Recently, there have been frequent occurrences of teenagers committing very serious crimes in society, and the state has therefore adjusted the age of criminal responsibility for juvenile crimes. The various behaviors of children are closely related to the education of parents from an early age. And in this rapid development of society, the pressure of parents is very large, the discipline of children will inevitably appear negligence, especially some parents in order to improve their lives in the city thousands of miles away from home for many years, leaving their children to grandparents to take care of, this kind of generational education of children due to the lack of parental love are often very rebellious, this problem is very easy to solve, that is, to take the children with their own side, give them more care.
In addition to left-behind children, there is also a category of children who lack education due to their parents' wrong education methods and concepts, and there is a saying in the Three Character Classic that is very reasonable: "The Son does not teach, the Father's fault." In response to this situation, today I would like to share a few experiences in raising a nurturing child.
1. Set an example with practical actions
Most parents like to use tough standards to ask their children, but they say that children should do this, and I am an adult who can not do it. If you can't do it yourself, how can you ask your child to do it? There is a saying that "words and teachings are not as good as passing on by example" In life, the child's various impolite and even illegal acts are often affected by the subtle influence of the family, and the child's mistake without education shows that the parent has made a wrong demonstration or behavior in some aspect.
Therefore, when finding out what the child is doing wrong, parents should not hit the child at the first time, but should reflect on themselves while educating the child. When a child scolds people, think about whether he is usually a filthy word, the child is not filial to himself, think about whether he has not honored his parents and so on.
2. Give positive guidance to children
Younger children, whose understanding of the world is not yet comprehensive, have a strong desire for knowledge in unknown areas, and will do some wrong things and have some wrong ideas. In the formation period of children's three views, parents must actively guide and moderately intervene, see their children grab other children's things or fight with other children, and stop and teach them in time.
The child has something to play with, and tell him to share it with other children. When a child learns a skill, parents can take the child to do it together, encounter difficulties, and face difficulties with the child. In this way, the child is guided in life, and the child can not only get happiness, but also get education.
3. Positive environment and verbal influence
Mencius's ability to become a saint throughout the ages is inseparable from the education of Meng Mu when he was a child. Parents can also learn like Meng Mu when educating their children, and it is not enough to move their homes, but it is very important to create a good growth environment for their children, first of all, to have family harmony. In addition, positive verbal edification is also positive, you can tell children more educational stories, such as Kong Rong let the pear, Sima cylinder light smashing cylinder and so on.
In short, parents who educate their children should pay more attention, rather than preaching to their children in a thousand words, it is better to demonstrate themselves.