With a divorce rate of 43.53%, what is it that makes marriage perish?

With the continuous development of society and the continuous improvement of material life, people's requirements for quality of life are also getting higher and higher, and they also have more choices. This includes the choice of marriage, from ancient times to the present, marriage is a major event in everyone's life.

A good marriage can bring people a better quality of life and a happier experience.

But an unhappy life can bring both spiritual and physical harm to people, and even completely disintegrate two people. With the development of the times, people's lifestyles have become more and more diverse, which has also promoted people's free choice of marriage.

From the words of the ancient parents to the modern free marriage, marriage has always changed with the changes of the times, which also represents the most ardent hope in people's hearts. And more and more liberal marriages have led to higher and higher divorce rates.

High divorce rates have become a general trend

Since 2016, the marital status of the mainland has become a worrying social issue, according to the research data of the Mainland Civil Affairs Bureau, the marriage rate in the mainland began to decline gradually in 2016, and only 11.428 million couples married this year. In 2017, that number dropped to 10.63 million.

By 2019, the annual marriage rate in the mainland had fallen below 10 million pairs, while at the same time, the divorce rate on the mainland had reached 43.53%. According to statistics, among the 43.53% of the divorce army, the post-80s occupy the main position.

Until 2020, the marriage rate in the mainland still remained in a low state, and although the marriage rate has increased in 2021, it is almost negligible for the overall general trend.

However, the divorce rate on the mainland has increased every year. Even more worrisome are young people who have not experienced marriage so far, but who have become resistant to it. At the same time, there are also post-80s who are completely disappointed in marriage after entering marriage and divorced.

In the first half of 2018, a total of 5.4 million people on the mainland entered into marriage, and 1.39 million people chose to divorce, that is, in the first half of 2018, an average of more than 5,000 couples chose to divorce every day unable to continue living together.

It can be seen that the high divorce rate has become the general trend of the mainland, and under the modern social environment, more and more people have begun to think about the meaning of marriage and the nature of marriage.

What has changed the marriage?

As the main part of the divorce army, the post-80s generation did not grow up in a bad era and environment as the previous generation, but it was not as good as the post-90s, and the growth environment of the 80s was complex and changeable, and it was also a waste to be revived.

The main reasons why post-80s generations choose divorce can be divided into the following two points:

First: It is "trivia" that defeats marriage.

In most love stories that can be sung and wept, the male and female protagonists can always overcome all the obstacles in front of them and finally live happily together. However, in the era of peace without war, in the absence of social and moral constraints, marriage and love have gradually become children's plays.

The declining divorce rate year by year has not affected the annual increase in the divorce rate, which seems to be a kind of backward social development, but in fact, this is one of the embodiments of the progress of the times.

Among the divorce cases heard by the Supreme People's Court of the Mainland, taking the data from 2016 to 2017 as an example, first of all, more than 73.4% of divorced families have unilaterally requested divorce by their wives.

Second, in the many divorce cases, up to 91% of the cases, one of them very much wants to divorce, the other party does not know why. Finally, the main reason for divorce is not unforgivable problems such as infidelity and domestic violence, but more due to disputes over trivial matters in life.

In peacetime, the end of marriage is not life and death, but trivial matters. This is both frustrating and frightening.

What is the essence of marriage? As we all know, the gene that makes people feel love is called phenylethylamine, and its large amount of secretion can allow people to experience pleasant feelings in love and achieve spiritual satisfaction. However, the secretion cycle of phenylethylamine is only four months to six years, which means that the shelf life of a love can only reach six years at the longest.

When phenylethylamine stops secreting, that is, in love, when the passion fades, it is a bland life that will make two people constantly friction, and even eventually move towards separation.

Second: The current situation of marriage after the 80s hides the cruelest truth in marriage.

I believe that for most people, marriage is sacred, it is happy, and after signing the marriage agreement, it forms a social contract with legal effect.

However, the seven-year itch is cruel for most middle-aged couples, especially for women. As we mentioned earlier, 73.4% of divorce cases are initiated by women, think carefully about what marriage brings to women.

Under the influence of traditional ideas, the status of women is always lower than that of men, and marriage is constantly depriving women, so the high divorce rate represents the disappointment of post-80s women in marriage and the hopelessness of life. This is undoubtedly the most cruel for women.