A mother in Hubei Province gave birth to a son with "cerebral palsy" and was sentenced to "death" by the hospital at birth, preferring to divorce rather than give up her son. After 29 years of cultivation, he became a master's degree from Harvard University.
How did he do it?
Severely sentenced to "death penalty" by hospital
In 1987, at the age of 25, Zou Hongyan was a teacher at the Wuhan Preschool Normal School.
The fertility policy at that time supported late marriage and late childbearing, and each couple could only have one child except in special accidents.
Zou Hongyan, who has loved children since she was a child, was ecstatic after learning that she was pregnant and could not speak with excitement.
After this day, she paid extra attention to her body, eated healthily, and fell asleep early every night before ten o'clock.
Sometimes, when there is no class, she will sit in a chair and tap her stomach, hum a few nursery rhymes and read ancient poems to the baby.
Zou Hongyan is teaching her children
Zou Hongyan heard her mother say that eating more animal liver will make children's eyes develop better.
So she came to the market early in the morning to queue up, just to buy the freshest pork liver.
The pork liver fried with onions, ginger and garlic is obviously very fragrant, but she feels that the pork liver is fishy and bitter, and it is difficult to swallow.
For the sake of the baby, she endured the pregnancy reaction and vomited, vomited and ate, and a plate of pork liver did not know how long it took to completely eat.
This is her first child and her last child, so Zou Hongyan has an infinite vision for this little life.
On the evening of July 18, 1988, Zou Hongyan was sent to the hospital by her family under a severe pain.
They gathered around the stretcher car and comforted her not to be too afraid, and Zou Hongyan was pushed into the delivery room both expectantly and panickedly.
At this time, the doctor was preparing for the pre-labor work, and she stared blankly at the empty ceiling, afraid that something would happen to the child.
In order to speed up the production progress, the doctor chose to manually break the membrane, release the amniotic fluid, and then quickly withdraw from the delivery room.
At that time, it was the time when the medical staff was on duty, and Zou Hongyan was like a fish on the board, lying in the delivery room for 2 hours without anyone caring.
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She gradually lost consciousness under the severe pain and passed out.
After the belated succession doctor found Zou Hongyan, who was waiting to give birth, he immediately put on the surgical gown and rescued him.
Born a boy, he should have been happy. But this child's skin was blue-purple, he didn't cry or make trouble, and he was almost dying.
The midwife saw the situation and quickly performed tracheal intubation, oxygen infusion, and rescued him with all his might.
Unfortunately, the child was diagnosed with severe paralysis due to severe intracranial hemorrhage due to intrauterine asphyxia.
A full 5 days have passed since the birth of the child.
For the past 5 days, she has been lying on her hospital bed tossing and turning, eager to get news of her child.
How much she looked forward to the doctor in the ICU to take the child out and tell her: Your child can now be taken back.
But the reality is cruel, and after Zou Hongyan saw her son, the doctor directly sentenced the child to "death".
"This child has severe cerebral palsy, there is no significance and value of rescue, even if the child grows up, it is not stupid or paralyzed."
"You see you're still young, go give birth to a healthy baby, pull out the oxygen tube, and it's solved in a few minutes..."
These words poured through her heart like cold water, and she saw that her husband also nodded frequently, saying that he also agreed with the advice of doctors and nurses.
Zou Hongyan did not echo them, but walked out of the ward in a lost soul, and finally could not suppress the loss and panic in her heart, and cried loudly.
Thinking back to the scene of the child lying there full of tubes, she only felt that her heart was about to break.
After a random vent, she gradually accepted the reality. Since there is a problem with the child's intelligence, she will spend her whole life raising.
At this time, the husband walked to her side with heavy steps and comforted:
"Let's give up this child, this year you raise your body first, there is no hurry to have a child, anyway, next year you can have another one."
Tintin and his mother Zou Hongyan
It was clearly July, the hottest time of summer, but Zou Hongyan only felt that the words spoken by her husband were as cold as the snow in December.
"I'm his mom, I'm going to leave him behind." Zou Hongyan firmly told her husband her thoughts.
But her husband not only disagreed, but also angrily accused her of being very selfish and not knowing how to think about the family.
After several violent arguments, the two refused to bow their heads to compromise each other's demands.
