If both your parents and mother-in-law are willing to bring you children, who would you choose to bring them?
Someone would say without hesitation that it was definitely a choice of parents. Because parents are biological, they will feel sorry for their children; and the mother-in-law is an outsider, no matter how she will not feel empathy.
But some people will choose their mother-in-law because of blood and surname. No matter how much the mother-in-law does not want to see her daughter-in-law, as long as the grandson is with her son's surname, then the mother-in-law will love the house and Wudi and love the grandson.
In fact, no matter who you let to help with the child, the key is that you are not ashamed. The other person has been kind to you, and you have returned to the other person.
01, the daughter is confined, the mother refuses to take care of it
Since graduating from college and working to earn money, Molly has become a cash machine on call for her parents. Before she got married, Molly was grateful for the nurturing grace of her parents for more than twenty years and responded to her parents' needs. Even this money later fell into his brother's pocket.
Molly even once thought that as long as her parents did not go too far with sons and daughters, she might turn a blind eye and risk being divorced to subsidize her parents' living expenses for 2,000 yuan a month.
However, Molly's bitter heart and filial piety met her insatiable parents. Most of Molly's savings before she got married were hollowed out by her parents. After getting married, Molly thought that her parents would let her go, but who knows, her parents still asked her for money on time every month.
Molly was reluctant to give, and her parents came to the door. Every time, Molly had to compromise. Afterwards, Molly was annoyed, but the next time her parents cried and poverty, Molly had no choice but to obediently obey.
After Molly became pregnant and gave birth to her son, her mother-in-law was not in good health, and Molly turned to her mother for help. But the mother of the mother said that the daughter who married out, the water spilled out, the child is the surname of the son-in-law, it should be Molly's mother-in-law to serve the confinement and take the child.
Her mother refused, and Molly could only ask her mother-in-law with her scalp. Fortunately, the mother-in-law did not throw up her hands, but dragged her not very good body to serve the confinement and take the child, which made Molly greatly relieved.
02, parents do not bring grandchildren to bring grandchildren
After that, the mother-in-law lived in this way, taking care of the children while taking care of the housework, but also saved Molly a lot of things. And every time Molly missed her mother-in-law's help and wanted to pay her mother-in-law hard, she waved her hand and said that instead of giving her flowers, it was better to save it for the child.
Compared with the kindness and contentment of the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law's parents have never been considerate of Molly who is married. Her brother bought a house, her parents asked her for 100,000, Molly did not give her parents to make trouble, and then Molly could only give 50,000.
Brother buys a car, parents come to ask for 50,000, Molly resolutely does not give, parents will directly lay rotten in front of her door, scolding her as a white-eyed wolf, not filial piety. Molly and her husband could not afford to lose this person, and they could only take 30,000 yuan to send their parents away.
After the younger brother got married and had children, his parents had a period of time and did not come back to ask for money. Only three years later, the parents who were originally at home to take their grandchildren well suddenly took the initiative to ask miao to bring their grandchildren, and said very sympathetically: Your mother-in-law is old, her health is not good, she has helped you with so many years of children, and it is time to go back to rest well.
But Molly was not at all willing to let her parents live at home with children, and she did not think that her parents took the initiative to bring their grandchildren, which was a manifestation of loving their daughters and grandchildren.
Sure enough, when my parents just came to the house and the luggage was just put down, they said straight to the point, we left our own grandchildren without them, and came to bring our grandsons, which is also painful for you. And you must also be considerate of our parents, and give 3,000 yuan a month for hard work.
03, my daughter refused: I can't get rid of my mother-in-law who has been with a baby for 6 years
Seeing Molly's ugly face, her parents also said with some praise, this money is not left for us to spend, your brother and sister-in-law culture is not high, the education is not high, the monthly income is also low, and you have to raise children to pay off the mortgage and car loan, the pressure is too great, we don't help it, they really can't survive.
Listening to her parents' explanations, Molly only knew that her parents were still going to go for their sons and grandchildren. Now Molly's money is not good to be deceived, parents want to use the grandson to ask for money, anyway, parents have also paid labor, daughters can not always watch their parents sleepless for money.
Molly looked at her husband, but her husband angrily threw his hands away and let Molly handle her mother's affairs by herself. Looking at the back of her husband's departure, Molly knew what to expect.
She coldly told her parents that when I asked you to take care of the next month, you said that whoever the child had the surname with, you would look for who to serve. Now I also return the original words, whose son who raises, I am not obliged. In addition, I can't get rid of my mother-in-law who has been with my baby for 6 years, you want to be a cow and a horse for your son, I won't stop you, but I won't have any more requests.
After Molly finished speaking, her parents really turned their faces, almost pointing at Molly's nose and scolding the white-eyed wolf. Having been asked for money too many times, Molly is now not at all afraid of her parents. From the time she began to earn money now, when she got married and had children, her parents asked her for 300,000 yuan before and after. And these money are basically subsidized to the younger brother.
Molly did not promise or give money, and her parents still wanted to mess up, but they saw her son-in-law go and return, and no matter how much she said, she could only swallow it into her stomach. As for how her parents scolded her for not having a conscience, Molly wasn't at all interested.
Parents feel sorry for their sons and want to fight for everything for their sons, which is beyond reproach. But she is also the child of her parents, and her savings from working for many years have also been given to her parents, are the parents still not satisfied?
Today's Topic:
How would you refuse a request from a patriarchal parent?
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