Yi Shu once wrote in "The First Half of My Life": Why people want to get married, it is not because life is not easy, they need to find someone to help each other.
Because life is not easy, we need to find someone to share the suffering of the world. However, women don't know that when you first looked for a man, you wanted to find someone to help you cover the wind and rain, but you didn't know that the ups and downs of the second half of your life were all brought by him.
Someone once said that all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems should be played by mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with thirty boards, and the son should play with forty boards. The issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has never been just a matter of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the position of the man mixed in the middle is also particularly important.
Therefore, in marriage, it is even more difficult to meet an unreasonable and arbitrary mother-in-law, a foolish and unclear man, and a woman's life.
01, the mother-in-law fell ill, the husband asked the wife to resign
Song Qiao and her husband are college classmates, although the difference between the two families is somewhat large, but Song Qiao has married her husband without hesitation. Just because she sees her husband as a potential stock.
Song Qiao and her husband have been married for 8 years, have a son and a daughter, and have a mediocre life, but they are also safe and stable. Only the mother-in-law is a variable, interfering in their lives from time to time, so that their marriage is crumbling.
After Song Qiao raised two children in succession and sent them to elementary school, she also started a new job herself. But before she could gain a foothold in the new company, her husband rightfully asked her to resign and go home to take care of her mother-in-law, who was too ill to take care of herself.
For this decision, Song Qiao felt ridiculous and sad. The mother-in-law has been in the little uncle's house for 6 years, and the money and contribution are also in the little uncle's family, as for her own family, the mother-in-law has never contributed a penny, a penny.
When Song Qiao gave birth to her first child, her mother-in-law hated that she was a daughter, so she excused her poor health and was unwilling to take care of Yuezi. Later, on the grounds that his sister-in-law was pregnant, he resolutely refused to take his granddaughter.
Song Qiao was angry and aggrieved, but she could not ask for help from her mother-in-law, so she had to resign and become a full-time mother at home. It was hard to wait for her daughter to go to kindergarten, but she expected to be pregnant with her second child.
02. If you have not enjoyed the rights, how to fulfill your obligations?
The second child was born as a son, and Song Qiao thought that this mother-in-law would not always prefer sons to daughters, and would always come to help serve the confinement. As a result, the mother-in-law said that she had to take care of her sister-in-law's children, and she was exhausted, so she let Song Qiao think of her own way.
Until this moment, Song Qiao understood that her mother-in-law was not a son over a daughter, she did not look at herself at all, and even her two children were snubbed and neglected by her grandparents.
Since then, Song Qiao has taken two people alone and endured for several years, and a woman has become a thousand armies and horses. But the husband still does not understand, thinking that Song Qiao is too good and strong, and likes to pick thorns.
Song Qiao did not refute it, but the relationship between husband and wife has slowly cooled down since then. If it were not for the illness of her mother-in-law and her husband's request for her resignation to go home to serve her mother-in-law, perhaps Song Qiao would not have filed for divorce so early. After all, for the sake of her children, she is willing to bear the burden of humiliation, and she is willing to endure it again and again.
The husband asked for it directly, not asked for her opinion. Song Qiao was aggrieved and sad, when she dragged her feet and stayed up all night, why did her husband ever feel sorry for her? Now that the mother-in-law is sick for the sake of the little uncle, how can she put this responsibility on her head?
Since the marriage of the younger uncle, the mother-in-law has lived in the younger son's house for a long time. When getting married, the mother-in-law helped the little brother-in-law buy a house and a car to make a bride price. After getting married, the mother-in-law helped the little uncle to repay the mortgage and support the family and raise the children.
03, daughter-in-law grievances: my mother-in-law did not take care of me for a day
All the property and benefits of the mother-in-law have been occupied by the little uncle and the younger sister-in-law, so why is it that she is now too sick to take care of herself, but asks her to resign and serve?
Husband comforted her: There are all parents in the world, no matter what my mother used to do to you, but you are a daughter-in-law, and you always have the obligation to serve your mother-in-law. What's more, the two children of the little uncle are still young and need to be taken care of, but now that our two children are grown up, they can leave it alone, and you have to be more considerate of me.
At this moment, Song Qiao's heart was full of mixed feelings. It is not that she is not considerate of her husband, nor is she not ruthless, but her mother-in-law has not given her a day's kindness, which makes her willing to resign and go home to serve her mother-in-law?
Song Qiao turned over the old account of confinement twice and took justice for himself: my mother-in-law helped my uncle with a child for 6 years, and did not take care of my monthly confinement for a day. She has not been kind to me, so why should I do my duty to her? Whoever she brings the child to, he serves her.
Song Qiao's resolute opposition made her husband angry and ashamed, and even said that he had divorced. Song Qiao's heart was as cold as iron, and without hesitation, he directly agreed to the divorce and returned to his mother's house with his two children.
Until now, couples have been in the Cold War. The husband hopes that Song Qiao can automatically admit his mistake and come back to take care of his mother, then everything will not be blamed for the past, otherwise it will only end in divorce.
But Song Qiao is no longer afraid of her husband's threats, she is at home full-time with children, and she needs to reach out to her husband for money to see her husband's face, and she is no longer willing to live. Even with the divorce, she believes she can support her two children on her own.
For a woman, if not forced, she will not be willing to give up her career, give up herself, and go to be a stay-at-home mom for a man.
Even if the man is willing to support the family, the woman's heart is still very unbalanced. Because I know that I have paid so much, but in the end I have to look at the man's face and act, and reach out to the man for money.
Those humble and sad days, women after once, will not think about the second time. Children need mothers when they are small, and women can do nothing but bear the burden of humiliation. But when the child is older, the mother can also have her own new job, and how can a woman be willing to be trapped at home by a man again?
Today's Topic:
Do you think that Song Qiao's refusal to take care of her mother-in-law is cruel or her duty?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!