In desperation, Zou Hongyan chose to divorce her husband for the sake of her children.
Perhaps out of maternal love, Zou Hongyan silently resisted everyone's dissuasion and decided to raise the child alone.
That night, she held her son tightly in her arms and spent a sleepless night.
It wasn't until 5 a.m. that the child hummed like a newborn kitten and then began to cry.
The doctor took him to the general ward and stayed with his mother after a series of examinations and found that the child's condition had improved.
More than 10 days later, Zou Yiyan brought his son home and named him "Ding Ding" (dīng zhēng).
"Tintin" is taken from the "Logging Dingding" in the Book of Verses, which means the sound of logging.
Ding Ding was silent when he was first born, but Zou Hongyan hoped that he would live vigorously and make a difference when he grew up.
According to the guidance of doctors, patients with cerebral palsy have three conditions, either mental impairment, resulting in uncoordinated movements; or intellectual impairment, leading to dementia; and the most serious is both.
At this time, Zou Hongyan's biggest worry was the child's intelligence problem.
Rejuvenated with massage treatments!
When the child was more than 3 months old, Zou Hongyan hung colorful balloons at home according to the doctor's instructions, and patiently taught the child to identify these colors.
By chance, Zou Hongyan found that her son could not only understand what she was saying, but also clearly find out the color of the balloon that Zou Hongyan instructed.
This "small progress" undoubtedly gave Zou Hongyan a huge motivation, since the child can distinguish the color, then he is certainly not stupid.
The more she thought about it, the more excited Zou Hongyan, took Tintin to the hospital for an intelligence examination, and the examination results showed that Tintin's intelligence was no different from that of ordinary children.
This news is simply a blessing in disguise!
But this joy did not last long, and she suddenly remembered the conclusion set by the doctor: "Either stupid or paralyzed."
Now Tintin's intelligence is not a problem, which means that his movements are not very coordinated, and if he is serious, he may have to spend his whole life in bed.
Zou Hongyan did not dare to think much, and only hoped that Ding Ding's physical problems would not be too serious.
In the blink of an eye, Tintin was 6 months old, and the things she had been worried about had finally come.
The symptoms of cerebral palsy, which frequently drooled, limb weakness, and inability to turn over, are now manifested in Tintin.
Tintin did not learn to walk until he was 3 years old, but his left leg was weak and could only be dragged forward.
Zou Hongyan took Ding Ding to the hospital for diagnosis, diagnosed with left hemiplegia, if you want to return to normal, you must promote the development of cranial nerves through massage treatment.
On the surface, it is a massage, but for Tintin, it is a painful and unbearable "torture." ”
Tintin undergoing massage treatment
Lying on the hospital bed, 5 to 6 male doctors surrounded the little child and massaged every inch of his skin.
What made him uncomfortable was that the doctors' massage techniques were not gentle. If I had to describe it, it was the kind of piercing pain.
What makes Zou Hongyan's heart ache the most is the last step of massage: "rolling the skin".
Rolling the skin, as the name suggests, is to pull up the skin on the back little by little, hold it for ten seconds, and then let the skin bounce back on its own.
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This action needs to be repeated more than a dozen times in order to stimulate the neural response and brain development in the spine.
Tintin lay in bed in pain, and every time he would kneel on the bed and beg the doctor to be lighter.
Zou Hongyan endured the pain and asked the doctor to press him back.
Massage rehabilitation like this, he has to come to the hospital every 2 days to go through it.
The doctor massages Tintin's head
Every time he got out of bed, he would take his mother's hand, cry out how much it hurt, and then limp back home holding his mother's hand.
But what he didn't know was that his mother Zou Hongyan saw her son crying like a tearful person, it was simply hurt in her child's body, and the pain was in her mother's heart.
At that time, Zou Hongyan was a people's teacher with a monthly salary of only about 100 yuan.
The massage rehabilitation treatment that Cantin needs to do is very expensive, and it costs 5 yuan to do it once.
According to her salary at that time, this little money was not enough for her to massage her son, not to mention the living expenses of mother and son.
In the most difficult time, Zou Hongyan worked three jobs, in addition to working in the school, she also had to work part-time as an insurance salesman and social training, which she did for 5 years.
During that time, Zou Hongyan was like a clockwork robot, either at work or on the way to take Tintin to massage treatment.
