Today received the contact details of a friend. He had something to say to his parents, sincerely and reasonably. Now let's hear what he has to say. By adolescence, I was a bit rebellious and rebellious. Parents don't know what to do. I gradually drifted away from you, and gradually stopped listening to discipline. I don't want to do that. I wanted to say something I was afraid of becoming normal, but I didn't want to say it. Slowly, you checked a lot of information and found a lot of ways, but you still didn't know how to get along with me. In fact, the people who know me best know that I am not difficult to teach. The first adolescence I greeted was not physical. Change is nothing more than the pressure to learn.
Before the physical and psychological changes of adolescence began, the increase in the difficulty of learning and the prolongation of learning time were already stressing me. What's the use of taking it step by step? My parents only know that my grades don't care about my extreme thoughts, so I want to listen not to supervision and scolding, but to your inquiry. Is it stressful to study? Which teacher do you prefer, how is school life, etc.? In this way, I feel that you are willing to listen to me, understand my history, and your understanding, tolerance and encouragement will make me trust you more, reduce the burden of learning, and be willing to communicate with you. Then I will feel the physiological changes of adolescence accompanied by the psychological changes that are coming, I long for independence and equality, but the reality is that I still need to rely on you to live, and this advanced sense of contradiction makes me depressed and irritable, so I am more tired of your command gestures and feeling my life.
I even started rebelling against my parents. At this time, I hope you can treat me as an independent adult to respect me and treat me as a friend, so if you are willing to discuss my growth and development with me, I will be happier, and hope that you can put forward my opinion on everything and let me participate in the management of the family. I believe I have the ability to handle things independently. Only then can I feel like I've grown up, without conflict, without distress. After entering adolescence, friends are important to me. By the way, I have some little secrets I don't want to tell you. I want to talk about this to my peers who are in the same mood. I also want to be understood and recognized by them. Can you let go slowly at this time? Many encouraged me to socialize with friends and allowed me to have an independent circle of friends. Parents shouldn't force me to specify who I should play with. Who can I play with? Your gentle inquiry and listening makes me happier than hard testimonies, ah, me.
It is unique. I don't want you to generalize all my actions in terms of rebellion. Even if you have a great desire to communicate, you will be dispelled by labeled rebellion. What may I not understand during adolescence what I want? But what I do is an expression that I hope you understand, so don't explain all my actions with rebellion, ask me and I'll tell you why I'm doing it, if there's too much I'm doing, positive scolding or covering up. I need you to deal with it fairly. That's what the young listener wanted to say. I hope his parents can hear the lemon, contact many adolescent parents and children, and educate adolescent children to watch. It seems difficult, but it's actually quite simple. As long as you understand why this is the case, there is a way to deal with it. Among them, communication is the most important, first of all.
Replace emotion with reason to express opinions. When explaining your thoughts and advice to your child, don't feel condescending and irritable. Be reasonable and well-founded. Slowly give your child an analysis and give your child time to think. Second, adolescent children who communicate sincerely with their children are sometimes immersed in their own world, sometimes talking, hurting their parents, sometimes making mistakes, and unwilling to admit that parents at this time should not hate iron-like roars and knocks. Curse people, do not secretly pity, wait for the child's mood to stabilize, truthfully tell the child how he feels, more noisy, and communicate with the child? Children love their parents. Xu Xin told them that when they know that their actions have hurt their parents, they will know to be more considerate of their parents, and then show their weaknesses to the children.
Parents are advised to use fewer words when communicating with their adolescent children. Maybe good or bad. You should have what you know? Wait because they think they have grown up in their hearts and the child will not accept orders. Parents' inquiry and respect at this time will increase the child's self-confidence, increase the motivation to learn, make the child willing to talk to the parents, and often encourage their children in the end. Adolescents and children often hover between self-denial and self-affirmation because of their unclear understanding of themselves. A single word from those around them, coupled with some unconscious temptations, will increase or decrease their self-confidence. Parents should pay attention to discovering and looking for their children's advantages and good performance in life, and then praise and affirm in time.
Increase your child's sense of achievement and self-confidence, so adding some parent-child activities, you can go out together, exercise together, do housework together, etc., will bring you closer and increase the opportunity for communication. Finally, it's not hard to know that adolescent children aren't hard.