Imhom, girls who care about their boyfriend's ex-girlfriend have certain problems with themselves.
Don't want to admit it? Then I can analyze and analyze you based on so many years of emotional counseling experience. Girls care about their boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, basically for three reasons:
Distrust of boyfriends
As some people in the answer said, some girls actually don't mind the ex-girlfriend, but their boyfriend's attitude towards the ex-girlfriend.
Someone always comes to me and asks if my boyfriend is still in contact with his ex-girlfriend and has not put it down? What should I do if my boyfriend refuses to delete my ex-girlfriend's contact information? What does it mean that the boyfriend still has a picture of his ex-girlfriend?
If I say that he can't forget his ex-girlfriend without deleting it, can you freely let go of him and his ex-girlfriend? If I say that there is no special point in keeping my ex-girlfriend, maybe I just don't feel the need, will you accept that you will never mind again?
I want to say that it really doesn't matter what your boyfriend thinks, what matters is your idea. Even if they really have no feelings for their ex-girlfriend, as long as you mind, you should clean up everything related to your ex-girlfriend, and since you are no longer in love, what is the difficulty of clearing an insignificant person to reassure the person you love at the moment?
Therefore, some girls mind their ex-girlfriends, but because their boyfriends have not given themselves a sense of security, they can't break up, so they can only torture themselves. A very simple truth, he loves you, he will not be entangled with his ex-girlfriend, he and his ex-girlfriend are entangled and you are reluctant to break up, that is what you deserve.
No confidence in yourself
Of course, there are also some girls who mind ex-girlfriends, who are completely self-disturbing because they are not confident.
A consultant told me before that her boyfriend and ex-girlfriend had been talking for three years, and had reached the point of talking about marriage and suddenly broke up, and the girl was very good, causing her to be very insecure, and always felt that her boyfriend could not put it down.
I asked her, is there something the boy has done to make you think he can't put it down? She said no, they broke up peacefully, deleted all the contact information, and did not contact again after the breakup, but she still felt uneasy, always couldn't help but look at the social software that raped each other's ex-girlfriend, the boyfriend shared a love song and also felt that he was missing the ex-girlfriend, a little less enthusiastic to think that he did not want to reunite with the ex-girlfriend, after all, the girl is so good, they have such a deep emotional foundation.
I told her that if their feelings were deep enough, they wouldn't go to the step of breaking up, if he felt that you didn't have a former girlfriend, he wouldn't choose you, and the boy with you was already affirming your charm, while you have been denying yourself and hurting your feelings with other people's failed feelings.
It's like the interviewer eliminated the last interviewer and definitely chose you, while you yourself are repeatedly stressing that you are not as good as the previous one, doubting the reason why the interviewer chose you, so do you want to be selected or do you want to be eliminated?
Possessiveness is too strong
What makes me speechless the most is this kind, to put it ugly, that is, there is nothing to do.
These girls don't feel that their ex-girlfriends are any threat to them, and their boyfriends have not done anything to make them feel insecure, but they just can't tolerate a grain of sand in their eyes.
I have a cousin who broke up with her boyfriend some time ago because the boyfriend wanted to take her to the amusement park. Confused, did I take you to the amusement park and play wrong? She replied to me that he had been to amusement parks with his ex-girlfriend before, and there must have been a lot of memories, and I didn't want to do what I did with my ex-girlfriend, and I couldn't accept the thought that he had loved someone else.
I was speechless for a while, I could only say that he must have hugged his ex-girlfriend before, he should not have hugged you again, kissed his ex-girlfriend, should not kiss you again, talked to his ex-girlfriend, should not talk to you again.
Such a girl, I can only suggest to find a pure love boy who has never been in love, otherwise just having an ex-girlfriend is the original sin.
Why don't you think about it, he did those things with his ex-girlfriend because he didn't meet you? Why not reflect on how you appeared so late and wasted so much time on the wrong person? Or is it something you did with your ex-boyfriend that you can't do with your current boyfriend anymore?
Few people love only one person in their lives, and they are seriously involved in each love, and they are not involved, which is already the greatest sincerity.
In fact, it is normal to mind an ex-girlfriend, but if you hurt your feelings because your ex-girlfriend tortures herself, it is stupid.
You just need to know that your boyfriend must have chosen you because you are better than your ex-girlfriend, and if he really loves you, he will definitely handle the relationship with his ex-girlfriend. If he can't do it, break up decisively and don't consume himself, if he does, believe that you don't toss him.
People have to look forward, the past things can not change, the important thing is to manage the present and the future.