However, the hardships behind this were all carried by her gritted teeth, and her idea at that time was very simple, that is, she hoped that the child would be better.
Even if it was only a little, then all her efforts were not in vain!
But a year has passed, Tintin has not improved much than before, and the sense of loss in this is self-evident.
On this day, Zou Hongyan was sitting outside the ward waiting for Tintin as usual, and she saw a woman sitting next to her who was crying and crying.
After the two talked, Zou Hongyan found that her son's illness was extremely similar to Tintin's, and the two mothers at this moment fully expressed their inner grievances and confessed their respective life experiences to each other.
A month later, Zou Hongyan did not see the woman again, and after a long time of inquiring, she learned that the woman could not bear to see her son tortured, so she decided to stop the massage treatment.
Tintin watched his former friends leave, and his heart was very happy, and even began to fantasize that it would not be long before he could not use it.
One morning, Tintin should go to the hospital for a massage, but his mother did not get up for a long time, and he couldn't help but secretly rejoice in his heart, thinking that he could avoid the massage today.
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He triumphantly ran to his mother's room, woke up the "mother who was lying in bed", and said happily:
"Mom, if you don't go to the hospital today for massage treatment, will you be able to watch TV?"
Zou Hongyan suddenly reacted, her son needs to go to massage today!
At this time, she had a high fever to 40 degrees, and the whole person began to be unconscious, but as soon as she heard the word "massage", she still braced her body and led her son to the hospital shakily.
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Looking at his mother so desperately, Tintin really couldn't understand why his mother was so persistent.
Later, his mother told him: "Even if there is only 1% hope, we must do 100% of the effort!" ”
Later, this sentence was deeply engraved in Tintin's mind and became the motto of his life.
Zou Hongyan sent Tintin to massage treatment year after year, and in her eyes, it was better to receive treatment than to do nothing, and it was true.
Zou Hongyan gave her son rehabilitation
Because of the long-term massage treatment, by the time Tintin was 4 years old, he could walk without supporting a chair.
By the age of 5, he had learned how to run and jump without having to be criticized by his mother and himself.
More importantly, at the age of 7 and a half, Tintin can also have the ability to take care of himself like a normal child.
So Zou Hongyan sent him to school and let him receive compulsory education like an ordinary child.
Was ridiculed for cerebral palsy, in one fell swoop admitted to Peking University!
Once, she passed by the wet market and met the patient who had given up treating her child, and during the conversation, the patient learned that Tintin could go to school, and she was devastated.
Her child, who did not continue to adhere to the treatment, can now only lie in bed and need to be cared for for for the rest of his life.
Zou Hongyan couldn't help but feel sorry and distressed for her, and at the same time, she was glad that she had let her son regain his life.
Tintin soon advanced to the first year of junior high school, and the first biggest problem to face was to enter the military training.
According to Tintin's physical condition, he could obviously refuse to participate in military training by virtue of the hospital certificate.
But Zou Hongyan believes that this is a good exercise opportunity, after all, the child will grow up sooner or later, and will always experience some wild storms.
During military training, Tintin was poorly coordinated, which attracted his classmates to imitate.
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When the instructor learned of this, he called out all the classmates who imitated him and punished them, and comforted Tintin with kind words.
At this time, several students were not convinced and questioned:
"He obviously did worse than us, so why not punish him?"
The instructor blurted out without even thinking about it: "He is cerebral palsy, are you too?" ”
Soon after, word of "cerebral palsy" slipped through the class.
Not only that, they would also hide Tintin's school bag and stationery and tease him.
Tintin, who felt insulted, went back and told his mother about it.
Zou Hongyan not only did not comfort him, but also criticized him:
"Don't be bound to small things, as long as you have superiority, then no one dares to underestimate you."
This sentence made Tintin wake up like an empowerment.
Since then, he has devoted all his energy to his studies, paying no attention to the boring jokes and distractions.
Gradually, Tintin accumulated more and more knowledge. Even in school exams, he was the only student to receive full marks in both Chinese and mathematics.
One day, in order to let Ding Ding release the pressure, Zou Hongyan took him to the building next to the East Lake, to the 5th floor, the 10th floor and the 20th floor respectively, so that he could overlook the scenery here.
