Usually many parents value their children's knowledge, but their children's upbringing seems to be more important than knowledge. Learning can be improved by cultivating with heart, but education must start from the bits and pieces of life. Good qualities can affect the child's interpersonal relationships, attitudes, etc., determine the child's personality, and accompany the child throughout his life.
"Grandma, why can she not have to wait in line"
Cheng Cheng's grandmother took Cheng Cheng to the supermarket, and grandma saw that the price of eggs was very cost-effective, so she took Cheng Cheng and lined up to buy eggs. After a while, the line was lined up in a long line. The salesman also said that this is a limited quantity, too late to be in the queue, and there is no queue.
Cheng Cheng's grandmother let Cheng Cheng count a little, to their position, just able to "grab" the last one.
After a long time in the queue, Cheng Cheng's legs were sore, Cheng Cheng told his grandmother that he wanted to go to the toilet, and his grandmother also told Cheng Cheng to insist on it again, and he would be lined up immediately. Seeing that there were three or four people scattered in front of them, an old lady suddenly came running, and the left arch and right were suddenly squeezed to the front of the line.
"Grandma, why can she not stand in line?" Cheng Cheng asked Grandma angrily.
The old lady who cut in line bought eggs and said with a straight face: "I am old, I am more than 80 years old, my health is not good, and I have heart disease. The tone is very strong, and it is necessary for others to understand it.
Grandma touched Chengcheng's head and replied: "Humility is cultured, and you have difficulties to discuss with others, so it is very rude to force others to 'understand'." Although there are such people, we must have our own upbringing, and we must not become her because of her mistakes. ”
This kind of "unreasonable trouble is justice" thing happens around you, how to correctly guide the child's values
Many parents hope to raise their children to adulthood and praise, be humble and polite, and do not encourage children to compete. However, this does not mean that other children will not compete. Once the child encounters such unreasonable, but also "righteous" people, the usual education and values will begin to appear chaotic, this kind of violation of the rules, adults are still unacceptable, let alone children.
Many people want to make big things small, thinking that there is no need to argue with others for the sake of the "small things" in life. At this time, the ability of parents is also limited, and they cannot change the person who breaks the rules. However, the words and deeds of parents are likely to become a model for children to imitate in the future, and play a very important role in the formation of children's values.
As a parent, let your child understand that this practice is wrong and uncultured. Then it is necessary to clarify the attitude: the impoliteness and lack of grace of others is his own problem, but "we" still have to be educated. Although it is easy to be unreasonable and not to face, but upbringing and demeanor are the most precious, although this is not something that everyone can do, but you cannot change your own principles and kindness because of the fault of others.
Parents lead by example and set an example for their children
In addition to the genetic characteristics of genes, the habits and personalities of parents are "inherited" by children. Parents are the earliest teachers of children, and the influence of the original family on children can be said to be subtle. If the parents are morally inferior, have no demeanor and no upbringing, it is difficult to cultivate a child with normal three views.
Although everyone is different, their perceptions and values are different, it does not mean that these differences are correct. If parents want to cultivate children with good qualities, they must strengthen self-cultivation, read more, correct their wrong values, and set a benchmark for their children by virtue of their own quality and connotation.
From the details of life, in the relationship with children, to be felt by children, even if they encounter grievances, they must instill correct values in their children, only by leading by example, when educating children, they will let children be convinced and grow in the direction of sunshine.
How to establish the right values
In real life, there are also some parents who are recognized as good people, but the children "don't buy it". There are also many examples of going in the opposite direction. This has a considerable relationship with the patient guidance and companionship of parents to their children.
Children in the process of growth, it is inevitable that there will be a lot of small branches that need to be pruned, parents should communicate with children more in the process of children's growth, if they encounter problems, parents should correct them in time and make positive guidance, encounter the "negative teaching materials" in life to point out errors in time, and with the help of "negative teaching materials" to let children understand what is the bottom line and what is the standard. These two factors determine the pattern and height of the child.
Everyone's family education, growth environment is different, so the quality of growing up will be different, when encountering a "counterexample" of bad quality, but also in time to let the child understand that this behavior is not correct, let the child understand that the long road to life to determine the position, is not to stumble, but self-discipline and cultivation.