Adopting a daughter and adopting a son are two completely different concepts, and the adopted daughter pays attention to carefulness, pays attention to rich and exquisite, and allows children to eat more and see more. Don't be attracted to someone else's little goodness, be dignified. To cultivate sons, we must cultivate a sense of responsibility for children, let children become a responsible person, do not always be irresponsible, always do wrong things, add trouble to themselves, but also add trouble to others.
At present, some backward areas have adopted daughters and adopted sons in reverse, treating their daughters badly from an early age to raise their sons, and taking the dowry of their daughters as a dowry for their sons. Raising daughters like this, when they grow up, they don't know how to cherish themselves, and they always stick to themselves and understand others. Too gentle and not knowing how to protect yourself. And the son is also used to others paying for themselves, not knowing to take responsibility, not knowing to pay for the members of the family. Since people have genders, the training model should also have genders, daughters and sons need to be cultivated completely differently, with the way to raise sons to raise daughters, the way to raise daughters to raise boys is not OK.
One. Boys and girls are raised with different emphases
The cultivation of girls requires wisdom and reason. Girls are born more maternal, but also more delicate, because women bear the responsibility of childbearing, women's physiological conditions determine that women will pay more for children, but also easier to be tied up by the family, more likely to sacrifice for the family, so for the cultivation of girls instead need to focus on wisdom and reason, so that women can think independently, do not be disturbed by the family. Women who are always disturbed by the family are always prone to overly restrain themselves, think about what they want, think about how they should decide, and don't be disturbed too much by feelings. A woman who can be independent can take care of her life properly, and a woman who is always bound by her emotional family is also prone to indecision when doing things.
Some parents do not pay attention to the courage of girls, thinking that courage is a matter for boys, which is actually a very ignorant idea, girls are born in a vulnerable group, so they need courage more, and they need courage to protect themselves. A brave girl can not be in danger compared with boys, girls are more likely to encounter danger, so the girl's courage cultivation is more important, and a gentle girl should have strong courage to protect her gentleness.
Boys in the cultivation need delicacy and sensuality. Boys assume more social responsibility in the process of growing up, because women are physiologically special, and in the case of women having children, men must show more responsibility and take care of their partners. When female birds or other female animals in the animal world lay eggs to take care of young children, male animals are responsible for going out to find food, and this law also applies in human society.
Now many boys are spoiled by the family, let by the society, men do not have to have children, more advantages, many companies are more willing to favor men, the workplace is too accommodating to men, too biased to men, but let some men feel that this is their advantage, but let some men lose the idea of taking care of their partners. When training boys, we must pay attention to the responsibility of cultivating boys, a man who does not pay attention to responsibility, completely inappropriate, as a family partner, more suitable for their personal life.
To cultivate boys, we must cultivate boys with a sense of responsibility, and to cultivate girls to cultivate girls to be brave, a girl who can calmly refuse others to bravely say no, is more attractive. A boy who has the courage to take on his own responsibilities, never shirks in the face of responsibility, and evades and dodges is more attractive. Adopting sons and adopting daughters should not be generalized in the first place, and the contradictions and different needs are different, so the way of cultivation should naturally be very different.
Two. How to raise their own boys and girls in a targeted manner
In life, parents should be more accommodating to girls than boys. If parents always accommodate boys bullying girls, it is likely to make boys and girls go the wrong way, in life parents should be more accommodating to girls, rather than more accommodating boys, girls belong to vulnerable groups, but also have to bear the responsibility of childbearing, but also to face the same as men in the workplace and academic pressure, so parents are more biased towards some women, let the boys in the family learn to protect women, so that boys can grow up more responsible, more respect for their partners, more from the heart to love their partners, take care of the family, On the contrary, it is conducive to the harmony of the family.
And women have been loved by their parents since childhood, have the courage to bravely say no, and when facing special situations, they can also deal with it calmly, but they are less likely to suffer losses and less likely to be hurt.
Boys and girls, different upbringing and different treatment of women should be more satisfied, and treat men more harshly, because society is more harsh on women and more tolerant of men. In this way, men and women can understand each other from their respective positions, and prepare each other for a better family and a better self.