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Children have been reducing their burden for almost a semester, but many parents are getting more and more anxious:
"Now their homework is small, and it is relatively simple, usually I can't see any problems, but when I take the exam, I know that the baby will not do anything."
"The tests were cancelled, and as a result, the grades of the children in the last midterm exam dropped."
"I also thought that the child's burden was reduced, and the grades fell a little bit, but other people's children still achieved high scores, stable grade first, I was really afraid." 」
Indeed, what really makes parents anxious and afraid is not that their own children can't do it, but that other people's children are too good.
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At the stage where you can make up lessons, you can see that other people's grades are much better, and you can also think that you have made up classes after school hours, and the teacher you are looking for is excellent.
But when they don't make up classes, there is still a long way to go, is it possible to think that their children do not have the talent to learn, and will never become a bully.
But what parents don't realize is that children's academic performance is not only related to their own efforts, but also to their parents' efforts.
Once the U.S. Department of Education conducted a survey on "which factors in the family affect children's academic performance", it found that many aspects of the family are highly correlated with children's grades.
Children in the following families may have better academic performance -
Often praise the child for being very hard
Many parents today know that praise can stimulate their children's motivation to learn, but some of them are in the wrong place and like to praise whether their children are smart.
But psychologists say that instead of praising children for being smart, they should do more to encourage them to continue to work hard.
Professor Dweck Carroll, a psychologist at Stanford University, once did this experiment:
She brought in more than a hundred children and asked them to do some simple mind games, and after they were finished, she would praise the children in Group A: "You're so smart!" "/" You're so awesome! Then he praised the children in Group B: "You're doing a good job, you can see that you're working hard." ”
Next, the professor prepared them with a more difficult mental game and asked whether to continue, and as a result, some children in group A chose to give up, and some children in group B wanted to continue.
Afterwards, the professor still gave them the same praise for the first test.
When she proposed to take the third test, more and more children in group A gave up, and those who chose to continue were more stressed and afraid to try; while the children in group B were more enterprising.
This is because praising children for being smart is easy for them to form inherent thinking, and if they feel successful, they are smart, and if they are not successful, they are stupid.
And praising children's efforts can make them form a growth mindset, and feel that success does not depend on talent, but can be achieved through hard work.
As a result, many children who are not well gifted in learning can continue to work hard and have excellent results with the encouragement of their parents.
Parents are very disciplined
A person's self-discipline ability is related to self-control, perseverance, and independent learning ability, and children with strong self-control are more likely to persist in the boring learning process and achieve excellent results.
The child's self-discipline ability also has a lot to do with the cultivation of parents.
Many parents know that when their children read books, write homework, and eat, they cannot watch TV or play mobile phones, which is also how to restrain their children, but they have not been able to restrain themselves.
Even in the process of getting along with children, he has been holding the mobile phone without leaving his hand, which invisibly makes the child feel that the rules can not be observed.
And self-disciplined parents, will take the initiative to free up time for study and reading every day, and the children who hear and see can also learn and adapt to a boring life.
The family atmosphere is positive
Even if parents love to learn, they have been forcing their children to stare at them to learn, which also makes their children feel very stressed, but it leads to a decline in academic performance.
In real life, there are many children who collapse because they can't stand their parents' too strong desire to control.
And families with a positive family atmosphere will not be angry because their children have made small mistakes, because their children have achieved results, and they are afraid that they will begin to be proud and complacent.
When the child's psychological pressure is small, he can naturally spend more effort on learning and improve his grades.