On April 6, 2019, Oriental Satellite TV's large-scale women's inspirational program "Mamma Mia" ushered in a legendary woman, with her appearance, the scene resounded thunderous applause, people want to know, how she raised her children?
Her son was admitted to Peking University in 2007, transferred to Peking University Law School in 2011, studied at Harvard University a few years later, obtained a master's degree from Harvard University in 2017, and passed the American judicial examination, living away from an excellent "other person's child".
But few people know that this wonderful boy was born with cerebral palsy.
A child with cerebral palsy was not only admitted to Peking University with excellent results, but also successfully graduated from Harvard University, what made him create such a miracle?
The person who created the miracle, the name is called mother, "I am a mother, I can't give up, I want him to live", this is what Zou Hongyan said on the stage.
The 56-year-old mother, with her tenacity and indomitability, used her love and strength to overcome the disease and successfully pulled her son who was abandoned by fate back to the happy world.
The verdict of fate
In 1987, when Zou Hongyan was only 25 years old, she was a young teacher at the Wuhan Preschool Normal School in Hubei Province, because of her profession, Zou Hongyan liked children since she was a child, but because she was not in good health since childhood, after marriage, she was unable to get pregnant.
The good news finally came in 1987, and when she learned that she was pregnant, Zou Hongyan was ecstatic, and she carefully cared for the fetus in her abdomen.
Under her careful care, on July 18, 1988, Zou Hongyan was pushed into the delivery room with anticipation and trepidation, waiting for the moment when she truly became a mother.
However, the sky is unpredictable, the heavens seem to have made a huge joke with her, Zou Hongyan gave birth, just in time for the handover of the doctor on duty, due to the negligence of the medical staff, resulting in the child suffocation in the womb, when the child was just born, there were symptoms of intracranial hemorrhage, the child did not even cry, and was immediately sent to the intensive care unit for rescue.
After five days of rescue and treatment by the doctor, the child's life was finally saved, but he was diagnosed with severe cerebral palsy. The doctor also issued a critical illness notice to Zou Hongyan and gently suggested to Zou Hongyan to abandon the treatment of the child.
After Hearing the doctor's words, Zou Hongyan's husband subconsciously wanted to give up the child, and he was also bitter, because according to the fertility policy at that time, a couple could theoretically only have one child. The eldest son is cerebral palsy, and there is still room for a second child, but with a child with cerebral palsy and another child, then how much financial pressure will the family have to bear.
When he thought of this, his husband retreated, and he repeatedly advised Zou Hongyan to give up this child and throw away this cerebral palsy, saying that the two of them were still very young and could have another child in the future.
However, after all, the child is a piece of meat on the mother's body, Zou Hongyan is pregnant in October, and has already developed deep feelings for the child who was born hard, even if the child is almost abandoned by fate now, but for the mother, Zou Hongyan does not want to give up, she decided to stick to it.
In her opinion, the husband has retreated, the hospital has almost sentenced the child to death, if at this time, as a mother, she gives up the child, then the child really cannot live.
What a pitiful child, Zou Hongyan made up her mind, even if there was only a glimmer of hope, she would stick to it.
Looking at his wife's resolute attitude, the husband really could not accept it, he resolutely chose to divorce, and Zou Hongyan did not hesitate to divorce and raise his son alone. After that, she became a single woman and began the grueling years of caring for the children alone and accompanying therapy.
She loved the child so much that she named her son Tintin. She said the name was inspired by the Book of Verses.
There is a sentence in the Book of Poetry that reads "Logging Tintin", and she hopes that although Tintin did not even cry when he came to this world, and did not make the slightest sound, in the later life, there would be a sound and a deed.
After treatment, although Tintin made his first cry five days after birth, the signs of cerebral palsy in his body did not disappear, and at six months, the symptoms of cerebral palsy became more obvious, at this time, Zou Hongyan began to continuously cultivate and exercise his son's language awareness.
During these six months, Zou Hongyan, while rehabilitating her son, learned more about the situation of cerebral palsy patients, and found that cerebral palsy patients can be roughly divided into three categories:
One is nerve damage that leads to motor incongruity, the second is mental impairment that leads to behavioral dementia, and the third is both.
After a general understanding of the situation of patients with cerebral palsy, Zou Hongyan thought to herself that her son was not congenital cerebral palsy, and the reason for this situation was caused by medical accidents that occurred during the process of childbirth. So, does this mean that the child's intelligence has not been greatly damaged?
With the psychology of luck, Zou Hongyan was determined to find out the true situation of the child's intelligence.
Selfless companionship
In order to make her son recover better, Zou Hongyan decided to start with the simplest intelligence test and identify the color first. She followed the doctor's instructions and hung all kinds of balloons in the room, constantly cultivating her son's perception of color. Subsequently, she found that her son could understand his mother's words and find the right color according to his mother's questions.
A six-month-old can do this, which shows that the son must not have intellectual problems.
This test result made Zou Hongyan feel ecstatic at once, since his intelligence had not been particularly damaged, then the focus on recovery was even Tintin's body.
When Tintin was one year old, his left foot was still very immobile, he had a large movement disorder, he often drooled, and his hands did not have the strength to hold things very easily, unlike normal children.
