Author | Late King
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Xia Han
There is a story in the "Precepts on the Wall of Harvard Books":
On a cold winter night, three beggars huddled in the corner of a Washington block.
A beggar said: I think I was still a millionaire, if it weren't for the stock plummeting...
Another beggar said: How long ago was that? Look, I'll go to the trash can tomorrow morning and maybe there's a million dollar check in there, haha...
The third beggar did not speak, but silently went elsewhere, looking for food to fill his stomach.
At dawn, the first two beggars were taken to their lives by cold and hunger, and only the beggar who was looking for food survived.
These three beggars represent the end of the three kinds of people in the world:
One kind of person lives in the past, one kind of person lives in tomorrow, and one kind of person lives in the present.
People who live in the past and tomorrow are filled with fantasies and regrets, and they make a mess of the present day.
People who live the present seriously can finally live this life well.
There's a saying that goes something like this:
Yesterday is history, tomorrow is not yet known. At this moment, it is the gift of Heaven.
Not dwelling on the past, not delusional about the future, and living well in the present is the meaning of life.
Tagore had a saying:
"If you're sad to miss the sun, you're going to miss the stars too."
If you blindly indulge in the past, you can't think of the people and things in the past, and you cling to the scars of the past.
There will be too much burden on us, hindering our pace of progress.
Once upon a time, there was a reader who repeatedly failed to pass, and then when he went to the exam, it was difficult to sleep at night, always thinking that the last time he had fallen behind Sun Shan, it was difficult to have a good result this time.
To this end, he visited the respected gentleman from afar to relieve the depression in his heart.
After listening to his troubles, the gentleman said: "The virtual pole is quiet, and the past is not worried." ”
The reader was puzzled, and Mr. Said in a serious tone: "People's hearts are only big fists, and they are all past troubles, how can they read idly under the lamp." ”
In life, everyone can't let go of the past, and blindly chewing on troubles will only delay themselves.
It is better to try to change the mentality: let go of what should be put down, and look down on what should be looked down upon, is the long-term way.
When Mr. Yang Dai was studying at Tsinghua University, he wrote an essay called "Collecting Footprints".
There is a saying in Jiangnan that after a person dies, the soul needs to stay in the human world temporarily and dispose of the footprints left by him before he died.
When souls look for the footsteps of the past, recall the past again and again, and watch themselves slowly being forgotten, they can't help but sigh:
The layers of footprints depict a number of different moods.
But the past that could not be caught was farther than the stars and the moon, and only some vague reflections could be seen under the water, as if they were very close, but so far away!
We have come all the way, and everyone will leave their footprints and traces in the years.
Some are clear and clear, some are muddy and dirty, some can't bear to look back, and some can't be abandoned.
But all the past is the prologue.
Some things, clinging to them, are tortures on themselves.
Some things, entangled, are persecution of oneself.
Only by putting away the footprints and letting go of the past grievances can the soul be redeemed.
In "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon", Li Mubai once said:
When you clench your hands, there is nothing inside; when you open your hands, the world is in your hands.
When we learn to see success or failure as a floating cloud, the ebb and flow of the tide as the norm of life.
Life will naturally be long and the moon will be long, and the mountains and rivers will be far away.
In life, most people are like this: the mind is very full, the action is very bone.
A bunch of plans were prepared, but they were always in the fantasy, looking for various reasons to prevaricate themselves.
Finally, when I look back and reflect, I feel that I have wasted time and am worried about the future.
This type of person always thinks that thinking before and after thinking is the embodiment of maturity and stability.
As everyone knows, blindly dreaming, not only can not live the present, but in the end it will also drag down your life.
Those who really live well know how to correct their mentality and settle down with the situation.
Luo Zhenyu once asked a question in one of his speeches:
If we draw a half-meter-wide and five-meter-long passage on the ground, you have no problem walking over it.
But if this passage is lined with cliffs, can you still walk through it?
I believe that many people have begun to be afraid when they imagine this picture.
Luo Zhenyu then replied:
You're going to be nervous and your liver is shaking. Why does the liver flutter?
Because you think about the future — one step to the left will fall, and one step to the right will fall.
In fact, you think too much, if you don't think about both sides, the width of half a meter is enough for you to walk a long distance, and you won't fall down at all.
Why do some people do things so smoothly? Often it's because he's focused on the moment and doesn't think much about it.
Yeah, everyone's time and energy is limited.
If you only dwell on fantasies, you can't do the things of the moment. Then everyone will be shrouded in the anxiety and internal friction of their own creation, and then, what will be the future?
Fudan Professor Chen Guo once said:
We always focus too much on the future, today we are sacrificing for the future, planning for the future, the focus is always on that future, and today is ignored.
But what is the future?
What never comes is called the future, and what is real and real is the present and the present.
In the past, we can't keep it; tomorrow, we won't be able to catch it.
The only thing that can be grasped is today; and what can be grasped today is every present moment.
The future is out of the box, not out of the box.
From now on, empty your anxiety and live today; reject fantasy and live in the present moment.
Be a giant in action, then life will give you far more rewards than you think.
Mo Yan once said such a thing:
Once, he was chatting with a classmate whose wife had just died.
When the classmates were sorting out their wife's belongings, they found a delicate new silk scarf.
It was bought by the couple at a designer store when they went on a trip.
His wife had been reluctant to use it, and wanted to wait for a special day to use it.
But until his death, his wife could not use it once.
The classmate said with great sadness:
Don't save good things for special days anymore, every day you live is a special day.
It was these words that also made Mo Yan start to change his lifestyle:
Whenever he felt something in his heart, he would put down the chores at hand, find a novel, turn on the stereo, lie down on the couch, and grab some of his own time;
He would enjoy the view of the river opposite from the floor-to-ceiling window, leaving the dust on the glass alone;
He will drag his family to eat outside and no longer worry about what to do with the food at home.
When Mo Yan began to go through each day with his heart, he also sighed:
"Life should be an experience we cherish, not a day to go by."
It is true that life is like a white cloud passing through the gap, pain is a day, happiness is also a day.
So, why should we be sad about the past, why worry about the future?
As Paulo Coelho in The Shepherd Boy's Fantastic Journey puts it:
"I'm still alive, and when I eat, I eat wholeheartedly;
When I walk, I just walk.
Because I live neither in the past nor in the future, all I have is the present, and I am only interested in the present. ”
Life is a journey that cannot be returned, and we do not know where we will be pushed by life, who we will meet, and what we will experience.
But if you can calmly live every minute and every second in front of you, then the best will come naturally.
Mr. Lin Qingxuan once said:
When we live in the moment, we can cut off the sorrows of the past and the fears of the future.
Only when we cut off the sorrows of the past and the fears of the future can we attain true freedom.
Those who abandon me shall not remain on yesterday's day; those who disturb my heart will be troubled on this day.
Grasp each moment, and you will get the best answer in the water.
Be a transparent and open-minded person, not in love with the past, not in the future, and living in the present.
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Author | Late King
Typography | Zheng to the north
Music | What Are Words