Nowadays, many parents avoid their children no matter what they do, because everyone generally feels that such a young child does not understand anything. Even if he saw and heard something, he didn't understand or remember. This view is wrong, don't look at the child is still young, just think that the child does not know anything. In fact, children are much smarter than we know, if parents have any inappropriate behavior in front of their children, children remember and imitate, it will definitely have a deep impact on children.
I have seen such a thing, there is a little boy in the relative's family, probably four or five years old, just went to kindergarten. Once, some relatives in the house gathered, a group of adults chatted inside the house, and several children played outside.
It was all good, but after a while I heard the cries of a child. It turned out that when this boy was playing with other children, there was a little girl who wanted to go to the toilet, and he followed the people to stare at the little girl. She couldn't leave, and the little girl cried when she was in a hurry.
A group of adults asked the little boy what was going on? How can I take advantage of other people's little girls, I didn't expect that the little boy was also full of innocence, very aggrieved to say, why can't I see? At home my mom peed with me. A group of adults suddenly realized, and the boy's mother blushed next to her.
Later, after chatting, I learned that the child's mother had always been like this at home. Undress in front of the child, go to the toilet, and never shy away from the child. Because she thinks that the child is still young anyway, and she is his mother, what are she afraid of?
A group of relatives listened to it and was angry and funny. It turns out that it is this mother's behavior that will make her child so old but have no gender awareness.
This mother is not a separate case, and now many mothers feel that their son is not an outsider, what is there to avoid?
But in fact, children have formed a gender consciousness around the age of three, they have begun to understand the difference between father and mother, and will wonder what is the difference between boys and girls' bodies.
What a wise mother has to do is guide her child well and let her child establish the right gender awareness. Instead of doing whatever you want in front of the child, this is a misleading way for the child.
When the child goes to school, he will be more curious about the opposite sex around him, and if the parents do not educate and guide the child well, he may make incorrect exploration because of this curiosity. As I said in the above example, fortunately there are no serious consequences, otherwise it may have a lifelong impact on the child.
The most important thing for parents is to cultivate a correct outlook on life values for their children. So start with yourself and set a good example for your children. If your child is old, parents should give their children the right guidance on gender issues. Don't be shy about talking about it or hiding it, otherwise it may make your child curious and confused about this aspect and make inappropriate moves.
Do you shy away from your children at some point at home?