Tintin also learned to walk relatively late, and it was not until he was two and a half years old that he could barely walk alone; although he could walk a short distance, this also gave Zou Hongyan hope. After all, the son can walk alone, which means that there is still a possibility of completely returning to normal walking.
Zou Hongyan began to constantly exercise Tintin's limb coordination ability, at first, she first let Tintin learn from tearing paper, coordinate the strength of her hands and arms during the process of tearing paper, and then began to teach Tintin to learn to use chopsticks.
However, the seemingly ordinary action of using chopsticks to pick vegetables is also very difficult for Tintin; young Tintin often cries because he can't use chopsticks, and sometimes even drops chopsticks and loses his temper with his mother.
In the face of her young son, Zou Hongyan has endless patience, she patiently explained to her son why she should carry out such training, why she must learn to use chopsticks; let her son know that this is the most basic life skill, if you want to get as close as possible to the life of a normal person, only by paying more effort than others, it is more likely to succeed in the future.
In Zou Hongyan's heart, Tintin was never a child with cerebral palsy and disability, he was the same as a normal child, he was just a little slower than others.
Zou Hongyan was always very gentle and careful to explain to her son the differences between him and others, and gradually, she found that although her son's actions were slower, it was precisely because of his slowness that he could also concentrate on doing a good job.
For children with cerebral palsy with impaired motor neurons, in medicine, three to six years old is the golden period for children to recover their motor function, and if you miss this time, it will be difficult to recover.
Zou Hongyan naturally knew about this matter, so from the age of three, Ding Ding took him to the hospital for rehabilitation training.
It is difficult for a single woman to take a child, it is even more difficult to live with a child with cerebral palsy, in order to be able to earn more money to treat her son, Zou Hongyan still has to work, can not accompany her son anytime and anywhere, she can only take care of her son while working, she works during the day, and rides a bicycle at night to take her son to massage, once every two days, rain or shine.
In order to treat her son, Zou Hongyan fought like this, which touched the medical staff; sometimes, looking at the mother and son who were shivering in the snow, the medical staff would also advise them not to come when the weather was bad, and it didn't matter if they were absent once or twice occasionally.
But Zou Hongyan did not think so, she did not dare to have the slightest slackness, from the day she decided to take Tintin for rehabilitation training, she made up her mind, as long as the hospital opened, even if there was a knife in the sky, she would take her son to training.
In order to be able to take better care of the children, Zou Hongyan also trained herself to become a masseuse. Kung Fu pays off, under the efforts of Zou Hongyan, Tintin can walk steadily at the age of 4, learned to jump at the age of 5 and a half, and officially entered the Zhonghua Road Primary School at the age of 7.
When studying at school, at the beginning, Ding Ding's writing was very slow, Zou Hongyan would apply to the school for an exam extension, and the school, after learning about Tintin's specific situation, considered extending the exam time for him as appropriate, initially extending it by 20 minutes, and later shortening it to 5 minutes. Tintin's progress is quite fast, and by the 4th grade, his writing speed has caught up with the normal level, and he can complete the exam in the same time as his classmates.
That is to say, by the time Tintin was in the 4th grade, in ordinary life, he was no different from a normal person.
Good education
Zou Hongyan gave her son Ding Ding the most complete maternal love and selfless companionship, but Zou Hongyan, as a teacher, never gave Ding Ding homework. Ding Ding has words that he does not recognize, Zou Hongyan asked him to look up the Xinhua Dictionary himself, and over time, unconsciously, Tintin's independent learning ability was exercised.
At the same time, Zou Hongyan would give Tintin a set of questions every once in a while and let him practice, but when Tintin gave her corrections, she never checked and directly took out a pen and scored 100 points.
Looking at the 100 points, Tintin thought he had done it all right, but later found out that it was not. He took a test paper and showed it to the teacher, but he actually did two wrong questions, but his mother still gave 100 points. In this regard, Tintin did not understand his mother very much, he felt that the teacher did the right thing, and the mother was somewhat irresponsible.
In the face of her son's questioning, Zou Hongyan was very calm, she said to Tintin: We made our own rolls, do it ourselves, why do we still make mistakes, it should be all right, I will give you 100 points in the future.
Hearing this, Tintin instantly understood that his movements were a little slower than his classmates, then, it was not possible to complete the test paper in the exam one day, in order to ensure the score, he could only continuously improve the accuracy, even if he could not finish all the questions on the paper, he also had to strive to do all the questions correctly.
With this awareness, Tintin began to cultivate his own habit of carefulness and seriousness, and in the examination, the accuracy rate was getting higher and higher. However, although Tintin excelled in his studies, he was severely injured as a child, and was still different from normal children in some special circumstances, such as during military training.
Once, Tintin participated in military training, because of physical reasons, the action was somewhat funny, and he was ridiculed by his classmates, but after the instructor knew Tintin's situation, he praised Tintin and punished his classmates who laughed at him, which caused dissatisfaction among his classmates.
The students did not understand, obviously they did better than Tintin, why are we punished? The instructor explained to them that Tintin was a child with cerebral palsy, and it was okay not to explain, and after this explanation, children with cerebral palsy almost became Tintin's nickname.
