90% of the top 10 children in the class are from these 4 families!

The level of children's academic performance, family factors occupy a very important role, even more than the school factor!

This is not a rhetorical statement, but a conclusion reached through rigorous investigation.

Through the survey of hundreds of students admitted to prestigious schools, more than 90% of the students are from the following 4 kinds of families!

01

Families who know how to control their emotions

In the process of raising children, most parents will have anxious emotions, and can not control the emotions well, over time, will be sensitive and irritable, often tantrums to children.

How did the grades regress? How did you learn?

What's the use of raising you! Go crazy again!

Just know how to play all day, and when you grow up, you can do something!

There is no worry in the family, I am tired and tired every day is easy!

Did you say that to your child?

If there is, then you are a parent who does not know how to control emotions, and your family is a family that does not know how to control emotions!

If a family only complains all day long, will the children who grow up in such a complaining family have good grades?

We all know that children are like a blank piece of paper, their words and deeds will be affected by the surrounding environment, especially the family environment, the impact on children is huge!

From a certain point of view, the reason why children have problem behaviors is not caused by the child's initiative, but the result of passive influence and accumulation.

If the parent is a pessimist who loves to complain and often complains, then the child's mental development will also be affected, becoming more and more depressed and negative!

In the long run, the child's ability to accept knowledge after arriving at school will also decline, and the things taught by the teacher will not be able to learn, and the grades will naturally not be good.

Surveys have shown that none of the children with excellent grades are full of negative emotions in their growth environment!

If you want your child to have a good grade, parents must lead by example and not complain to their children.

No matter how much bitterness there is, as long as you return home, you must leave it all behind and give your child a positive, sunny image.

If a family knows how to control their emotions and let the child grow up in a positive environment, then the child must also be a person who can manage emotions and be more efficient in learning!

02

A family that will communicate benignly

There was once a teacher who asked a child this question: When you have confusion, who will you ask for help first?

The results surprised all parents: the first place was the friend, followed by the teacher, and the parent, only in the third place!

When a child is confused, why not ask the parents for help?

The main reason is that such families lack positive communication, and there is a deep gap between parents and children!

What's the problem? In fact, the main problem of families who lack communication lies in their parents!

If parents usually do not pay attention to communication skills, and the communication with the child is simple and rough, so that the conversation becomes less likely to pay attention to the method and effect, and only the catharsis of emotions, the child is prone to rejection and reverse psychology.

Without benign communication, parents and children do not understand each other, when there is a problem in the child's learning, it cannot be solved in a timely and effective manner, and over time, the academic performance will be affected.

How can we communicate soundly?

Parents should learn to listen

Learning to listen is the first step in communication. If the child is worried about something, parents may wish to stop the work at hand, sit down, and listen quietly to the child.

Good parents will listen to their children's ideas, and parents who often use a more equal model to communicate with their children in family relationships are much more likely to teach excellent children.

Work together to find a way to solve the problem

When the child encounters a problem and seeks help from the parents, the more specific the guidance given by the parents, the better, and the way to solve the problem is best discussed with the child to determine.

Through the discussion, the direction will be clearer, and the problem itself will appear clear and clear, which will help to solve the problem.

At the same time, this way of participating together will also make children feel more accomplished and confident.

Families with benign communication, in addition to giving children the opportunity to express their opinions, also let children have more feelings of being trusted.

Bring this sense of trust to learning, it will become the child's intrinsic learning potential and motivation, it is easier to promote the improvement of children's academic performance.

03

Rules-making families

No rules, no squares. Some of the children's problems seem to be harmless small flaws, and the direct cause behind them is due to a lack of self-control.

Parents should make good rules so that children know the boundaries of everything.

Only by being strict with yourself and improving your self-control ability can you adapt to school rules, and it will be easier to adapt to society in the future.

The formulation of rules does not have to be too complicated, for example, you must complete your homework before a certain time, play a mobile phone for up to 10 minutes between learning, and so on.

Let children develop the awareness of abiding by the rules from an early age, and naturally form self-behavior control in school, on the one hand, there will be no safety hazards because they are too naughty, on the other hand, they can also develop good habits of regularity in learning.

The family is the child's harbor, only by creating a good family environment can we give the child a good learning space.

04

A family that knows how to accompany

We all know that it is important to develop your child's reading habits.

But how to cultivate children's reading interest and habits?

A teacher who has been a homeroom teacher for many years once said: If a child does not know how to read, then he must have a parent who does not know how to accompany.

After the children come back from school, many parents do their own things: cooking, watching TV, playing mobile phones... It is generally to let the child do his homework first.

In fact, the period between when the child comes home from school and before the child goes to bed is the golden period for parents to accompany their children.

Parents should let their children know that in the matter of learning, they are not alone, parents should work with their children to practice "lifelong learning" to the end!

During this time, parents accompany their children to do homework and play games, so that children can fully feel their sense of existence, and this sense of security of being loved can cultivate the child's cheerful and warm personality.

The "companion" family atmosphere can subtly affect the child and play the correct guiding role for the child.

Children will also be more cheerful and sunny in school, and the efficiency of absorbing knowledge will be greatly improved.

Xueba is never born, through the efforts of the day after tomorrow, every child has the potential of Xueba.

However, this acquired effort, not only the child's own efforts, parents and families, also play a pivotal role.

A good family is often a hotbed for cultivating academic bullies!

Parents and friends, try to create a good family atmosphere, the next bully, is your child.

END

We never doubt the heart of every parent who loves their children, but when the children do things unsatisfactorily and mistakes occur, please parents can reflect on themselves in time, lead by example, correctly guide the child to develop well, and do not wait until the child is desperate for us to look back!