If your baby is preschool, in life, you will inevitably encounter him crying and tantrums. At home we can still cope, but this behavior occurs in public, so what should we do in the face of the baby's sudden bad emotions?
From a psychological point of view, tantrums are a manifestation of a child's psychological needs. With the physical and psychological development of infants and young children, the contact with things will gradually increase. However, their knowledge and need for things cannot be as rational as adults, and they will decide according to their own emotions and interests, and let their subjective dispositions and preferences do things, even if these things are often inappropriate, unfavorable, and even harmful to him.
If your child loves to lose his temper, you should not easily conclude that you have no way to teach your children, first try to understand them, and then understand the child's thoughts, and begin to analyze the deep reasons behind the child's tantrums. And children love to cry and be too pretentious, most of them are used to parents!
Health problems
Physical discomfort can affect a person's ability to control. Usually children are prone to grumpiness when they are uncomfortable, for example, when they are sick, tired, and hungry, which is the same as adults, except that adults will express their will, and most children will not use words to express their feelings of physical discomfort. Therefore, it is often through crying to convey the message. Experienced mothers are good at judging their physical condition in combination with the situation and the child's emotional state to avoid the child's tantrums.
Responsive
If parents spoil their children too much, let them do whatever they want, and respond to their needs, children will tend to use their parents' concessions and compromises to achieve their wishes, even in public, children will have no scruples, and they will cry and make a lot of noise if they are not satisfied.
Imitate adults
Parents' words and deeds are a mirror of children's behavior, parents love to lose their temper, it is inevitable that children will also form the habit of loving to lose their temper. Some adults are prone to anger when things go wrong, and if parents or teachers are angry, children will imitate them. Many parents see their own shadows in their children, from cute shadows to irritable and irritable images.
Suffer setbacks
Frustration is also one of the main reasons why children lose their temper and cry. Two- and three-year-olds grow up quickly, with a strong desire to be self-reliant and in control, but are often hindered by adults or their own limited abilities. At this time, the child will feel frustrated with his limited ability, feel angry about his incompetence, and therefore vent.
So what is a good solution to the problem when facing a child's tantrum?
Hold your horses
When the child loses his temper, the parents must keep calm, because the angry parents will make the child more annoyed. You can vent your anger, but don't target your child, who has poor self-control. Parents should speak to their child in a gentle, consultative tone and ask him if he is tired or unwell. If your child loses his temper because he is unwell, you should sympathize with him at this time, because it is not unreasonable for him to lose his temper at this time.
Divert attention
Sometimes a child loses his temper because he is hungry, sleepy, or has been in the supermarket for too long to make him irritable. When parents encounter this situation, they should not immediately follow the impatience and tantrum, but try to distract him, say something interesting to him, see the cabbage, tell a cabbage nursery rhyme, see the paper, make up a story of Donald Duck and the paper. You can also let him join in the selection of food, help find a shoe store, read the shopping list for you, if the parents invite, the child is willing to help the parents to do these things, which can divert the child's attention, so that he is too busy to lose his temper.
Cultivate children's self-management awareness
One of the most fundamental reasons for tantrums is that children lack the ability to control themselves and manage themselves. Therefore, parents should usually pay attention to cultivating their children's awareness of self-management. For example, let the child put the finished toys in the cabinet, sleep and get up and put a small pillow towel on the pillow, over time, these small things will help him learn to restrain himself and control himself, forming a good habit of self-management.
breathe deeply
When you find that your baby's emotions are about to explode, you can let your child take a deep breath with you. It is best to give the child a demonstration, and the movements can be exaggerated. After 5-6 deep breaths, the child will not be as angry as before.
Paintings
When the child is older and can understand the adult expression, you can let the child draw the "angry" on the paper. It's also a great way to vent negative emotions.
Talk to your child
For children who can already express their needs, you can ask the child why he is unhappy and what he can do to make him more comfortable. For example, if a child's toy is broken by other children, he asks the other party to pay one. At this time, parents can let the other parent cooperate with themselves, and then explain the reason to the other parent, which will generally be understood.
Calm your child down on their own
Many parents will immediately pick up their children when they see them crying, and even threaten their children. This will only make the child cry more severely, even if the child does not cry for a while this time, but will still cry when he encounters similar things in the future.
In fact, when you see a child crying, you really don't want to be too anxious. You know, 'crying' is a very effective method of emotional catharsis. If it affects the people around you, you can hold the child to a quiet place and let the child calm down first.