This made Ding Ding very depressed, Zou Hongyan knew, did not go to the school to find those classmates theory, but constantly comforted Ding Ding, she told her son, as a man with a broad heart, in the event of a contradiction, as long as it is not a matter of principle, a little grievance is actually nothing, even if it is now with your classmates, after graduation, they are all in the south sea, there is no need to feel troubled by these problems.
Under the comfort of his mother, Tintin also developed a tolerant and open-minded personality, he gradually realized that his body is indeed flawed, this is a fact that cannot be changed, the mouth is on others, others have the right to speak, therefore, others can tolerate us is generous, not to tolerate us is not wrong.
In the second year of high school, Tintin's grades once became unsatisfactory, he began to doubt life, he could not understand why he had to go to a prestigious school? Wouldn't it be nice to be happy and relaxed?
Seeing that his son had such a question, Zou Hongyan took him to the East Lake to see the house, and under the leadership of his mother, they climbed the first floor, the sixth floor and the twentieth floor respectively.
On the first floor, in the face of his mother's question "Can you see the East Lake", Tintin replied that he could not; and on the sixth floor, when facing the same question, he said that the East Lake was like a small handkerchief, which was not very clear; on the twentieth floor, he saw the East Lake that his mother wanted him to see.
Zou Hongyan said: The appearance of the East Lake is objectively existent, because people stand on different platforms, but what they see is different scenes, if you want to see more and more perfect, then you have to stand on a higher platform.
This experience made tintin, who was originally confused, suddenly realize that he began to study harder.
No one would have thought that a child with cerebral palsy would become a bully after many years. In 2007, at the age of 20, Ding Ding was admitted to the School of Environmental Science and Engineering of Peking University with a score of 660.
Peking University is the highest university in China, one of the best universities, Tintin can reverse the transformation into a bully to enter Peking University, which is enough to show the excellence of children.
In 2010, Ding Ding transferred to the School of Transnational Law of Peking University, completed his master's degree, and won several national scholarships, outstanding graduates of Beijing and three good students.
In March 2016, Tintin, who was already working, applied to study at Harvard University.
In 2017, Tintin received his Master of Laws degree from Harvard University. At this time, Tintin is 30 years old, and the transformation of his life in 30 years has jumped from a child with cerebral palsy to a top talent in a world-renowned university, which cannot but be said to be a miracle.
In 2018, Tintin officially passed the U.S. judicial exam.
After completing this series of further studies, Tintin returned to Beijing to look for a job, and now, his life is no different from ordinary people, except for fine movements such as needle threading and scientific experiments, no one can find his physical abnormalities in ordinary life.
Mother Zou Hongyan successfully trained her son, who was originally sentenced to death by fate, to become a high-achieving student at Peking University, and then sent to Harvard University to become a high-end talent. However, Zou Hongyan does not feel that she is great, and her definition of herself has always been "a mother who continues to grow and progress for her children".
Now, this pair of excellent mother and son have become a very popular search on the Internet entry, while accompanying her son to rehabilitation and training her son, Zou Hongyan's work has also improved, and she has also won many honorary titles such as excellent teacher and excellent party member.
At present, Ding Ding has been hired by a large company in Beijing to become the legal counsel of the company, and Zou Hongyan has also become an associate professor at wuhan city vocational college.
Not only that, Zou Hongyan has also contacted the families of many children with cerebral palsy to help them recover, hoping to bring them more confidence and accompany them to strive for a better future.
In their story, mother and son both drew a strong stroke in the process of each other's growth, and the mother's selfless companionship and good education pulled Tintin back from the death line, in Tintin's own words:
"Mother is a grass under the slate, the vitality is extremely vigorous, as long as there is a glimmer of hope, a little sunshine and rain, it can stick out its head, it can grow."
It is true that people's fate is different, some people are born with hardships, but we can not take birth as the end, in life, no matter what kind of difficulties should be hopeful, perhaps the final result will not be as ideal as Tintin, but as long as you pay your own efforts, then everything will become the best arrangement.
Seeing Tintin's results, I don't know how my father, who was bent on abandoning him, felt in his heart. If it were not for Zou Hongyan's insistence, perhaps Tintin would already be a paralyzed disabled person, and he would definitely be abandoned by fate and would definitely not be admitted to Peking University and Harvard University. Tintin wants to thank his mother Zou Hongyan, for Tintin, his mother did not hesitate to divorce and be single, she not only contributed all her energy, but also her own youth.
In fact, every child is a limited edition angel, are the only irreplaceable, no matter what kind of child they meet, parents must not abandon, do not give up, go through hardships, eat all the suffering, and eventually become the king of their own lives.
From a child with cerebral palsy to a bully at Peking University, Tintin completed the reversal of fate, blessed Tintin, and hoped that Tintin could bring more people the positive energy of hard work.
Bibliography:
The Paper: Hubei single mother spent 29 years sending her son with severe cerebral palsy to Harvard University
Reference news: Single mother sends her son with severe cerebral palsy to Harvard: she does not want him to be ashamed of himself because of the disease
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