Not all children can always be happy and happy in the process of growing up, and some children will be depressed, and children experience less things, so they have no way to control their emotions. At this time, parents have played a very important role, so what parents say will have a great impact on children.
Miss Cui has always been a strict education for children, because in her view, children must be strictly disciplined, so that it will be helpful for their growth. Especially when the child has negative emotions, it will also use the same way to educate the child, because in the process of growing up in a boy, he will experience some bad things, and this negative emotion is likely to affect the child's growth, so it is necessary for the child to remain optimistic at all times.
But she accidentally found the child crying secretly, she originally wanted to educate the child, let the child know that boys can not easily cry, but she suddenly felt that her education is not really a failure, otherwise why the child will secretly cry. Later, in the evening, he complained to her husband about this matter, and her husband also said that Miss Cui's education method was indeed not suitable.
So the two began to look up the Internet, the education method that is really suitable for the child, or looking for, when the child is depressed, what should parents do? After finally some effort, the two finally found an education method supported by many parents, and the two were also hesitant, because on the surface, this kind of education method is too gentle, is it really good for children?
So the two held the mentality of trying it out, and the next day they changed their once strict education methods, but I have to say that after changing the way of education, the child did have a lot of confidence. Especially when children are depressed, this kind of education has a great help effect.
Children have times of depression, but if parents use the wrong way of education, then the child's frustration will always exist, and it will affect their future growth. Professor Li Meijin once said that saying a few more words when the child is depressed will be more helpful to the child's growth.
Children say this to them when they are depressed
The biggest feature of today's children is that they are pampered at home, so they have never encountered anything at all. Once they encounter something more difficult, then they will show a frustrated side. In the face of such a problem, we can say to the child: "I have seen your efforts, you are the best." ”
We must not comfort the child in a meaningless way, because this practice does not help the child's growth, we can encourage the child, so that they can become more confident. And the biggest feature of this sentence is to witness the child's process, the child will also understand himself, as long as he works hard, he can solve all things.
So when children have a problem of depression, we must not rebuke them too much to say more relevant things, which can make them full of strength.
In addition to that, we can also say to them, "What did you gain from this failure?" "In fact, it is very normal for children to encounter failures in life, after all, everyone cannot succeed forever." But after facing failure, it is very important to look at the problem with an attitude.
So at this time, our best practice is to guide the child, let the child look at this failure from an objective point of view, then the child will gain a lot of things. And through this way of educating children, it is also likely to make children more confident, so that all negative emotions can be eliminated, which is of great help to children's psychological growth.
Of course, we can also say to the child, "You can't do it when anyone likes you." In fact, this sentence is also very helpful for children, when children are hated by others, we can say such words, because this kind of words can make children build self-confidence. After all, no one can be perfect, and everyone is likely to be hated.
If children are always thinking about these things, then they will not be able to grow. Therefore, we need to pierce the disguise and let the child understand the truth of this matter, which can make the child firmly self-determined, which is of great benefit to the child's development. And through such a way to educate children, children will not be bent to cater to others.
If we always want our children to please others, then children are likely to become flattering personalities, so that their lives are ruined.
So if we really don't want our children to become very depressed, then we can say these words to them, and these words are enough to make them confident and hardworking. Of course, in the process of parenting, we also need to pay attention to a lot of things, our every sentence may touch the child's heart, so we need to think about it before saying every sentence, so as to ensure that there are no problems.