When the parents are gone, the brothers and sisters will disperse, is this true?
In fact, once the parents are gone, no matter how good the feelings of the brothers and sisters are, they cannot return to the closeness and intimacy of the past. Even more often, the feelings of brothers and sisters will go farther and farther, and even break off the relationship in the end.
But sometimes, the reason why the feelings of brothers and sisters will fade are inseparable from the eccentricity of parents. Some parents, who prefer sons to daughters, and some parents, who are only partial to one child, are justified in robbing the rich and helping the poor.
01, the son is the treasure, the daughter is the grass
Liu Jing used to be the filial daughter of the family, but now, she has cut off contact with her parents and brother because of the reimbursement of 50,000 yuan.
Whenever she talks about this, Liu Jing can't help but burst into tears. Because cutting off contact with her mother's family was not what she wanted to see. But she didn't want to aggrieved herself anymore.
Liu Jing is the eldest daughter in the family and has a younger brother below. Among the two sisters and brothers, the younger brother is the smartest and most prominent one in the family, and he is also the most loved by his parents.
Liu Jing had a good academic performance, but after finishing high school, her parents persuaded her to go out to work and support her brother to study. Liu Jing cried for a long time, but her parents still did not waver. In the end, Liu Jing had to embark on the road of part-time work.
Since then, Liu Jing has naturally become her parents' ATM. The younger brother went to college, and his parents asked Liu Jing to be responsible for the tuition and living expenses of the four-year university. The younger brother works, and his parents ask Liu Jing to help solve the accommodation problem.
In short, before Liu Jing got married, her world was only left to work hard to earn money and support her parents and brother. When Liu Jing did not comply slightly, her parents cried and accused her of filial piety, and the whole family was counting on her brother, but she stood by and watched.
Even if Liu Jing later talked to her husband about marriage and got married, her parents did not let her go. He asked the man for a dowry of 100,000 yuan, but only gave her a dowry of 10,000 yuan. Therefore, Liu Jing did not suffer from her mother-in-law's blank eyes and ridicule, saying that her parents were selling their daughters.
Although in her mother's family, she is a grass and her brother is a treasure, Liu Jing still does not make up her mind to refuse any request from her parents. Because she believes that her parents are also forced.
02, the father is sick, the mother let the daughter out of 100,000, the son out of 20,000
It wasn't until her father fell ill and her mother's preference for sons and daughters and eccentricity that Liu Jing was discouraged. As soon as my father fell ill and heard the doctor's request to raise 120,000 yuan for the operation, my mother did not hesitate to open her mouth to her, asking her to take 100,000 yuan and my brother to take 20,000 yuan.
At this time, Liu Jing has long had no income at home because of the birth of a child. Her mother asked her to take out 100,000 at once, not only Liu Jing's husband did not agree, but even the in-laws also had great opinions. But the mother ignores this, she believes that the children should honor their parents, no matter when the parents want money, the children should have no remorse.
Liu Jing discussed and asked her husband to find a way to come up with 50,000 yuan. But her husband did not agree, and Liu Jing herself did not have any money. As for his younger brother, after getting married and starting a family a few years ago, his parents bought him a house and a car, and his life was particularly relaxed.
Liu Jing consulted with her mother, and she and her brother each paid half, 50,000, but they were rejected by their mother. The mother believes that her son has only recently married and started a family, and he certainly does not have so much savings in his hands. But the daughter and son-in-law are different, the daughter has no income, but the son-in-law's salary is not low.
In the end, under the hanging of her mother's crying, two troubles and three hangings, Liu Jing compromised again. She went home to complain to her husband, and promised her husband that as long as her father survived this time, she would no longer care about her mother's affairs in the future.
For the sake of years of feelings, my husband agreed and took out 100,000 yuan. However, what made Liu Jing unexpected was that with this 120,000 yuan, her father survived. However, when she was discharged from the hospital, her mother directly gave all the 50,000 yuan reimbursed to her brother.
03, "The two sisters and brothers paid for it, but you gave all the reimbursement to your brother"
Liu Jing was not willing, nor did she ask her parents, the two sisters and brothers, I gave 100,000, my brother only gave 20,000, this 50,000 reimbursement, no matter how much should be divided into half of me. As a result, before Liu Jing's voice could be heard, her mother interrupted her.
The mother said with a straight face: "The money given to us, the reimbursement is also our money." Our money, love to give to whom, is it as a daughter, filial piety to parents 100,000 yuan, but also to receive returns? ”
Liu Jing's heart was cold, although she knew very well that her parents were human beings, and she was also very clear that her parents would prefer sons to daughters, but she did not expect that her parents would be so patriarchal. Finally, Liu Jing coldly said to her parents, "The two sisters and brothers paid for it, but you gave all the reimbursement to your brother, so you will follow your brother to retire from now on." ”
Since then, Liu Jing has rarely returned to her mother's house. My parents have also called many times to ask for money, but they have all been rejected by Liu Jing. Although her parents still said bad things about her filial piety in her hometown, Liu Jing did not feel half guilty and uneasy. She believes that as a daughter, she has done her best.
The two sisters and brothers paid for their father's medical treatment, but in the end, they were reimbursed, and the money was given to their brother by their parents. What the parents do, how can they not make the daughter feel cold? Even if the daughter has a strong heart, she cannot accept the reality that her parents are eccentric to the point of outrageous.
Therefore, many times, it is not that the daughter who is married is not filial piety, nor is it that the daughter who is married has to break off relations with her mother's brother, but that the parents are too patriarchal and the parents are too eccentric, which is the fundamental reason for the children's disjointment.
Today's Topic:
Do you think parental eccentricity is the reason for siblings' disconnection?