He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
Have you ever felt like you're looking at the opposite sex?
Studies have shown that:
When you look at the opposite sex, emotions are mobilized, your heart beats faster, and you have an urge to establish a deeper emotional connection with the other person, which means that you have a good impression of him.
In the Journal of Personality Research, there is this passage:
"Participants who look into the eye of the person they are chatting with for a long time and get the same long-term gaze will develop strong feelings for the person in front of them more quickly."
In other words: in the process of getting along with the opposite sex, if you want the other person to like you, then look at each other with the most affectionate eyes.
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Why does "staring at each other" make two people feel good?
First: long-term staring at each other can stimulate each other's brain signals
Psychological research shows:
When two people make eye contact and look at each other, it directly allows the brain to release two emotional signals: approaching or fleeing.
If in the other person's eyes, you feel hostility, or there is some gap between yourself; At this time, you will want to escape, stop looking at the other person, and avoid conflict.
If you see curiosity, affection, and obvious mood swings in his eyes during your eyes, then you want to get closer to each other.
Constant eye contact tends to make the opposite sex feel good about you.
Looking at each other for more than 8 seconds, the chance of two people falling in love is greatly increased; If you look at each other for more than 30 seconds, you are likely to directly confirm the relationship with each other.
Second: people's attention is more willing to stay on good things
For example:
You go to the cinema to watch a movie, and if you are very interested in this movie and like it, then you are reluctant to miss a little bit throughout the whole process, even if you want to go to the toilet.
Conversely, if you are not interested in the movie, it won't be long before you will fall asleep.
The same is true when the opposite sex is around.
People's attention, sight, prefer to stay on beautiful people.
If the opposite sex in front of you brings you a very good impression, then when you contact and chat with him, you can't help but stare into his eyes.
On the contrary, if you do not have a good feeling for this person of the opposite sex, or even get tired of it, you are too lazy to focus on him.
And your liking will be conveyed to the other party through the eyes.
We tend to show a different attitude towards people who like us.
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How to make the opposite sex fall in love with you through "eye contact"?
1. During the chat, the time of eye contact exceeds 75%
Psychologist research shows:
In the process of chatting with the opposite sex, if the eye contact time only occupies less than 50% of the chat time, it is far from making each other feel good.
Only when they look at each other for more than 75% of the time, or even the whole time, can they quickly develop love for each other.
Behind this theory, there is a small experiment to aid the proof.
The psychologist invited 48 pairs of the opposite sex to participate in the experiment.
At the beginning of the experiment, ask each other to randomly pick opposite-sex partners to chat with.
The time for each pair of opposite sex to chat is controlled to half an hour.
The results showed that:
Those of the opposite sex who looked at each other for a long time during the chat ended up in love.
There are also several couples who even confirmed a romantic relationship after the end of the experiment.
Conclusion:
If you want the opposite sex to have a good impression of you, then bravely look at him; Do not doubt the power of gazing at each other, full of affectionate eyes, enough to plunge the other person into ambiguous tenderness.
2. Create a "sense of atmosphere" for eye contact
What is a sense of atmosphere? What is the sense of atmosphere in the eyes?
The sense of atmosphere can be understood as the state between you when you look at each other.
Is it awkward, is it relaxed, is it ambiguous or is it very pleasant for each other?
Your eyes, attention, and emotions will change as your state shifts.
Like what:
When looking at each other, create the feeling of "deer bumping".
When he stares at you, you show a bewildered look; He chases you and you dodge some; He looks at you, and you quickly look away.
In this "you chase me to catch up" game, it depends on who can calm down first.
There is an ambiguity that:
"I like the way he looks in his eyes."
Create "appreciative" eyes.
Have you ever felt such a look?
For example, when you were a student, your grades were very good, you answered the right questions every time, and the teacher looked at you with encouragement and satisfaction in his eyes.
You've achieved certain grades, you're excellent in every way, and your parents look at them with undisguised pride every time they introduce you to someone.
This is the look of appreciation.
When looking at the opposite sex, you can use this technique.
For example:
The girl's makeup today is very good, she dressed up with thought, and the bag she was carrying was the finishing touch.
Then your attention will stay in her positions.
The boy is wearing the new sneakers he bought today, so your attention will look at the boy's sneakers a few more times.
With expectation, surprise or appreciation, so that the other person can detect your kindness and appreciation for the first time.
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Have you ever looked at the opposite sex and what is it like?
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