open his mouth to the parents again.
As a parent, the most important responsibility is to accompany and guide the child, accompany the child to establish a stable emotional attachment relationship with the child, which is the basis for discipline and guidance of the child, if the parent does not establish an emotional dependence relationship with the child, the parent's discipline has no weight in the child.
Doting parents can ruin their children. Being obedient to the child, responding to every request, and embracing the child's fault without a bottom line will cultivate arrogant and selfish children, and eventually the child will be destroyed in his own arrogance.
Coddling is never the real love of children, coddling is satisfied with the parents' self-touch, and truly loving children should be considered for the long-term development of children.
In the dining room sat a family of three, the little boy wanted to go to the toilet, but the toilet was too far away for him to move, so his mother skillfully picked up the mineral water bottle, and his father whistled on the side, and this skillful operation stunned the people in the restaurant.
Someone comes forward to theorize how to go to the toilet before the table? The mother said arrogantly: "How can you be so kind as an adult to worry about a child, the child can't hold back, what if the body is broken so small?" ”
It is really impossible to imagine what kind of future a child will have when he grows up under the tutelage of such parents, and such love is harmful.
Violent parents that inspire aggression in children. A child who cannot communicate, loses his temper frequently, and throws things and hits people is likely to have a violent parent standing behind him.
When the child is young, there is no ability to resist the violent acts of the parents, the fear in the heart cannot be discharged, and the fear will remain in the bottom of the heart, and when he has the ability to resist, this fear will be ignited, arousing the child's aggressiveness and revenge, becoming rebellious and difficult to discipline.
Violence will not only cause harm to the child's psychology, but also adversely affect the development of the child's brain, which will make the child stupid.
Children's hearts are soft, have a natural attachment to their parents, do not use the wrong parenting method to make them cold and violent, turn them into an enemy.