Children who are disobedient may be insecure

A sense of security is a basic need of children and will affect the healthy growth of children's physical and mental health. If children are insecure, they are prone to become timid, cowardly, and incompatible with the children around them. On the contrary, children with sufficient security are generous and confident. Giving children a sufficient sense of security is inseparable from the usual behavior habits of parents. However, many parents often inadvertently hurt their children's sense of security.

Lie to your child

I believe that most parents have said: "Mom (Dad) is going out, the baby is waiting at home, come back to bring you good food." However, when he came back, his hands were empty; or as soon as the child cried, the parents would say, "The police and the beggar love to catch the crying children." ”。 After the child has experienced "deception", he will also be wary after several times, and it is difficult to believe similar words from his parents. These seemingly innocuous lies can be used at best. Or parents can try to coax the child in a different way: tell the child the reason in detail, soothe the child's emotions, and encourage the child.

Say things like "don't have kids."

When a child is mischievous and provokes his parents to be angry, his parents will say, "If you do this again, I won't want you." "You do this again, uncle policeman has come to arrest you." ...... Scare children like this, I believe everyone has heard of it. Some children often ask "where did I come from?", and many parents will not answer positively, saying things like "You picked it up in the trash can (station)" and "Sent it with a charge". In addition to the lack of sex education, this problem is also a harm to the child's sense of security, which will make the child question whether he really has nothing to do with his parents and whether his parents will suddenly abandon him.

What should parents do to care for your child's sense of security?

Learn to listen to the voice of your child's heart

In particular, children who are more sensitive in their hearts often feel frustrated because of an unintentional remark from their elders. As a parent, we must learn to patiently understand the needs of the child when they are suddenly unhappy or crying, rather than ignoring or impatiently accusing the child, which is easy for the child to have a rebellious psychology.

Give your child more loving hugs and encouragement

Hugging is the warmest force in body language, and when the child is frustrated and weak, giving him a loving hug is better than all language. A child who has long lacked hugs is bound to be more insecure and more rebellious and disobedient. Inner peace is the source of security, the child's sense of security needs to be carefully cared for by parents and mothers, if the child has any bad behavior, parents should guide the child positively, help him correct his mistakes, rather than saying angry words to the child and provoking the child's emotions.

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