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Some time ago, there was such a hot search on Weibo:
The library loses power and makes a wish for 30 seconds.
There are hundreds of millions of netizens to pay attention to the discussion, in fact, the betrayal and regret in love, may be experienced by everyone, but after reading that story, it is still uncomfortable for a long time.
The story is about a girl's eight-year youth, who is about to draw a happy ending, and is stepped in by others.
In fact, the girl has long felt that the boy is wrong, just eight years of feelings, she trusts her boyfriend's heart to not take the initiative to cheat, and is willing to give the other party a chance to turn back.
However, her boyfriend did not deserve the trust of his girlfriend, and the balance in the boy's heart was still moving closer to the third party:
They will share new and interesting things they encounter with each other, they will make jokes that only they can understand, they will chat every day, they will eat alone every week, even when they travel in foreign countries, they will seriously help each other prepare gift lists...
All the privileges that could only be given to the girlfriend alone, the boy was given to the girl, except that no intimate relationship took place.
In the end, the girl decided to break up because the boy wanted to share the first person he wanted to talk to, and it had been a long time since she was.
After reading it, many people feel that the girl's breakup is the right choice, and some people say that they finally understand the horror of spiritual infidelity.
I always think that love or friendship,
The desire to share is the beginning of all stories, and the loss of the desire to share is the beginning of the end of the story.
02
If you don't share, you will go to the end.
What is a relationship? It is a spiritual link, a realistic interaction. Love or friendship, only one person jumps up and down, it is difficult to go down.
The night before our friend got married, we spent the night at her house, talking and talking about studying.
She studied in a foreign country, and although her roommates came from all over the world, they were very compatible, so the relationship was good, and when she graduated, she agreed to get together every year when she had the opportunity.
But many people slowly became estranged.
In the first few months, everyone will share the recent developments in the WeChat group, some people are ready to get married and have children, some people are looking for jobs and starting a business, the message is not replied in time, and slowly no one will interact anymore.
Over time, as communication becomes less and less, it becomes stranger and stranger.
A few years ago, a roommate invited her to go to her wedding, but when she took a hard time off, she found that her roommate was not the girl she remembered.
They had also talked briefly that night, but as my friend said, her roommate was not cold, her roommate had spoken in silence, and her friend did not understand at all, and since that time, they had tacitly never been in contact again.
This time, the friend did not deliberately ask the college roommates to participate, but simply informed, the rest will follow the fate.
I understand the loneliness of friends, the feelings of adults, in fact, many of them are scattered in this way, at first they lost their desire to share, then they lost contact, and finally they slowly became the most familiar strangers in memory.
It's sad to say, but that's how life is.
No one will always wait where you are, and no one can always withstand being indifferent to you, only by remembering will there be an echo.
03
Worthy people, please don't ignore indifference.
Reaching middle age, more and more feel that there are not many people in life who really understand that you love you, so for those who deserve it, please do not ignore indifference.
If you love deeply, please remember that love is eccentricity, that is, sharing;
If you are idle, remember that you need to respond and interact.
In fact, friendship or love, only if you share warmly and respond warmly, can you become more and more intimate and deep, on the contrary, it will only slowly go to the end.