Love or not love, confusing.
In the age of love, everyone hopes to meet people who are in love as soon as possible.
At the beginning, in the face of each other's fate, they can maintain a grateful attitude, thinking that this is the love they want, and it is a feeling worth entrusting for the rest of their lives.
Over time, the passion for love fades.
When friends calm down and re-examine their love, they will find that it is different from the original.
Originally, everyone was able to treat the person they loved with the attitude of loving The House and Wu.
When the impulse in the heart fades, the two people get along plainly, and there is no longer a novel feeling in the world of love, it is easy for us to stare at the flaws of the lover, and even magnify the shortcomings.
When love comes to this point, friends will inevitably fall into confusion and think that love has gone far.
In fact, is this really the case? The answer is often no.
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Women expect to be loved.
Fate, romantic and beautiful.
In many works of art, love is depicted as something aesthetic.
When single, girls will use their imagination to imagine what love looks like. Even, many people will form their own view of mate selection, hoping that one day, they can meet men who match themselves.
Once she encounters love, women realize that love is more attractive than imagined.
In the age of love, girls expect to be loved.
In order to fulfill the love they want, they will not hesitate to lower the standard, but also use emotional thinking to imagine the fate of two people as the most romantic thing in the world.
As everyone knows, truly fortunate feelings are inseparable from the cornerstone of reality.
A momentary impulse cannot fulfill the happiness of the rest of your life.
After washing away the lead in love, many girls will understand that the original romance is temporary, and happiness and security are the things that really make people steady. So, what kind of man will become the emotional destination of girls?
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Love you, men will treat you like this.
Although, reciprocity is a prerequisite for love.
Both lovers, only by standing on an equal footing, can they protect their love. But I have to admit that in a relationship, girls are often in a weak position.
Why do you think that?
Compared with men, girls do not have full strength and no strong physique.
Physically, they are objects that need to be guarded. In addition, once it is time to talk about marriage, girls often give up their original families and choose to live with men, and they will make more efforts for love.
So, even if love needs reciprocity, it can't be truly balanced. For girls, how to ensure the happiness of the rest of their lives? This requires everyone to meet a sincere man.
If men, just play with the mentality, will only bring a scarred ending to girls.
And the man who truly loves her will grasp the details of getting along, choose to accompany her, guard her, even if time flies, this man will keep the original intention unchanged, and always put the girl in an important position.
It turns out that men care about you and will treat you like this.
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Insist on exclusivity.
In love, it is full of temptations.
Even if two people get along as a couple, they will face many tests.
Especially when the love of each other enters a period of flatness, it is easy for men to change their attitudes. Because in the eyes of men, fate loses its freshness, and its own curiosity is not satisfied, so they will become restless in love.
Many men are fickle.
Once outside of love, they encounter new temptations, they become heartbroken. In a breeze, these men will ignore the feelings of the girls because they don't really love.
Long-term relationships need to follow the principle of exclusivity.
If a man truly loves you, his subconscious will follow this bottom line. In the passage of time, this man will keep a distance from other members of the opposite sex to avoid misunderstanding the girl he loves.
Because he truly loves you, men can grasp these details and avoid detours in the feelings of two people.
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Choose to accompany you.
Why expect love?
On the way to growing up, everyone will find that it is too lonely to walk alone.
Under the influence of this mentality, we will look forward to meeting the other half of the fate as soon as possible and spending the rest of our lives hand in hand with each other. The time two people spend together can not only find a feeling of happiness, but also avoid the feeling of loneliness.
Love needs to be managed.
And accompanying long-term affection is an act that many couples will have.
In fact, is there still love between two people? It can be seen through companionship.
The person who doesn't love you will only choose to alienate you, and whenever there is an opportunity to break the connection, he will choose to disappear from your sight. And the person who has you in his heart will understand the importance of companionship, and once he has time, he will choose to accompany the girl he loves.
Falling in love with someone, girls are prone to gain and loss.
In such a situation, how can women judge men's attitudes? Subconsciously, the man who is willing to accompany you will always guard you because he really cares about you.
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Be able to empathize with you.
Everyone has a selfish side.
But love can easily change a person.
When single, men are busy with their own affairs, they will spend time and energy on the things they care about, often have no time to take care of too many other things.
And when encountering love, men often put the girl they love in an important position.
Even if they are really busy, they will take time out and try to accompany each other. Especially when encountering disagreements, men are more willing to stand in the girl's perspective and consider each other thoroughly.
Such an act is a manifestation of love.
Loving someone is nothing more than paying attention to and caring, and when necessary, being able to choose to understand and be considerate. If a man can consistently do this, his love is beyond doubt.
Fate makes people think.
However, in a relationship, it is easy for everyone to become confused.
Especially in the flat period, the way the two people get along has changed, and the girl will be affected by the mentality of gain and loss, and it is impossible to determine whether the other party still cares about herself.
In fact, men really care about you and tend to treat you this way.
Because of you in his heart, the man will keep a distance from other girls, will also buy time to accompany you, even if he encounters differences, he will choose to understand you. If you meet such a boy, please believe that his love for you has always been there.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.