The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been difficult since ancient times, and the contradiction between the older generation of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more because of the man who both sides love. The contradictions of the changes of the times are still there, but the contradictions have changed. Someone once did a survey and said that the biggest contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the difference in educational concepts. If you think back, there are a lot of mother-in-law disputes around you, because of the different concepts of educating children.
My friend's mother-in-law, who was once a math teacher at an elementary school, helped take care of her two grandchildren after retirement. Because her mother-in-law is quite measured, before the child goes to elementary school, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are also a bunch of harmony.
When Dabao was in the second grade of primary school, the contradiction between her and her mother-in-law was exposed, and she felt that her mother-in-law was too stubborn and pointed fingers at her children's education.
When she was going to work during the day, her mother-in-law came over to take the child, and she was very grateful. But the strange thing is that every time the child comes back from work, he is sullen and unhappy, asking the child, and the child does not say.
Until one day she left work early and found that her mother-in-law had secretly forced her child to memorize the essay. It turned out that her family's dabao was in the second grade, because she could not write essays, she had to sit at the desk for an hour or two every time and could not hold back a few words, and her Chinese grades also plummeted.
The mother-in-law secretly bought a set of documents for the child and began to "force" the child's back. Knowing that the daughter-in-law would be unhappy, she hid it.
As a young mother, she really does not want her children to see documents, let alone memorize essays, afraid that children will develop dependence, will slowly lose the ability to think and express, and write the same things, no soul.
The mother-in-law has been broken by the daughter-in-law: "The child can't write a few words, and you are worried that what she writes is the same, and imitation is also a very good way to write." ”
The friend was not happy: "Mom, you don't have to force the baby to memorize the composition anymore, you are forced to recite it, you are not happy at all." Moreover, teachers now emphasize paying attention to children's reading, but it is best not to look at it as a document. You also let her memorize the essay! ”
The mother-in-law was completely unconvinced, and used her own experience to teach her daughter-in-law: "Language learning is valuable in accumulation and application, not a day's work, we must persevere." I raised my two children, one graduated from medical college, the other went to Fuzhou University, relying on them from an early age to accumulate, the accumulation of good words and good sentences for children is beneficial and harmless. And I didn't let him memorize the whole essay, but let it persist for a long time and accumulate slowly, how could my own grandchildren harm them. ”
The friend was dumbfounded.
After all, we still need our mother-in-law to help pick up and take care of the children, and although my friends are very opposed in their hearts, they can only complain in front of us.
So her mother-in-law let the child's accumulation of memorization has not been interrupted, every day, after the child has done his homework, he is asked to start to take out the paperwork to copy 5 good words, 3 good sentences, and then recite it. When it was first implemented, the child was relatively small, did not develop habits, had no patience, and cried and made trouble, but the mother-in-law did not give up and persevered.
This year, the child has been promoted to the third grade, the difficulty of the test paper has increased, and the Chinese scores of other students have regressed, but Dabao is like a dark horse, ranking among the best in several consecutive examinations, and the essays she wrote have been praised by the teacher.
Friends see that the child's progress is so great, can't help but be happy, but also have to admire their mother-in-law to teach the "son" to be good.
So don't look at the small accumulation, don't turn away the writing, which is very important in the process of learning languages.
Those who have obtained languages have won the world, and the three magic weapons for learning languages well are to practice words, read, and accumulate.
Now our entire educational environment is encouraging the whole people to read, school teachers are more emphasizing the benefits of reading for children, many of our parents have also accompanied their children to read from an early age, slowly let the children read by themselves, and the family has also bought a variety of books. It is strange that children read a lot of books, but they still can't write.
Many children do not write well, and every time they write an essay, they are like squeezing toothpaste, squeezing out little by little, not only the writing process is difficult, but the score is certainly not high.
Composition accounts for a large proportion of language learning, and if the composition is not written well, the language score is naturally not good.
Children can't write good essays, in fact, in the end, there is no goods in the stomach.
Therefore, if you want to write a good essay, you must first have goods in your stomach.
Dou Guimei, a special teacher at the affiliated primary school of Tsinghua University, attaches great importance to accumulation, and her students' writing skills are excellent, their writing is fluent, and their exports are chapters.
You may wish to learn from this clever mother-in-law, prepare an excerpt for your child, and then choose a suitable set of writing documents, excerpt, memorize, copy more, memorize more, the child's writing materials will be more.
Children in elementary school can start by accumulating good words and idioms, and as they grow up, they can extract sentences from the book about appearance descriptions, scene descriptions, dialogue descriptions and psychological descriptions. Then you can excerpt famous quotes, ancient and modern poems... More copies, more memorizations, children write essays are not afraid of no goods in the stomach.
Of course, children can accumulate in reading, but a good set of essays can make their accumulation more effective with half the effort.
The compositions on the market are dazzling, dizzying, do not know how to choose? Excellent composition can make children quickly start in imitation, so as to truly learn to innovate; shoddy composition not only does not play a role in improving, but will make children more afraid of composition.
So how to help your child choose a good and instructive essay?
When buying books, be sure to choose books from regular publishing houses.
To include common topics, write frequently, and synchronize with the syllabus.
Refine good words and sentences, so that children can easily accumulate.
Also choose the review. Comments are very important for children with poor composition foundation. Because the comments contain an analysis of the composition, it indirectly guides the child how to write.
Writing is indeed not a flood beast, guide the child to copy and accumulate, insist on a period of time you will find that the child's language expression ability is good, the vocabulary accumulation is large, and the composition ability can also be greatly improved.