On the 5th floor, Tintin did not see the East Lake; on the 10th floor, he could only see a small part of the East Lake; when he came to the 20th floor, he finally saw the ocean that his mother wanted him to see.
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"We see very different scenes in different locations, and only when you go higher and higher can your vision be more open than ordinary people."
Tintin nodded as if he understood, and was trying to say something, when his mother interrupted him.
"Mom also wants to be a parent at Peking University and Harvard."
After Tintin heard this, his brain suddenly became confused, and he couldn't help but sigh: "Mom, you really dare to think!" ”
Zou Hongyan suddenly looked serious and shouted, "You don't even dare to think about it, how can you have the motivation to move forward?" ”
Tintin silently remembered this in his heart, demanded himself with higher standards, and slowly developed a habit of keeping the book in his hands.
In the blink of an eye, in the 2007 college entrance examination, Tintin stepped into the examination room with many candidates.
He wrote the scroll, writing his future while writing the answers.
After the exam, he relieved all the pressure, and exhaustion swept over him in an instant.
Tintin wants his score to be as high as possible.
Because other students have many paths for them to choose in the future, such as becoming an art student, a sports student, or becoming a soldier.
But there is only one way in front of Tintin, that is, "knowledge changes fate", he bet his fate on the college entrance examination, fight hard, and gamble his future on it.
He doesn't dare to lose, and he can't lose!
The days of waiting for the results were so long and painful for Zou Hongyan's mother and son. On the day of the query results, they stood in front of the computer with a nervous mood.
A number appeared in front of their eyes, so that Zou Hongyan's mother and son did not react.
Tintin college entrance examination played normally, and achieved a high score of 660 points! Soon after, an acceptance letter from Peking University followed.
Zou Hongyan held her son's acceptance letter on her chest and could not calm down for a long time.
It's like playing a movie in my mind, replaying the hardships of the past ten years, fortunately, the efforts of these ten years have not been in vain!
Children with cerebral palsy transform into Harvard masters
After entering the university, Tintin still maintained the good habit of going to bed early and getting up early, and was incompatible with his roommates.
They always played games until midnight to disturb his dreams, and he always got up from bed at 6:30 in the morning to disturb their dreams.
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After being ostracized by his classmates many times, he had to go to the library alone to study.
During his university years, he focused on his studies and won many titles such as national scholarships and three-good student.
Not only that, he also overcame his fear of sports in his free time and completed a series of sports tests such as long-distance running, basketball, and swimming.
After graduating with his bachelor's degree, Ding Ding transferred to Peking University Law School with his excellent results and completed his master's studies.
After Ding Ding graduated, he went to hangzhou to work in the legal department of a well-known network company.
A year later, deeply aware of his own inadequacies and eager to continue his law studies, he set his sights on Harvard University.
In 2017, he received his Master of Laws degree from Harvard University and successfully passed the U.S. judicial examination.
After completing this series of further studies, he returned to Beijing to continue his job search.
However, even though Tintin is successful in his studies and is in a prestigious school, due to his lack of language expression, it seriously affects the first impression of other interviewers on him.
Many interviewers questioned his status as a student at Peking University and Harvard, and Tintin never explained his illness to them.
He believes that as a professional, there is no need to win sympathy by selling misery, and the most important thing should be to create benefits for the company.
Although Tintin had many ups and downs on the road to job hunting, he still relied on his excellent professional ability to enter a large company in Beijing and work as a legal consultant.
Since Ding Ding was admitted to Peking University, Zou Hongyan's family story has also been reported by major media websites.
To this end, some people come to her to ask her for experience in educating children.
However, Zou Hongyan still hopes to provide more help for children with cerebral palsy.
Therefore, after consulting with her son, she will often appear in front of the media or variety shows to tell her own experience. I hope to use my limited influence to let more organizations and institutions in society care about children with cerebral palsy.
Perhaps on the road of life, some children will fall on the starting line, but the most terrible thing is that after falling, they will lie directly on the ground, waiting for others to help.
As long as we are willing to face reality, accept reality, and make ourselves stronger before facing the baptism of fate, we can reverse the direction of fate on the road of future life.
I hope that the inspirational stories that happened to Zou Hongyan's mother and son can give some miracles and hopes to those who are struggling in despair.
With this article, I hope that children in difficult situations can get a reversal of life!